I Have Feelings For My Same Sex Friends I Dont No Wat to Do. Posted: 12-15-07 17:20pm
Im 18 i already suffer from depression im
on efexcor for it for 9 years now. I cant
help the way i feel they're strait n im
not. I just feel so lonely i cant tell
them how i feel or ill lose them as
friends. I have no confidence n im not
open about my sexuality bcoz my friends
wouldn take it very well.
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marvel
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Posted: 12-16-07 01:18am
hi, indeedio.
I'm Zak. I had a very similar experience
during my teenage years. I can remember
having feelings for some of my straight
friends, and being incredibly depressed as
a result. It's so much harder to have
feelings for someone of the opposite
sexual orientation. There's so much more
at stake, especially if you're not open
with your sexuality just yet. You know
they won't have feelings for you back.
Furthermore, you know that it would put
you and your friend in an awkward
position. On top of that, you have a good
feeling of how they'd take the news of
your sexuality: not well. It's so
overwhelming, isn't it?
I remember thinking constantly about the
consequences of telling one of my straight
friends how I felt about him. It was very
difficult.
You know what, though? I'll be perfectly
honest with you. Friends who don't accept
you for who you are, aren't good friends
in the first place. They should love you
regardless.
I'm very glad you came here though! I
didn't have anyone to talk to... not even
ehealth! If you ever need someone to talk
to about what you're going through, never
be afraid to private message me. I'm here
to listen.
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CarolDiane
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Posted: 12-16-07 06:14am
I totally agree with marvel. You need to
change you life around and finally come
out and start hanging with friends like
you. You will feel much better. You will
have more of a chance of finding someon
who could possibly be a future mate for
you and enjoy yourself while going down
that road. Coming out is one of the
hardest things to do,but, once you have
done it, you will feel like a mountain has
been taken off your shoulders. I am
straight, but in my younger adult years
most of my best friend were either bi or
gay. I loved hangin out with a gay guy..
They are so much more fun to be around. I
did not hang around the the girls much.
I say, come on out, and injoy your life
while you still can. So you loose a few
friends, big deal. Thier loss IMHO.
Remember, you are now on a board where we
are all friends and take care of each
other. We don't care who or what your
prefferences are. We are here for you!
marvel! You can talk to me love
anytime.
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silvrdark
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Joined: 18 Dec 2007 Posts: 3 Location: ,
Posted: 12-18-07 22:24pm
I understand. I've struggled with those
feelings myself over the years, and they
have been a source of conflict and
depression. I've never quite known how to
deal with the feelings I have for other
women. It's a scary thing, isnt it?
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JYoungBear
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Joined: 01 Dec 2007 Posts: 145 Location: , MA
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Posted: 12-23-07 11:23am
As a 30 year old gay man that is still in
the closet, I can definitely feel for you
in regards to coming out. I struggled
through my teens and 20s with how I really
felt, am I straight/gay/bi/, etc. I did
have girlfriends in the past, and they did
not do it for me. I was dating a guy, and
that has helped me to be able to accept
myself more as a gay man, and through him,
met quite a few friends that are making my
courage to come out grow more and more
each day. Some may say that being in the
closet is living a lie, but that to me
just sounds as though they don't know half
the issues GLBT people face with their
alternative lifestyle.
What I am preparing for is the acceptace /
loss when I do come out. I have my plans
of doing so that are slowly coming in
place, and I plan to tell alot of people
at once (friends and family). I am
mentally preparing for the consequences
that can arise.
The one thing I can say is, when the time
is right, you will know it, and once
everything is said and done, I am sure you
will feel much better about everything.
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Ichigos_Passion
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Joined: 13 Mar 2008 Posts: 16 Location: Blaine, MN U.S
Posted: 03-14-08 18:28pm
If your friends can't take it very well,
they're not very good friends! My friends
all accepted me right away because we all
have a mutual understanding out each
other. Just be strong!
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homerx
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Re: I Have Feelings For My Same Sex Friends I Dont No Wat to Do. Posted: 03-20-08 17:04pm
indeedio
wrote:
Im 18 i already suffer from
depression im on efexcor for it for 9
years now. I cant help the way i feel
they're strait n im not. I just feel so
lonely i cant tell them how i feel or ill
lose them as friends. I have no confidence
n im not open about my sexuality bcoz my
friends wouldn take it very
well.
Hi...I have posted a GLBT Youth and Mental
Health thread that you may want to read.
Its in this forum,check it out and I hope
it helps.
Your OK just the way you are. There is
nothing wrong with being true to your self
and being Gay is good, it is nothing to be
ashamed of. A true friend will love you no
matter what. Good Luck to you.
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