Ok, Latly My boyfriend and i have been
having money troubles, this has caused us
to feel apart from eachother
I feel like there will be no end to this,
i know it will get better and everything,
but we didnt even get eachother anything
for christmas. We are constently arguing
about such petty things. I love him so
much, but sometimes i just feel so
depressed when im with him because of the
things he says to me. its always my fault
why havnt you
cleaned up? he says. i say this is a 2
person relationship will you help? he says
no. i dont want to lose him so i give in
and just try to please him.
am i making sense?
i just keep thinking and almost feel i can
do better, but he has helped me through so
many things and being with someone for 3
years, they are everything to you. he use
to make me laugh, comfort me when i cried,
i feel its not there at all anymore, i
know he cares but its always my fault i
screw up most of the time, and its
probably true. i dont want to do better,
he is my one and only, is there hope this
can change? i know i have to change
too....argg i keep rambling on pleease
someone pst somthing. i dont want to lose
him, i dont think he will leave me, but i
have been aggravating him....grr im sorry
i keep talking!
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young Girl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 12-25-07 22:30pm
this not only sounds like a slum in
depression but an unfair relationship. i
know you love him but the relationship
will go NO WHERE if he doesnt pitch in his
share to help. hes got to play a part in
cleaning up,coking,etc too or youre going
to wear yourself out. how is this fair to
you?
a realtionship is a 2 part thing not just
one person can o it alone.
im sorry your haveing money probelms.
everyone goes through it
sometimes it SUCKS really bad. but YOUR
RIGHT! you WILL get through it and it WILL
get better.
dont feel bad because you two didnt
excahnge x mas gifts. the importance is
that you are THERE with him and hes with
you. take a few hours to just sit back and
watch some tv or a movie. his present to
you could be pitching in and helping clean
or doing dishes or something. or even
amassage. a nice bubble bath. money items
dont need to bve bought as gifts.
christmas isnt about presents
i hope you feel better merry christmas!
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sweetie12345
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Jan 2007 Posts: 29
Posted: 12-25-07 22:42pm
i definitly don't want anyone to think im
upset about us not getting eachother
christmas presents, its ok. and yes at
times i think its unfair, but we also dont
split things right down the middle like
rent and bills and things and i think hes
paying more then i am. i know that doesnt
give him the right not to help out with
cleaning and so forth. it doesnt bother me
thoough, because if i make the mess
supposedly i should clean it up, but i
dont mind cleaning and cooking, all i ask
for is a little time with him and for us
not to argue... but its my fault that we
are behind on bills not his he says. and i
can see that i guess. i still dont think
im making sense, its hard to explain the
situation im in. if he asked me to go get
him, lets say, arbys or somthing i
somtimes am like well we should save some
money or id ont want to drive right after
hard day work then he says "ok" in a sad
face its the end of the world look. so i
feel bad then i end up doing it for him!
then hes happy. its like he tricks me and
i cant be a person that just says screw it
he wont eat then... =(
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young Girl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 12-25-07 22:53pm
why havnt you cleaned up? he says. i say
this is a 2 person relationship will you
help? he says no. i dont want to lose him
so i give in and just try to please him.
^^ you wrote that did you not
obviously it does bother you if youre
thinking about it. thinking enough to post
here about it asking for help on these
issues
yo DO need help around the house. so what
if he pays more rent? that doesnt mean he
cant pick up as well
if he wants you to go out and get him food
or something and your tired or you dont
have the money tell him no. if he makes a
sad face end of the world face tell him to
get hiself up and make him a sandwhich.
you cant give into him all of the time.
thats not helping the situation. he will
becomes poiled and he will think youre
always going to be there to do this stuff.
then the rest of the time when yoyur not
bending backwards for what he wants he
will be fighting with you. and then guess
what that makes you look like? his MOM.
you dont wantb that. that will cause even
more problems such as lieing,cheating,
possible break up, so fourth
stop this now before it gets worse. hes
not a little kid,. he needs to learn the
world doesnt revolve around him
