Should I Let An Older Guy Break My Virginty Posted: 12-25-07 01:09am
i have a friend he is 4 years older than i
am we talk and i asked is he still a
virgin he said no i said i'm still one he
asked could he be my first i really don't
know if i should let him i am 14 years old
and my period haven't started yet but he
might have something. which i doubt he is
very handsome. but please help what should
i do.
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Maji
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Posted: 12-25-07 01:27am
ok, if he's been with someone, he's a
candidate for having an STD.
being handsome has nothing to do with it;
super models get STD's too!
anyone can get them!
and you cant just go giving your virginity
to anyone, there's gotta be something
there. You'll feel terrible later if you
just hand it to him.
If you were in a relationship and in love,
it wouldn't be as wrong,
only he'd still be in a position to be
accused of statuatory rape.
You're a minor and he's an adult.
It was wrong of him to even ask if he
could take your virginity.
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gabby734
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Statutory Rape Posted: 12-25-07 01:34am
he is considered an adult if you become
sexually active with him, he could get
some time and be branded as a sex offender
for the rest of his life.... Plus once you
let it go you never get it back, its a
gift use it wisely.... "hold on to your
innocent, use ur common sense... your
worth waiting for" blessings come with
patience
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Flurries in the air
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Posted: 12-25-07 01:34am
u shouldnt sleep with him....yeah sounds
great to me. When you give someone your
virginity you cant take it bak no matter
how much u want to. And he will play u
like a toy and throw you away. So naw dont
do it.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 12-25-07 11:48am
HOLY... is this post for real? NO, don't
have sex, not with him, not with ANYONE!!!
You're TOO YOUNG. If you don't even have
your period yet then you're not even
biologically READY for sex. You're still a
child. Children should not have sex;
that's called pedophelia. This man is sick
in the head. You need to report him to the
police for even suggesting sex with you!!
Tell your parents, tell a school
counselor, tell anyone!! I fear for your
safety.
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lightweight
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Posted: 12-26-07 14:17pm
He pretty much wants to take ur virginity
for the novelty of it (sick!), and I'm
pretty sure he doesn't love u. Is he even
your boyfriend? If he's 18, then he should
know better, and I definitely think he is
taking advantage of you. DON'T DO IT!!
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Rosie H
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Posted: 12-26-07 14:30pm
Please dont give this man something as
special as your viginity. He just sees
this as a opportunity to have a young girl
that hasnt been touched. A lot of older
men, well all men who want to have sex
with kids, just see this as a game.
You deserve to be with someone who will
appreciate you and your body. Please make
it special. he sounds like he is just
trying to pressure you into it. Please
dont fall for the pressure to have sex. I
gave up my virginity when I was 13 and I
gave it to my 1st puppy love. He was 18.
I never saw or heard from him again. he
used and abused me then threw me away.
I can never get that back, ever........
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Melina
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Posted: 12-26-07 14:45pm
WOW... Question, where are your
parents???? Listen 14 year old girls
should be focusing on school. I know you
feel grown but in reality you are not.
Ask yourself is he worth for you to get
pregnant, or get sick??? Is he going to
support you if any of those things
happen??? Now if you ask him those
questions he'll say yes, but he doesn't
mean it. Men will do anything to get in
your pants... face it he is 18 you are 14
do the math... I'm 24 years old on my
third child, do you really want to
sacrifice your youth to raise a baby...
what about your future. Trust me sex can
wait... and you are worth the wait.
REPORT THAT S.O.B
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jaynemae
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Posted: 01-02-08 01:59am
also, having sex that young can put you at
a higher risk of getting cervical cancer.
you don't want that, either.
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samba88
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Posted: 01-02-08 02:05am
Sex should be the last thing on a 14 year
old mind, dont be like every lil mistake
the walks the halls of your high school,
dont let some guy talk you in to a few
minutes of him getting an easy lay, be
smart, and the RIGHT guy will come along,
VERY later VERY. i hope youve
learnedsomething from the magnitude of the
other replies fom this.
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bettyboo302
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Posted: 01-02-08 03:26am
I diffidently think you should not do
that, please. To speak on what was said
earlier about the stds. Look don't take a
chance, it is nothing to play with, I
KNOW. You would never want that in your
life as much as you may seem "cool" or
"fit in", don't do it. And don't just give
it up to no one until you know them and
you know they will treat you right. It may
sound cool, or you may just want to fit
in, but from experience it is not all you
think it is to be. Be careful. I know you
don't know me or what i go through in life
but i messed up, or rather should I say I
made a mistake, but i suffer everyday from
an std, and its not just cool. It has
messed up my life. Please don't do it. I
know you have to be beautiful and think
about that. All i'm saying is to me it
would be a better choice not to do it.
Please be careful and take care. If you
have more questions about me please feel
free to ask.
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impulser23
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Posted: 01-02-08 04:08am
Yea definately do not have sex with this
man. He is 18 one year younger then me but
god ur 14! When i was 14 i was doing good
in my biology class studying for regents,
and SAT(im chinese so my parents had me on
a leash). Also ur virginty is only there
once. You lose you there goes innocense. I
didnt lose my virginity till i met my gf 2
month ago, im 19. And plus that guy cant
be too smart to ask u to have sex with him
when he knows he can be liable for rape.
Plus another very important thing that i
learned from losing my virginity to a
loving gf is that sex happens when 2
people care about each other, it isnt like
porn when those girls and guys moan and
groan like banshies, but it has passion in
it. It shouldnt require the other person
to have to ask you to have sex. If this
guy really likes you then he wouldnt need
to ask, and you wouldnt need to be posting
in this forum if u loved him back.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 01-02-08 17:14pm
jaynemae
wrote:
also, having sex that young
can put you at a higher risk of getting
cervical cancer. you don't want that,
either.
Iie. As much as I like giving teens more
reasons to abstain, that sounds like false
information. If you can find some
reputable sources proving this, I'll
consider it.
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jaynemae
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Posted: 01-02-08 17:31pm
i actually read it one of those pamphlets
at the dr's office. i found some info
online though to back me up a little bit.
"You will quite often hear that women who
have a lot of different sex partners or
women who started having sex young are
more likely to get cervical cancer. But
really, this is only true because the more
men you have sex with and the earlier you
start having sex, the more likely you are
to pick up an infection with a high risk
(cancer causing) human papilloma virus
(HPV). And so then you are more at risk
of developing cervical cancer.
It is not correct to say that women who
get cervical cancer have it because they
were promiscuous (slept around). After
all, you could have only slept with one
man and still caught the virus if he had
it. If he's had lots of partners, that
will increase your risk because it
indirectly exposes you to possible sexual
infections from lots of other people."
"Women who started having sex at a young
age (before age 1 or who have had
multiple sexual partners are at increased
risk for contracting HPV, a risk factor
for cervical cancer."
okay, no she probably wont get cervical
cancer just from sex, but if her partner
has a disease. he told her that he has
already had sex, and i doubt that he would
be her last partner. this is just some
info, if you want more, let me know.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 01-02-08 17:36pm
I'm still wondering why exactly women who
have sex under age 18 are more at risk for
contracting HPV. The second link isn't
working.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 01-02-08 17:50pm
Because they're less likely to use
protection? I'm not sure. Or maybe because
if you start young you will probably have
more sex by age 30 than most?
I'm just guessing. There's no way that
younger girls are simply more at risk
unless it has to do with other factors,
like protection.
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jaynemae
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Posted: 01-02-08 18:08pm
from the sites that i was looking at it
said because people who start having sex
young are more likely to have more
partners and that increases the number of
times the chance to get an std, also the
number of times s/he may have unprotected
sex. the original info i got from that
pamphlet was from 2 years ago (when i
started going in for pap smears) and may
have had different info from it. the main
thing that stuck out in my brain was that
having sex before 18 increases your
chances of getting cervical cancer. it
also had a section of having sex before 15
could cause other problems. i still do
not believe my previous post was a lie. a
little less informed, but not a lie. even
those links i put said that one would be
more likely to get cervical cancer if she
had sex before 18. granted, i'm not
telling everyone to wait until they are
18, but that the sooner they have sex may
increase their chances of getting an std
or something worse. i was just putting
out what info i knew. sorry if i upset
anyone, i was just trying to help.
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mrsJ
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Posted: 01-04-08 01:20am
It is illegal for him to have sex with
you. That is statutory rape. This man is a
sicko stay away from him he is not safe to
be around, I have never known an 18 year
old that wants to have sex with a 14 year
old, let alone one that has not even
started her period. THIS IS NOT NORMAL!!!
You need to tell some one you feel
comfortable with, parent, teacher, older
sibling, friend's parent or older
sibling...etc.
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stepbak26
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Posted: 01-04-08 01:45am
just as everybody else have said, please
dont do it. he only wants it just for the
sake of saying he took your virginity.
basically another "notch" on his belt.
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impulser23
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Posted: 01-04-08 14:54pm
i hope she read all of these posts. I hope
this girl didnt make the biggest mistake
in her life.
or who have had
multiple sexual partners are at increased
risk for contracting HPV, a risk factor
for cervical cancer."
