Hey, More of a Psychological Question About Pregnancy Posted: 12-26-07 01:19am
So I'm not really on here wondering if my
girlfriend is pregnant, I just want to
know if anyone on here has ever known
someone that has gone through this
scenario:
My girlfriend called me a couple weeks ago
because she hadn't had her period for five
days, and we had had sex. Now, I know the
condom didn't break, so I assured her that
everything was fine. But of course, I
became all anxious for the rest of the
day, even though I knew everything should
be fine. On the sixth day, my girlfriend
calls me, telling me that she got her
period, and that it was normal, and
everything was cool. I was sort of
thrilled for a while, but after about a
day I began to think of all the different
scenarios that would actually make it
possible for her to be pregnant (for
example, I understand that some women can
actually have periods while being
pregnant, which still does not
biologically make sense to me o.O!). I
talked to my girlfriend and she assured me
that she feels fine, and everything is
normal. But I still can't shake the
feeling that something is wrong. It's
probably just me over-worrying about
nothing (I tend to hope for the best but
expect the worst), but it keeps wracking
my brain. I've heard of couples going
through this when they want to become
pregnant, but I definitely DON'T want a
pregnancy, so it doesn't make sense. Does
anyone know what I should do about this? I
mean, I've thought about asking my
girlfriend to take a pregnancy test just
to ease my anxiety, but I think that would
be insulting to my girlfriend, making her
think that I wouldn't trust her opinion
or knowledge of her own body. Is this at
all normal?
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young Girl
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Posted: 12-26-07 01:27am
ok if you dont want a baby stop haveing
sex
no women dont actually have thier periods
while pregnant
its very very rare that a woman will EVER
bleed during pregnancy
your gf is NOT pregnant
shes not so you can stop worrying
she had her period
period= NOT pregnant
how old are you? why is she not on birth
control?
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qwerty!
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Posted: 12-26-07 01:33am
I am 18, she is 18. And I assume she is
not on birth control because her parents
are insane, and would throw her out of
their house if they found it (strict roman
catholic, her mom gets pissed if she sees
me kiss her daughter). Another reason
could be because she might not know how to
get it. Her parents try and shelter her as
much as possible from the real world.
Although, I think after this, birth
control's a must-have.
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young Girl
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Posted: 12-26-07 01:59am
she can go to planned parenthood by
herself or you could take her
anyone can take her
they will give her FREE bc and WONT tell
her parenst
you dont have to be a specific age
just walk in and talk to someone there
they will help you.
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mominashoe
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Posted: 12-26-07 06:46am
I know what it is like to be in a strict
roman catholic environment. I am sure
that if she is having sex under these
conditions, she is not likely to have
normal cycles, and getting on birth
control, although an obvious answer to
you, may just put her on even more of a
tight end because it adds another secret
that she will have to hide from her
parents and register as being "ok" in her
own conscience, which would not be an easy
thing to do.
If she is 18, it won't be too long before
she is not living in her parents home.
Remember that you can have just as good a
relationship with a person without having
sex and that there are other ways to have
a good time and see if you are compatible.
If you aren't willing to try that, maybe
you aren't there for the right reasons.
But do try waiting til later for
sex.....even just for the sake of being
more at ease (especially on her account)
and not having to worry.....because we all
know that even if you do use BC, it's
still possible to become pregnant, and
this situation tells me that even if she
was on BC, you would still obsess over
everything if something was a little off.
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Posted: 12-26-07 07:30am
qwerty!
wrote:
I am 18, she is 18. And I
assume she is not on birth
control
You assume? This really is the kind of
thing you should know if you're sleeping
with someone!
She can get birth control without her
parents knowledge and, considering your
post, I would strongly suggest it as
condoms aren't 100% even if they don't
break!
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qwerty!
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I Know This Is a Late Reply Posted: 01-01-08 03:34am
Ok, I think some people are making
assumptions about my relationship tat are
totally wrong:
1. I don't have anything against roman
catholics. I was citing the fact that a
strict religious household usually has
problems with pre-marital sex.
2. I am positive that she is fine with
sex, because we've talked a lot about it
(in fact, after she had her period and we
were both relieved, we had a long talk,
and she wanted to make sure that I was
alright with still having sex, because she
didn't know what my feelings were after
that scare).
3. Sex is not the only thing we do when
we're together. In fact, it's pretty far
from it. If I only was interested in sex,
there is no way my relationship would have
lasted this long.
4. We didn't start screwing right when we
met each other. I know some adults find
this hard to believe, but not all
teenagers are as promiscuous as MTV would
have you believe.
I've thought a lot about it, and I think I
am over-obsessing about this due to a lot
of other crap that's been happening in my
life, mostly friend, family, and final
exam related. There's also the fact that I
basically didn't know anything about the
menstrual cycle, other than the fact that
a woman has one. However, I researched and
learned a lot from this whole thing. This
is sort of a follow up, in case any other
scared guy with a situation similar to
mine finds this forum.
