Hi,
This is my first post here..
I'm really sad. I'm in a weird situation.
I still live with my ex boyfriend. We
still sleep in the same bed. Neither of us
have gottten a new apartment because of
our financial situations.
I still have feelings for him. Its hard to
get over someone that you sleep in the
same bed with.
So the other day he goes to a work party
and doesn't come home until 24 hours
later. He says he stayed at a friends
house who lives in manhattan. That was a
few days ago. (he didn't tell me he
wouldn't be coming home, either).
Tonight he stayed at work late because he
says he has a lot to do. Ok fine. But now
he is staying at that same friend's
house.
Well I wouldn't be so worried about this
but he has been talking about some chick
who works there. He went so far as to look
for the dog biscuits (yes, dog biscuits)
she eats so he could try them. I don't
know if I'm really paranoid, but it seems
to me that he is probably at her place. I
don't know though. I could be jumping to
conclusions because I want so badly for
things to work out between us. All that I
know is that I'm really really sad and
wish that I knew what was going on.
If he told me he was dating, it would be
so much easier, you know? But this
speculation is killing me.
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Jude-Love
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Posted: 12-11-07 00:46am
You have to get out of this situation. It
isn't healthy for you and regardless of
whether or not you are seeing other people
or not sleeping together, the relationship
isn't entirely over. You need to move on
with your life and you can never do that
if you don't leave.
Can't you stay with your parents or some
friends? Maybe put an ad in the paper
that you're looking for roommates?
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sewer
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Posted: 12-11-07 01:13am
I want to but I dont have the means to
move out. I don't want to go stay with my
sister, just because. I guess I have this
hope that itll work out, but when you look
at everything as a whole, it wont seem to
resolve itself.
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young Girl
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Posted: 12-11-07 01:17am
please go stay with your sister
you may not WANT to but its whats best for
you
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morgiejade
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Posted: 12-11-07 01:26am
Best thing to do is to get out and away
and get yourself some space to think
without him there to distract you. With
you and him around each other all the time
youre going to feel stink, and he probably
feels sad too but wants you to think hes
getting over it.
Just get away and have some "YOU" time,
will make things easier.
AND if she eats dog biscuits, i wouldnt
worry too much, she sounds a little
bizzare to me.
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Jude-Love
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Posted: 12-11-07 01:30am
You don't want to stay with your sister
because you don't want to give up on the
relationship. But he is moving on. Don't
punish yourself by watching it happen.
Think about yourself! Your sister may be
just the person you need right now.
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anniek
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Posted: 12-11-07 09:03am
I agree, if you don't have the means to
move except with your sis then do it.
Staying with him is not healthy for you or
him. You need to get out and move on. If
you are with your sis for awhile you can
save up and concentrate on yourself.
Sounds like your not missing much by
losing him! Hope this all helps you!
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strawberi
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I Know How You Feel Posted: 12-11-07 09:29am
My ex and I were together for 7 years.
Yup, it was that long. We were planning
to get married right after med school.
Somehow along the way, we drifted apart.
I really wanted our relationship to work.
To make the long story short, he broke up
with me and I let him. I knew both of us
were not happy but I wasn't ready to move
on. It actually took me more than a year
to feel like I can finally move on. I
eventually found out he left me for a
'good friend' of ours and it did really
add to the pain I felt. But life goes on,
as the cliche goes. It's not going to be
easy, but eventually you'll get over him.
Just walk away. Holding on to him won't
do you any good.
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