Should An X Know About U And Your Partners Relationship? Posted: 12-20-07 21:43pm
Well my curiosity is sparked due to my
best guy friend orposing to his girl! Aww.
I was at work today and was daydreaming
bout my guy and the possible future we
mite have together lol I was wondering if
the ex has any rite in this whole world to
know what happens in our relationship? I
don't think so personally and many of you
mite agree or disagree.
For example, when we move, if we get
engaged, have kids, buy a house etc get a
dog lol
I dreamed last nite that we got engaged
and he went off and told his baby mama and
I was furious. Naturally... But that he
ended up inviting her, there was drama and
the party etc and I woke up angry but
laughing lol what do you guys think? Would
you Let your guy or girl go around letting
their exs kno bout what happens in your
relationship?
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bluelace12
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Posted: 12-20-07 21:53pm
in my opinion...it's none of the ex's
business. My boyfriend's ex IMs him
sometimes and asks about us...like she is
always interested to as if we've had sex
yet...and she just recently got married
(labor day weekend) and she is pregnant,
and she invited my boyfriend to the
wedding....it kind of pissed me off. Also,
last summer, when he was in his
hometown....her parents were outside...so
he stopped in to see them...and she ended
up coming by later....at least he was
honest and told me about it...but it still
pissed me off...why would he even stop at
her parents house in the first
place?...They dated for about 3 years
total...they broke up for like 3 months
somewhere in those 3 years...he hates her
now though...she cheated on him with his
best friend. But anyway, I think it's none
of the ex's business what goes on in your
life.
I don't think an ex has a right to know
what you are doing (though websites like
myspace make stalking easier). No one (exs
included) has a right to know what you do
not want them to know and if someone from
the past came and asked anything more
specific than "How are you doing?" it
would just be a little creepy.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 12-21-07 15:11pm
A right to know?
Of course not. But if my boyfriend was
still pretty close with an ex then I could
really care less. Obviously I wouldn't
want the really personal details in the
conversation, but if he's just saying that
everything's great blah blah blah... i
don't mind. Now if an ex came up demanding
for details on the relationship because
she was with him before and she has a
right to know I'd laugh in her face.
Invited to my wedding? Eh, I wouldn't be
thrilled to see any of my guys past
girlfriends but I wouldn't let it ruin my
big day.
And my ex likes to butt in on my
relationship. If its nothing too personal
I just tell him the truth, if it is
personal(like have you had sex yet) then I
tell him its none of his business then I
usually stop talking to him for awhile
because like whaturmuva said-- it's a
little creepy.
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young Girl
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Posted: 12-21-07 15:14pm
i dont think its anyones buisnes but
yours. if an ex wants to know
something:why?
lol
i dont get it
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Maddie34
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Posted: 12-21-07 15:21pm
The only acceptable reason I can think of
is because your still close friends with
an ex-- if that's the case then what's the
big deal with them knowing if you're
engaged or whatever?
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young Girl
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Posted: 12-21-07 15:22pm
Maddie34
wrote:
The only acceptable reason I
can think of is because your still close
friends with an ex-- if that's the case
then what's the big deal with them knowing
if you're engaged or
whatever?
oh yeah in that scenario i can see that.
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ladyT02
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Posted: 12-21-07 19:41pm
I was asking cause my boyfriend is the
type to tell everything that's going on
lol he told his baby momma that we had
moved in together, etc. Things I didn't
want her to find out about. So now I'm
always having to make sure that I ask him
not to tell her anything or else he.ll
blab it all out lol he.s doing a lot
better after I asked him to totally leave
everthing out us to her. Its like if I got
pregnant I wouldn't want her to kno. Yea I
kno I'm evil for thinking that lol
