So I've been looking for somewhere to talk
about this problem I have, but I haven't
really found much until I got here, but
I'm still having a hard time finding
anyone with my exact issue. I figured I
might as well throw it out there and see
if anyone responds. I only wish I'd found
this when I first found out, I had a rough
and lonely time.
I have a septated uterus, the septum
extended to my cervix. We found out a year
ago when I had a miscarriage. I was lucky
they found it when they did, but it was an
incredibly lonely and depressing time. My
husband was great and loving and took good
care of me, but I didn't have anyone to
talk to about my problem that knew how I
felt.
Since we found out, I was on an emotional
roller coaster, and the hormones they put
me on made that even worse. I had my
surgery (laporoscopy hysteroscopy w/lysis
of the intrauterine septum) the end of
June 2007. After a few months of healing
and more hormone treatments, we had more
tests done and found out I have to have
another surgery. I'm doing better with the
news, but I was so crushed. My husband and
I really want children, all my life I've
wanted to be a mom, but here I am,
surrounded by people having babies and I
feel even more like I'm defective and out
of the loop.
Anybody else feel this way or going
through the same situation? If you had a
surgery like mine, did it completely
debilitate you, or am I just extra 'lucky'
in that dept?
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acruz
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Posted: 12-29-07 06:53am
Unfortunately, I am not sure how much help
I am because I have never yet had to
experience anything as painful as what you
have gone through. My prayers are with you
that your surgery is successful and that
someday in the future you and your husband
will have a beautiful child....there are
other options for that, which I am sure
you realize, but I can see where this can
be very emotional and depressing.
Fortunately, you have come to a great
forum with a ton of wonderful women who
will help you keep your head above
water!!!!
Anyway, I am Amy and I have just started
the ttc journey...pm me anytime if you
would like to talk.
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shortgeek
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Dec 2006 Posts: 597 Location: DC
Posted: 12-29-07 08:19am
Your must be going through a very hard
time. I don't have the same problem as
you, but I do know how it feels to be
lonely and depressed because everyone
around you is having a baby except you.
My dh and I have been trying for about a
year and a half.
We are now going to a fertility clinic. I
got my first abnormal test the other day.
While I was hoping for a fixable
explanation (which this might be), I still
took the news pretty hard.
For those of us who don't get pregnant in
the first few months, the ttc journey can
be lonely and stressful. I pray that your
next surgery solves everything. My
advice is to find some other hobby that
you can use to distract you from how much
you want a baby and to come to this forum
for support. I hope that we can help you
during the healing process.
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Strumphette
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2007 Posts: 88
Posted: 12-29-07 20:52pm
Thank you for your thoughts and prayers.
It does help to know this is here to help
support those of us with problems. I'm
sorry to hear about your problems, and I
hope that everything works out for you
both. Hobbies are definitely helpful, it's
just hard to find the energy.
I've seen some of the other posts and how
close many of you are, and I hope I can be
a help to you and others who need
encouragement and support too. I don't
have sisters so I don't relate to women
the way I wish I could, but I hope to be
somewhat helpful and a friend to those who
need it.
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acruz
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Joined: 09 Aug 2007 Posts: 780 Location: Central, IL USA
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Posted: 12-29-07 21:08pm
I understand what you mean...I have no one
in "real life" I can relate to and talk to
stuff about...except here...with my
ehealth girlies!!! You will really enjoy
forum I am sure!!!
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Strumphette
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2007 Posts: 88
Posted: 12-29-07 21:11pm
Thank goodness for the internet! I don't
know how we ever lived without it to look
up stuff, and have people to relate to
from all over the world.
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acruz
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Posted: 12-29-07 21:14pm
Yes, I agree!!!! How old are you and your
husband?
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Strumphette
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2007 Posts: 88
Posted: 12-29-07 21:22pm
He's 27 and I'll be 25 in 2 months. (Where
we live, if you're our age and don't have
kids, then you don't fit it. I don't want
babies to fit in though, I want them
because I want to be a mom.) How about you
and your husband?
I've been reading about the ttc's, I hope
that by summer we'll be to that stage.
It's hard to want kids and not even be
able to try. (It's nice to be able to say
things like that and know that you'll
understand, I haven't had that till now.)
Thanks for messaging with me.
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acruz
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Posted: 12-29-07 21:29pm
My husband and I just married last month
and he is 23 and I am 19. We aren't really
TRYING yet, we are just preventing. Right
now we aren't in a hurry, if it happens it
will be wonderful...but we are willing to
wait a couple years too!! This is our
first month without birth control. We will
see what happens.
Do you live on like Wisteria Lane or
something?!? Haha...Desperate
Housewives..? Anyway...what do you mean
you have to have a baby to fit in in your
area? That is so depressing!!!! So, did
you and your hubby start out just trying
and got pregnant and then the rest of your
story? I am so sorry you had to go thru
that. And you are free to pm me anytime
you want/need to talk...I am on here 24/7
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Strumphette
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2007 Posts: 88
Posted: 12-29-07 21:48pm
Congrats on getting married! We've been
married just over 2 yrs.
I was on bc for about a year and then we
decided to just see what happened after
that. We weren't trying and we weren't
preventing anything from happening either.
I got pregnant about a month after going
off bc and miscarried at 6 1/2 weeks. I
never knew how emotionally and physically
painful that process was till I went
through it.
Where we live is like things happen in
stages. You go to college, get married
then have babies. Everyone our age has
kids (except for a couple of exceptions)
so that's why we don't fit in. Every time
we try to hang out with friends, it's like
they'll either cancel because they can't
find a babysitter, we'll have to end our
night early because of the babysitter, or
stay in altogether so they don't have to
get a babysitter. I don't care about
having kids around (I love kids,
obviously), but it seems like they use
them as an excuse to not do anything.
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acruz
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Posted: 12-29-07 21:56pm
Thanks!! Goodness..you two are staying
pretty strong it seems, and that is
awesome!
Yeah, I would just stop asking them to
hang out probably!! Lol..Im not very nice
though. I know that my best friend is 23
and has a 2 almost 3 yr old and when she
comes over normally brings him with and it
is always still a blast! I have 10
brothers and sisters so I am used to the
kids being around, but I would love to
have one of my own! So I understand in
that sense...
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Strumphette
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2007 Posts: 88
Posted: 12-30-07 04:45am
Wow, 10 siblings, that's crazy. How old is
the youngest?
