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marta12
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Pregnant... 14 Y.o
Posted: 12-06-07 19:24pm
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hello im marta im from spain and i got
pregnant by a guy who i dont know who is.
Im pregnant for 3 weeks and parents
doesńt know it. I havent go to the doctor
could i go to the doctor? :S i think my
belly is gowing. When my belly will be
more big? im very scared
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Posted: 12-06-07 19:38pm
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Has your pregnancy been confirmed? - You
need to go see a doctor.
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Electriceyes
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Posted: 12-06-07 19:40pm
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you don't know who the guy is? You should
tell your parents. It is very important. I
don't know how things work in Spain but
where I live you can go to the doctor on
your own. You should tell your parents
though because it is better that they go
with you to the doctor. Everyone starts to
show at different times. I didn't start to
show until about six months.. but you can
start showing with my experience i haven't
seen anyone start showing before 13-14
weeks.. good luck with telling your
parents and the rest of your pregnancy.
-Ashley
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mominashoe
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Posted: 12-06-07 19:50pm
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You should also have yourself checked for
STD's. Remember that honesty is the best
policy. If you don't tell your parents
now, they will find out soon enough. The
sooner you get the care and attention you
need, the better.
You will not be able to tell that your
belly is growing from the baby for a
while. Around two to three months, you
may start to show, not because of the
baby, but because of your bowels. No one
will be able to notice you are expecting
until you are 5 months along at the
earliest, depending on how tall you are,
your build, genetics, etc.
Don't be afraid. Once you have it all out
in the open and speak to your parents and
a doctor, you will feel much better and
won't be alone to handle it.
Good luck with the pregnancy.
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marta12
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Posted: 12-06-07 19:54pm
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thank you but i want to wait some more
time to tell to my parnets that im
pregnant and yes i have did the test im
pregnant 
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young Girl
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Posted: 12-06-07 20:33pm
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its danegrous to be sleeping around
you could have an std
you need to tell your parents NOW
why wait?
your not ready for this child. your
bringing a kid into an unfair situation
you could get an abortion or put the child
up for adoption? but if yiou want to get
an abortion your parents need to know asap
so the can help you
before its too late
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marta12
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Posted: 12-06-07 20:49pm
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i dont care i just want to past some more
time with my friends becaus my parents
will punishme
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mominashoe
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Posted: 12-06-07 22:29pm
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Of course they will. You are their
responsibility and now you have put a very
great burden on them because they will
have to take care of you and your child.
No matter how you look at it, from now on
life will be burdened by the fact that you
have not been responsible, and were
negligent about your own body and slept
around: not to mention that you are
responsible for what happens to the child
that you now bear.
The longer you wait to tell your parents,
the harder it will be to tell them later
on, and you put yourself and your baby at
a big risk by waiting for proper care.
If it's easier, write it down on paper,
and tell your parents that way, and you
will better be able to explain that you
are scared and need support, and you know
that you should be punished and have done
a serious wrong, but what you also need
right now is their love and support to
help you get through this. All parents,
no matter how strict, love their children
and will do what they think is the best
for them.
There's no time like the present to start
acting like a responsible person. You are
in a "grown-up" situation now, so grow up.
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young Girl
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Posted: 12-06-07 22:33pm
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| marta12
wrote: | | i dont care i just want to
past some more time with my friends becaus
my parents will punishme |
you dont care abut the health of that
baby?! how selfish and irrisponsible!!!
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Posted: 12-06-07 22:53pm
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Have you considered abortion? Or giving
it up for adoption?
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Altari
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Posted: 12-07-07 00:06am
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| the_girlfriend
wrote: | | marta12
wrote: | | i dont care i just want to
past some more time with my friends becaus
my parents will punishme |
you dont care abut the health of that
baby?! how selfish and
irrisponsible!!! |
OK, she's 14 give her a break. I don't think at
14 I was terribly cognizant of my own
health, let alone anyone else's. We all do
a lot of growing up, even non-parents,
between 14 and 17. It's a huge jump in
maturity in many ways.
Marta...I don't know what to say. Tell
your parents - or an aunt, or an adult
cousin. You NEED a real, live adult, and
not some people who, mostly, aren't even a
decade older than you on a message board
to help. Grandmothers are most girls gifts
from God. Are yours alive?
You need to have someone to help care for
you and your baby, because you really
aren't emotionally equipped to do it all
yourself. You wouldn't hide an injury for
fear of punishment, and you shouldn't hide
this.
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Katrinadoodle
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Posted: 12-07-07 03:44am
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| mominashoe
wrote: | | No one will be able to
notice you are expecting until you are 5
months along at the earliest, depending on
how tall you are, your build, genetics,
etc. |
I just have to point out that that's not
true, you could tell I was pregnant at 16
weeks.
Marta, I agree with everyone else. You
need to tell your parents.
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marta12
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Posted: 12-07-07 06:17am
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it's a very hard decision, I think i will
tell to my parents at monday thanks girls
i will tell u if a abort or I contunue the
pregnancy
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jessamyn
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Posted: 12-07-07 10:37am
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worried about punishment??? thats selfish
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Jude-Love
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Posted: 12-07-07 11:08am
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| jessamyn
wrote: | | worried about punishment???
thats selfish |
Why?
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 12-07-07 13:29pm
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I don't think she's selfish, I think she's
acting her age. This is why the worst
decision, in my opinion, would be for her
or someone like her to have the baby and
keep it. How can she possibly raise it?
She is still being raised by her parents!
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Jude-Love
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Posted: 12-07-07 13:31pm
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Yeah, I agree. She's reacting like a
child because she is a child. Teens are
selfish.
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Ingi
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Posted: 12-07-07 13:53pm
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| futureshock
wrote: | | I don't think she's selfish,
I think she's acting her age. This is why
the worst decision, in my opinion, would
be for her or someone like her to have the
baby and keep it. How can she possibly
raise it? She is still being raised by
her parents! |
Yes. When you have to worry about being
grounded, maybe pregnancy isn't the best
option.
However, she says she is pregnant. So now
she needs to deal with that aspect of it.
Be responsible and tell your parents.
Period. Not much else can be done.
Attempting to hide it will only end badly.
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young Girl
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Posted: 12-07-07 14:04pm
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a perfect example of why these kids
shouldnt be haveing sex in the first
place
you see this is the probelm.
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 12-07-07 14:21pm
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| the_girlfriend
wrote: | a perfect example of why
these kids shouldnt be haveing sex in the
first place
you see this is the
probelm. |
You are so right. How do we avoid this?
My daughter is 10, what kinds of things
can I say to her to avoid these
situations?
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