hi. i am 18. and i just got to know this
guy about 4 months ago from my company.
He's 30. Meaning, a total of 12 years
difference. Initially we would hang out
after work, find some food or take a
stroll. Our relationship has moved pretty
quickly. But recently, he bought this Play
station Portable, and he's been playing it
nonstop.
It kinda angers me off when he asks me out
for a date but just ends up playing the
game right in front of me after we have
our meal. He gives the excuse that its
because we have no idea where to go thats
why he plays his game. Can someone please
tell me how? Ever since he got his psp, he
doesnt call me or sms me often. Yet he
expects me to wake up early just to go
over to his house to sleep, or else asks
me to stay over. Ok, to cut it short, now,
all he basically does is EAT, SLEEP/SNORE,
and play either his maplestory or psp.
and i repeat. He is 30. He may be mature
in other terms, but he claims that playing
games are just hobbies. do u think its
acceptable? or am i just being too
complain queen and i myself should find
some hobby.
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young Girl
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Posted: 12-26-07 02:39am
if its interfearing with your relationship
then its not goign to work
dont be jelous of a video game
as long as he works and takes care of his
buisness that thats all that matters
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sleepyhead
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Joined: 18 Dec 2007 Posts: 9
Posted: 12-26-07 06:14am
are we too much of an age gap or do u
think its perfectly fine. he always
mentions tat he doesnt think i am that
young cause he says my mindset pretty
grown up. 12 years difference, is it alot?
and wad shld i do..
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Lilly Ivy
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Posted: 12-26-07 06:53am
my fiancee is the same way. Only he's 31
and I'm 18. All he does is sleep, eat the
food I make him, work, and play on his
computer. He usually eats at his computer
desk while playing too. When he isn't
doing one of those, he's actually a pretty
sweet guy. I'm also pregnant to him, so
that's a little change from your
relationship. Not that I'm saying to get
pregnant! We've been together for a full
year longer than you two, and we've been
engaged for, ok I don't keep track, a good
while now. It was before I got pregnant I
know that.
But I do agree with girlfriend, if it is
interfering with your relationship too
much, it's not going to happen. I'm a
gamer myself, that's why I can't complain
about his gameplay. But if you aren't, and
that's all he does, sorry to say, but I'd
call it off.
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mominashoe
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Posted: 12-26-07 07:12am
You are young and there are plenty of fish
in the sea if you know where to look Sometimes age
matters, sometimes it doesn't. You are
right that it depends on maturity. But do
you want to date a 30 yo who acts like
he's 13? I'm thinking you already know
the answer to "what should you do" but it
is hard to make changes in life,
especially in relationships.
This isn't a hobby that he has. It seems
like you are the more mature one. At 30
years old, he should know the difference
between a simple hobby and an obsession,
and if he can't seem to stop playing for
you when HE has invited you over, guess
what he happens to value more? You are
really not getting anything out of this
relationship and from the tone of your
post, it's causing you more stress and
aggravation than it's worth. You can't
have a good relationship with someone who
is plugged into a machine.
If you want to continue with him, then you
are going to have to do your homework and
make plans for every date so that there
will always be something to do instead of
sitting around watching him play.
But if I get the vibe right, you are just
someone that he uses for companionship and
then puts you on the shelf when he doesn't
want you. Look a little beyond him, I'm
sure there's an awesome stud waiting for
you
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nightangel73
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Posted: 12-26-07 10:32am
you think the age is no problem now but
when you are older it will be a big
difference. My just ex-coworker and good
friend has a similar age difference with
his wife. Just that he is the younger one
and she the older. He is 40-'s and she
late 50's. Well he was just recently fired
for looking at porno at work which he did
cause his wife doesn't give him sex. I
could understand cause she well looks like
a grany and he is still looks young and
strong. And I have to say this is a good
man and I can say he seems to honestly
loves this wife. She just cant fullfil his
sexual needs. So I just want to bring this
story up so you can see that a decade of
age gap will have an effect when you are
older.
On the topic of his game addiction, that
is just sick. I would dump a guy like that
in a NY minute.
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sleepyhead
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Joined: 18 Dec 2007 Posts: 9
Posted: 12-29-07 21:43pm
thanks u guys, i guess for now that i just
got him, i think i will follow wad u
said.. lolz. do my homework?
>.< but he doesnt like shopping.. so
where shall we go anyway. hehe.. movies,
we do it often, but smtimes he thinks i am
over hyper.
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jodie 16
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Mine Ios the Same Posted: 01-02-08 14:19pm
my boyfriends exactly the same im 16 hes
20
bit of a diffrence there aswell hes
gorgeouse though
anyway he like that all the time he always
wants to go to his house and then when we
get there he turn on his playstation does
my headin like mad we have really bad
arguements about it
x
Sometimes age
matters, sometimes it doesn't. You are
right that it depends on maturity. But do
you want to date a 30 yo who acts like
he's 13? I'm thinking you already know
the answer to "what should you do" but it
is hard to make changes in life,
especially in relationships.
