muscle pains and tingling

here is my situation:

i had sex with a girl on nov 14 2007. it was not long and was protected however when she went on top and got my condom was not on the penis. i didnt break but i dont know if it came off as she moved out or when i was inside. as i walked back to my room after walking her back, i felt some minor ache on my thighs. on nov 20th i started feeling muscle pain on the legs. 2 days later as i was driving i felt tingly feeling on both hands and they got hot.us suddenly i felt numbness on legs and i got into panic attack and was taken to hospital.us they did blood and urine test and said i was dehydrated. days later muscle pain on thighs and arms. then stretch of 4-5 days feeling fine and once again same issue, now with feeling of weakness on leg/arms only. i worry it might be hiv and so have been paranoid looking at websites. didnt have headches, have constantly checked fir rash and none. dont think ive had sollen nymph glands, no noticeable fevers.us did have sore throat but had dry cough days before sex, no ulcers in mouth but loss weight. felt fine from dec 19-23 but felt weakness on leg muscles again. this have been the worst 5-6 weeks of my life. im been feeling depressed. afraid to get hiv test. please help