Unable to give boyfriend an orgasm Posted: 12-21-07 13:08pm
I wasn't sure whether to put this in this
forum, or the sexual health for men forum
- as it refers to me not being able to
satisfy my boyfriend, and not just that,
but not able to satisfy my previous
boyfriends either.
It's highly embarrassing, and my boyfriend
and I have tried to talk about it - but
nothing seems to work. I'm unable to
satisfy him at all, through oral,
penetrative sex, using my hands, toys -
anything. He simply can't orgasm, and it
pained him to say it but he has only ever
had this problem with me.
The same thing goes for my previous
boyfriends. They could satisfy
themselves, other women in their pasts had
managed it, but I couldn't.
I don't know what I'm doing wrong, my
boyfriend's walked me through what he
likes - guiding my hands, mouth etc. but
he says there's no feeling when I do it.
Could it be a mental block I have?
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womaninpain
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jul 2007 Posts: 179
Posted: 12-23-07 22:36pm
There are so many reasons why this could
be happening. Personally I can't satisfy
my husband with oral...why because he
doesn't like the way I do it and that's
fine with me honestly because I hate doing
it anyway lol. But seriously he can guide
me all he wants and I still end up doing
it my way not meaning to but I do. Try out
just laying there when you are having sex
and letting him do all the work but get
into it as well. Just don't try so hard.
Sometimes when we try too hard at things
we fail.
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young Girl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 12-23-07 23:33pm
i personally think its a mental block you
have during this activity.has anything
sexually traumatic happened to you?
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Azuki
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Dec 2007 Posts: 14 Location: , UK
Posted: 12-27-07 16:33pm
I used to have that problem with my
current boyfriend, you just have to
experiement, try looking up techniques
online and try them out.
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Lico
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Oct 2007 Posts: 19 Location: Phoenix, AZ U.S.
Posted: 12-29-07 17:04pm
This is coming from a guy perspectives, so
I hope this helps:
-When you guys have sex, do you ever try
to talk dirty to him? If not, you should
try it because by talking dirty, it could
help build up the excitment in him and
give your sex lives a bigger thrill. Many
girls feel uncomfortable trying it because
some say they don't know how, or they do
no want to embarass themselves in front of
their lovers. But I highly recommend you
should give it a shot.
-Also, when you guys make love, does he
have to tell you what position he wants or
vice versa? If you guys do that, then
maybe you should be more sponatenous about
it. For instance, if your changing
positions then you should immediately go
to the one he likes or the one you perfer.
Sometimes guys would prefer it if the girl
is incharge by taking control on what
positions they want. That might excite him
as well. I hope this helps.
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