Joined: 16 Mar 2004 Posts: 738 Location: clinton twp, MI
Need Help Posted: 04-20-04 13:01pm
Ok this might be long. Ill try my best
to sum it up though. I love eric with
all my heart and vice versa for him.
Anyway, this is the thing. I think I am
retarted sometimes for the caca I put up
with. He doesnt disrespect me by
cursing, or hitting. He is the biggest
sweetheart alive and he shows me more love
than I could ask for. I have one
problem. He doesnt work! We live at
his moms house who is an alcoholic and
does not work. His brother is 19 and got
in trouble at school and is graduating
this year. He cant attend for the rest
of the year. He gets to do his work at
home and hand it in on tuesdays. His mom
does all his work! Can u believe that?
She was in the kitchen from like noon til
9 pm doing "his" school work while he
played on the computer and smokes weed.
Thats all he does. I feel like I am
surrounded by morons. My life wasnt like
this be4 I got with eric. I take care of
our bills, buy him his ciggs ect ect.
What is wrong with me? I never see
myself leaving him. And I know he truly
loves me but why would he allow me to be
so unhappy. I am under so much stress
its unreal. I made an appt to see a
therapist next week cuz im on the verge of
flipping out and that aint my style. Our
child is due in august and we have nothing
to give him. I hate the way my life is
right now. I really do. Like I look at
eric sitting at the computer drinking a
beer. And I wanna smack the caca out of
him. But lol I love him so much hes like
so soft hearted that I cant be mean to him
because he is never mean to me. Im soooo
health forum y and complain all day and if
I told him to jump hed prolly say how high
lmao seriously but he wont work! He says
he knows or he dont wanna talk about it or
he will work soon. I dont know anymore.
Everyday this house gets to me its like
cursed. His ma walks around drunk all
day flippin out over every lil thing.
His bro is emotionally messed up . K im
blabing. Sorrry girls. Oh and when I
tell him to come see the therapist with me
he says no but 2night he says he will try
it once. ~ erica. Pleaze help lol im
desperate
|
PregnaJordan
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2003 Posts: 2908
Posted: 04-20-04 23:13pm
'm sorry erica...U just have to thik about
what is best for the baby..Its not about u
n e more..If u cant see a good life with
this guy, I would move on...Think about
the future..U see u being with him when ur
old and gray? Just think about it...Make
sure he goes to therapy wit u!
Jordan and jaydyn
|
little_woman
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Mar 2004 Posts: 765
Posted: 04-21-04 16:42pm
Ok erica,
this guy does sound teriffic and I dont
doubt he is, but jordon is right, you need
to think about how this guy can provide
for you and your baby. My ex was a great
guy (before I found out about all his
mental problems) but he also had a problem
with working. He swore he couldnt handle
a 40 hour a week job cause he wouldnt like
the stress attatched to it. After we
broke up I began to realize what a hard
life we would have together. It would
revolve around me being the soul
breadwinner and he would complain about
how much he hated stress. One giant mess
in other words. Talk to him and try to
make him realize that this baby is on its
way whether he likes it or not and there
has to be something waiting for him (your
lil one) when he makes his way into the
world. If you cant convince him, you
might have to do the hardest thing and
leave him. I am not saying to do that but
that might be the only option you might
have. But that is the last thing iw ant
to happen to you talk to him. If all else
fails take away his beer and internet.
Deprivation is a good way to start
meg
|
lilmama2b_oct04
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Mar 2004 Posts: 1970 Location: Wisconsin
Posted: 04-22-04 03:55am
Wow you must be 12, it sounds like you
dont even know what your talking about...
Wanna know why the girls are gettin such a
kick out of you? Cuz you think your some
hard ass talkin sh*t and think your cool
when you just sound like an fool...
