24 Year Old Virgin Needs Help!! Posted: 12-15-07 03:55am
I'm a 24 year old virgin and i am a guy.
why aren't i posting this on the guys
site, while you my understand as well. i
like my films, music, pubs (when i can). i
don't condiser myself medical question
ugly, a little overweight. i was 21 stone,
now im 18 stone. Back when i was at school
i had a few girls who i knew but they
wanted to stay as 'friends', that pissed
me off. maybe it was me and i didn't push
enough but i think they latched onto me to
get to my friends. But my problem is i
feel like going mad, everywhere i go i
seem to see porn or sex. i masturbate
everyday, it does my nut. Its on my brain
all the time. I just wanna do it and get
it off my brain, i know i should wait for
that someone but i dont care. Although I
think i could do quite well at it, from
what i've read and seen. I just want some
one who understands, whos in my shoes from
the oppsite sex. If someone wants to chat
via facebook or msn, just reply below.
PS. I know this isn't a chat forum but
people on this forum seem to take issues
seriously. thanks for reading.
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karabearva
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Joined: 28 Dec 2007 Posts: 9 Location: New Hampshire, New England-USA
Posted: 12-28-07 14:01pm
Don't get sucked into the porno thing. It
will mess you up for life!!! Don't beat
yourself up for masturbating, but don't
fantasize about anonymous women during it
either, (another form of pornography that
will mess up your future relationships and
the sex life you have with your wife).
Treasure your virginity and use this time
to work on yourself and stive to be the
best man your wife could want.
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the cheshire cat
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Joined: 02 Jan 2008 Posts: 9
Posted: 01-02-08 06:10am
It's not a bad thing to be a virgin. And
"just doing it" to get it off you brain
doesn't help. I think that you should wait
until you meet the right person. I'm a
virgin and as happy as can be, still
waiting for the right somebody to come my
way. Be proud of being a virgin and only
having sex with the woman you love.
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Rosie H
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Posted: 01-02-08 12:36pm
Yes do not have sex until you meet the
right person. And I dont think porn is a
bad thing and I have had great
relationships where we watched porn
together. If you are secure about
youself, your partner and your
relationship then porn can be fun and
exciting.
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the cheshire cat
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Joined: 02 Jan 2008 Posts: 9
Posted: 01-02-08 18:53pm
Its just my personal opinion, but i
dissagree with porn in relationships as it
shifts the focus onto pleasing yourself
rather than your partner.
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JASMlNE
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Posted: 03-07-08 22:23pm
Why don't you just pay for sex then?
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musicdiva1331
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Posted: 03-18-08 00:07am
Jasmine, that was rude and uncalled for.
To the beginning poster, don't just give
it away to give it away. I was one of
those girls who grew up intending to be a
virgin until my wedding night. Last year
(my first year of college) I met a guy and
just went down hill so fast. I don't
regret losing my virginity, but I do
regret losing it to HIM. don't just give
it up. watch the 40 year old virgin, it
says a lot about the situation . you'll find
someone! I know, i'm "the friend" too. it
SUUUUCKS, but on the bright side, my
relationships never become akward and when
I finally find a spectacular guy, I won't
take it for granted!
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Lisa86
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Posted: 03-24-08 09:47am
I lost my virginity for the sake of losing
it, my best friend always made me feel
pathetic for not having sex and found it
funny to tell people which made me feel
embarrassed - i was 17. so one night wen
we were out i had a one night stand with
some random guy. i hated myself for ages
after. anyway i got rid of that 'friend'
of mine and started over. dont feel
pressured into anything a girl will have
more respect for u for saving urself
rather then u having slept around.
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marvin5
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worry Posted: 03-30-08 12:20pm
don't worry. you will know when it is
right. problem is, too many are doing it
these days. diseases can be forever, such
as HERPES. You don't want one. I always
say: have the girl do her blood work
first and show you the results. you can
also go do that and show her. your time
will come. masturbation is normal.
don't make watching porn a habit it can
interfere with real relationships.
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ladyT02
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Posted: 04-10-08 00:44am
god i waited s long as i could and finally
said whatever im getting rid of my
virginity lol i was 22 when i lost it to
my boyfriend at the time. and no i didnt
feel bad,dirty, etc like most people. i
even told my mom why i had jus wanted to
get rid of it. she didnt flip she was
supportive. now im in a loving
relationship andno jus cause i acted so
non chalant about losing it did it turn me
into some promiscous person. im 24 and ive
only had 3 sexual partners its really your
choice if you want to wait a little longer
or jus get it over and done with.
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Benz35
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Dont listen to them Posted: 04-10-08 01:23am
Get out there
go to some clubs
and get some girls
dont waste ur time with porn
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danielv
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Posted: 04-10-08 02:07am
i wouldn't dwell so much on your virginity
or social status.
it's not such a big deal one way or the
other, but if you're having trouble
finding someone that you can connect with,
take a look at what's stopping you. what
is holding you back? is it the way you
feel about yourself? how can you change
that?
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Mikolas
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Posted: 04-16-08 16:59pm
As most of these said, there is nothing
wrong about being a virgin. But maybe
perhaps you have been deprived for too
long and that isn't any consolation so if
you really gotta lose it, just go out
there and socialize more. It really isn't
that hard to "get some". Especially in
college life -_- .
Beating the meat every day isn't exactly a
good thing from what I've heard. It can
lead to desensitizing of the penis and you
can only achieve climax from masturbation
and not via sex with another partner.
Moderation is best.
It sounds like you really want to lose it,
and I don't think you are at a point where
any of us can deter you and possibly wait
some more months/years for that "special
someone". So, go out there and meet some
girls. Just remember to use protection,
and don't expect too much on your first
time.
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butterfly_319
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Joined: 27 Jun 2008 Posts: 4
Posted: 07-05-08 08:14am
im a virgin and i have the same feeling,
like its always on my mind, i live with
other studenst who have had sex, and talk
about it all the time, and i just sit
there in the corner feeling so left out. i
have thought to myself that i just want to
get it over and done with, so i haven
experiences to share and dont feel so
silly.
but i have been thinking, and your
virginity is someone so special to you,
treasure it, please dont give it away to
anyone. if your in a relationship and one
of you is a virgin then you are
resepected, if you go out to clubs, all
the want is sex and nothing more. take
your time, please dont feel ashamed, its
something you should be proud of, im
proud. its something that not many people
i know have. thats what makes me
differnent, its frustrating because people
think that people who havent had sex know
nothing about it, thats why we get so
frustrated, just because we havent had it,
doesnt mean we dont know whats involved
right?..
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StacyHoll
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Posted: 07-05-08 09:12am
Wait till you meet someone special then
you can learn with her LOL and she will
understand if you really really suck the
first few times. .
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gumby
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Posted: 08-10-08 22:07pm
Hey man I was in your shoes just a year
ago. I was struggling to lose my virginity
at 23. I ended up having a couple one
night stands at the bar. Afterwards I felt
so much different but better. I felt more
natural reaching out to people and
followed up with more dating. I was really
uncomfortable around women in the
beginning and felt I was always going to
lose out on women.
Finding your life partner takes skills and
courage. Too many people sugar coat
finding your love. But for guys you need
to learn how to escalate a relationship
and set the course for the both of you.
You have to learn how to take it to the
next level. There are very logical ways of
doing this. I've done a lot of self help
and have made nearly every dating mistake
imaginable. Any questions, give me a
ring.
. you'll find
someone! I know, i'm "the friend" too. it
SUUUUCKS, but on the bright side, my
relationships never become akward and when
I finally find a spectacular guy, I won't
take it for granted!
