Joined: 20 Dec 2007 Posts: 46 Location: ypsilanti, michigan, usa
I Dont Leave Any Man Alone With My Daughter... Posted: 12-25-07 01:03am
My fiance and I have been together for a
little while now, I have a two year old
daughter named Harmony from a previous
relationship, he has no children.
Harmony"s biological father is a total
deadbeat!! He isnt in her life, he doesnt
pay child support, he doesnt care. Jim(my
fiance) makes sure she has everything she
needs, spends time with her, makes her
feel loved... well she has begun to call
him daddy, she loves him as much as i
do... but i have been taught by my parents
to watch men around little girls and never
to put men before your children... I dont
think Jim would ever do anything to hurt
my daughter, he is a wonderful man, He has
just turned 40yrs old, and I am 20, he has
been a firefighter for 10 years, and he is
my soulmate... but because of how ive been
raised i'm scared to leave ANY guy alone
with my little harmony for the fear of
something happening to her that could have
been prevented... I mean I was appalled a
couple weeks ago when I saw a story on the
news about a guy who raped his 9 day old
daughter, and she died from internal
bleeding... I am so sure that Jim would
never ever hurt her, but I am still
fearful, am i wrong for feeling this way?
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Roberta777
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Your Child Harmony Posted: 12-25-07 02:19am
Is loved by you and it sounds like your
man is a good guy. Just look at his work
history. A firefighter sounds like a hero
to me. I believe he will be a hero to you
and Harmony.
We live in a world where there are so many
dangers and scary things. It would be a
better world if we could just trust more.
Trust your man. I bet he is a good one.
A keeper.
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gingerelizabeth
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Joined: 03 Jan 2008 Posts: 79
Posted: 01-15-08 08:50am
if your going to marry him you need to
trust him with your daughter
if you cant trust him alone with her the
marriage would never work.
so follow your heart and if you dont think
he'll do it he wont.
there are few people out there who would
do such sick things.
it is nice to know there are parents like
you out there though.
I'm not in your situation, because i am
with my kids' father, but if i were i
would probably be just as cautious as you
are. I don't blame you one bit!
It may be over-protective, but i'd rather
be than find out a few years down the road
that because of my actions(or lack of), my
child has been molested.
If he loves you, he will understand.
I applaud you, Gabby!
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MissElizabeth
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Joined: 16 Jan 2008 Posts: 15 Location: Bowling Green, Ohio United States
Posted: 01-16-08 20:44pm
i feel the same way. i am with my kids'
father but, even with his uncles and
cousins i do not trust ANYONE around my
kids except me and their father. its a
terrible world now with terrible people in
it, even people who have been married 10 -
20 years, have kids, and find out, the dad
has been molesting his sons and daughters
all along. Its sad, but the girl above has
a point, its better to be over protective,
than to be regretful in the end.
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lilla
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Joined: 02 Feb 2008 Posts: 1
Posted: 02-02-08 15:38pm
if you have a bad feeling then ya never
leave your daughter alone w/any
man.because a molestor comes in all shapes
and sizes.
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spyrogirlkim
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Posted: 03-29-08 15:56pm
I have 3 daughters and I never left them
alone with there Dad either.My oldest's
Father Sperm doner whatever I still don't
trust and she is 17.He was never there for
her.I met my current hubby when my oldest
was 8 months old.We have 2 daughters
together and I explained when we got
together why I wont leave the kids alone
with him.He understood.Besides protecting
the kids you are protecting you hubby(if
some nosey body tries to cause nasty
trouble with bad rumors) this happened to
us.We worked through it and I told Judge
there was no way cause I wont leave the
girls alone with a Man.I had bad experance
is my reasons.I never want my girls to go
through what I went through as a child.You
are a great Mom for being like this.If
your Man loves you he will
understand.Especially when he relizes you
trust him but not everyone else.A rummor
or trouble like that can ruin a good
family that never deserved it to begin
with.Its just dirty minds and jellous PPL.
