I Just Dont Know

That's really all I can say baby girl.

I hope things work out soon

I know. All couples go through crap... hopefully your boy'll get his head out of his ass before he loses you.

Have you talked to him about it?

Or try and sit down and just write everything out. That's usually what I do when I have problems with Jacob. I can't talk to him without me getting up set and him leaving for a bit.... which doesn't solve anything. So I go on myspace and pour everything out in a private blog. When he's calmed down and ready to talk, he;ll go read what I wrote, and we'll go from there. You can try that if talking is too much right now... and you can organize it to make sure you cover everything you're feeling, too, which is harder to do when you're talking face to face.

I'm lost hun what happened? PM me if you want to chat

Aw I'm so sorry you have to deal with this Suzy! I'm always here to talk if you need to.

I'm hoping for your sake he realizes what he's done and doesn't do it again. But this has gone on for what...2 days now?

I hope you're sleeping now and maybe he'll have a decent conversation with you tomorrow. (((Hugs)))

Everyone's relationships change after they have a baby, me and Dom fought practically non stop for a month, ok it was my fault and i'll admit that, i was jelous of him being able to get a break and go home because i was a mum 24/7, no one changed her when Dom wasn't here but me, no one fed her, no one cleaned up after her, no one bathed her or got her to sleep, always me. I didn't stop to think that Dom was finding it hard not being with us 24/7. Once we both realised what the other was thinking it got better.
When Kristen is asleep and you know she'll be down for a while tell him you need to talk and do not let him move or say a word until you've got it all out and then let him have his turn

me and bobby had a few problems when william came into the world. having a baby is a big step and bobby got scared. i was basically doing everything and felt tired and worthless. he missed home and all his friends so he took advantage of that and went over a few times a week. it got better with the two of us after we sat down and talked. you need to talk to travis and see how he's feeling

no matter how you feel...NONE of this is your fault, your not the one who is acting like a child, you both decided to have a baby so you both should have to grow up, youve held up your end its his turn

~alicia~

This isn't your fault Suzy. You could never have known that Travis was going to start acting like a child. He needs to grow up and start thinking of someone other than himself. He has to learn that first and foremost Kristen comes first.

Maybe you could go stay with your mom for a little bit to let things cool off. Then you will get some time with your family, your family will get some time with Kristen and you will get a little break from it all.

You are a wonderful mother and it shows. Despite all that is going on, you are thinking about others. That is what mothers do.

((Hugs))

(((((((HUGS)))))))) I hope things get better for you Suzy. This is probably gonna be rough like this for a few weeks. I think it's all probably just his way of adjusting to this new life. Don't get me wrong, I'm not on "his side" or saying he's right and you're wrong! I'm not saying that at all! But just give it time and talk to him. This is a HUGE adjustment not only for you but him too! I think mommies adjust better because you have the whole 9 months with this baby inside of you so I think we start adjusting from day one. And the daddy's start probably from the days they're born. He no longer has that "care-free, spur of the moment girlfriend anymore. And that's ok! You can't be that anymore. But i's just gonna take some getting use to for the both of you. Just talk to him and be patient with him. I'm sure everything will work out. .......Plus having the baby blues after birth dosen't help at all either! I think most couples go through this with their 1st child, and maybe 2nd, 3rd,4th.......

Well good luck to ya! I hope things soon get better for ya!

What am I missing here? What has he done that was so horrible Suzy?

Ok, sweetie, you need to be gentle. There are a very LOT of hormones leaving your system right now and the new addition is a HUGE stress. This is not anything against Kristen. This is about babies IN GENERAL. They are a lot of work. Taking care of a baby takes up a lot of time you and Travis used to formerly spend with each other. You went from just a month ago being 'irresponsible teenagers' (you know what I mean, it isn't derogatory!) to being PARENTS. The transition is hard NO MATTER what your age OR circumstances. It is a difficult adjustment and, honestly, a singular incident is not reason to drop the entire relationship. This is a reason for both of you to sit down and talk about what you expect from each other and your relationship.

Your relationship has now, officially, changed. You cannot go back to what you had before because neither of you is the person you were before you had a baby. You have to stand up for what you believe in, what you want for yourself and what you want together as a family.

It is not going to be easy. Life seldom is.

(((hugs)))

I hope everything gets better Suzy. Shane & I fought like crazy for the first 2-3 months after Kaylee was born. There was a few times I was on here asking for advice on whether I should leave him or not. He wouldn't help with Kaylee, housework, anything. Babies are so so hard on relationships, I was told the whole time I was pregnant that having a baby was either going to make or break Shane & I as a couple. It almost broke us a few times but things definitely got better. I agree with Rachel on just giving it time & talking to him about everything. I hope it all works out for you. Good luck!

thanks so much everyone
its nice to know that people have gone through the same thing

o suzy i knew this would come once kristen came. boys can be so insensitive. Actually your gunna think im crazy but o my way to lunch today i hadnt got on the forum yet and i was thinking, i hope suzy and travis are doing ok. It reminds me of my grandparents and their friends. they have both been together since they were 16. my grandparents friends got pregnant right out of high school and decided to get married. ive heard stories and she wonders still if they hadnt had their son if they would have made it. My grandparents didnt have kids til they were older but before they did they were gunna split and then they found out they were pregnant. I know for a fact if macy hadnt come along steven and i wouldnt be together. Theres a lot of different possibilities and you shouldnt be the only one trying to hold yall together, if its going to work you both have to put forth the effort. Kristen cant be your glue. if he doesnt want to work on himself than maybe its better for you and kristen to go for a while and maybe hell come to his senses. but maybe he wont. this should be whats best for you and your daughter not his mom. ok my posts getting long. pm if ya wanna talk about it believe me ive been there.