Anger And Managing Depression Posted: 12-06-07 17:38pm
I'm giving up. I've been depressed for
years now and was hoping once i was out of
this loveless relationship im in and got
my own place i would feel better, be able
to heal w/o the negativity. I've been
living with the mother of my 10 month old
and the only reason i tried to make it
work for for my sons benefit. we split up
the other month and have been riding the
lease out till the end of the year. now
she found a place subsidized by the gov't
and is in the process of moving while i
need to find a place by the newyear and am
prob stuck moving on a holiday what kills me is
her family is helping her move and get
settled in & I dont know who i can get
to help me as ive issolated myself being
with her and being depressed over the
years. she never asked for my help moving
so i figure she dont plan on helping me,
actually she plans on going up north to
her parents for almost a month right after
x-mas. i dont have the energy to look for
places let alone pack and move evrything,
im so stressed out i fell like there is
only 1 way out of this , plus i got laid
off this year too. im so unhappy and dont
see anything but misery and mmore stress
in my future
update : plus im full of anger ( which was
not even in my voc before) at her sister
who does nothing but sponge off the ex and
has always tried to and succeded in
ruining our relationship
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Mike East Texas
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Joined: 15 Nov 2007 Posts: 118 Location: Conroe, TX Montgomery
I Know Posted: 12-07-07 19:27pm
I am going through similar situations. I
find if I keep myself moving. Walk around
the park, or neigborhood helps. Do what
you are supposed to do. This is
opportunity is discise. You might find a
better paying job. You might find a job
that pays less,but gives more
satisfaction. When you do, you will meet
new people and make new friends, and
relationships. The key is, don't stop
moving. Moving during the holidays might
be better than to sulk at that time. Make
yourself a daily routine, and follow it.
Put finding a new job on that list.
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marvel
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Posted: 12-07-07 22:48pm
Don't end it by ending your life. You will
have a child who will never know what
his/her father was really like aside from
what other people tell him/her.
Additionally, take this whole huge mess as
a learning experience. You will survive
it. If you decide that you will pull
through... it will happen. I think that
once all of this junk you have going on in
your life is over, you will be happy.
You'll recognize opportunities as they are
presented... you'll be able to notice the
things that actually do make you feel
happy instead of justifiably wallowing in
everything that's going on.
You will be much stronger in the end as a
result of right now!
PS: Mike, well done!
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kymm
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Not Worth It Posted: 12-09-07 21:43pm
I know what you are going through. This
year i witnessed my husband of 20 year's
commit suicide in front of me and our
daughter. I went through a time for about
the 1st month, where Ithought about
killing myself. I knew I couldn't cause I
have two kid's ,a daughter-in-law and a
grandbaby. You may not think nothing is
worth living for,but you have a baby that
need's you, and will need to you when it's
growing up. People doesn't look at what it
does to the loved one's left behind. I was
a empty shell, I walked around in a daze
and I hurt so bad that at times I couldn't
even catch my breath. Thanksgiving was
hard, his b-day without him was very hard
and I'm not looking forward to
Christmas,but I will get through it.
Everyone has a purpose and everything has
a reasoning we just can't see it
sometimes. You need to be around people
,friends, family anyone that you can talk
to. You need to go and start doing thing's
for you and find youself. You can't sit
and think of all the bad it will literally
drive you insane. Just, think of that
baby , that should be your #1 concern.
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Hart74
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Just Want to End This Posted: 12-10-07 03:15am
If you think that your life is all misery
think again, you have a child not everyone
is as fortune as you to have one and of
others who wants to live but can't due to
illness - I am sorry if I sounds so rude
but then you're fortunate to have all
these. Take all these as part and parcel
of life. Let your anger out on something
like excersice believe me you'll feel
better don't bottle it up it's not
healthy.
what kills me is
her family is helping her move and get
settled in & I dont know who i can get
to help me as ive issolated myself being
with her and being depressed over the
years. she never asked for my help moving
so i figure she dont plan on helping me,
actually she plans on going up north to
her parents for almost a month right after
x-mas. i dont have the energy to look for
places let alone pack and move evrything,
im so stressed out i fell like there is
only 1 way out of this , plus i got laid
off this year too. im so unhappy and dont
see anything but misery and mmore stress
in my future 
