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j_n_k
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Alone..stressed And Pregnant
Posted: 12-29-07 19:18pm
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I am 17 years and will be 18 in march. I
am now somewhere in between 3 and 4 months
pregnant. I am still in school i make good
grades but i am very concerned about my
future. THe father of my child was very
excited when i showed him the pregnancy
test that said positive but the excitement
only lasted for about a month. He then
changed his mind and bought up me getting
an abortion. I have had one before in the
past when i was alot younger and although
i was against it it turned out for the
best. I was scared to tell my mother
about this pregnancy but after what we
thought was around 2 or 3 months he
decided to tell his mother. She told him
it was up to me and my mother what we
decided to do but i had her support in
either situation. The father and I have
been seeming not to get along. I didnt
want the abortion but i felt as if he were
pressuing me to get it. I then have told
my mother and she agreed on the abortion
they looked into the information and the
day of my abortion appt. (that i didnt
want to go to) i went to get a first time
ultrasound which confirmed that i was
further along than 14 weeks and could not
go along with the abortion. THis mad me
happy.My mother is now on my side 100% but
now the father has gotten really upset
with me. He know longer calls me or
anything of the such.He didnt even offer
to go with me to get the abortion. He says
he's just taking a break but he doesnt
understand that hes causing me stress
which isnt good for me and the child. I
feel that hes cheating but he swears that
hes not but i feel as if he really doesnt
care if were together or not. I tried
calling him today and no one answered i
know that he is now at home but he has
failed to return the call. I am very
unsure of what i should do it is to hard
to move on because i love him and i am
carrying his child. Can someone please
help me and tell me what i should do? I
havent been able to keep my mind off of
the situation and it stresses me out even
more....
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Electriceyes
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Posted: 12-29-07 20:48pm
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I've been somewhat threw what you are..
The best thing to do is just let him go
and move on.. If he changes his mind like
my ex is starting to that's great. If not
then he doesn't know what he's gonna miss
out on. Him doing this shows how much he
really doesn't care about you or that
child. If he really loved you he would be
right there with you now, supporting you.
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O0o0h_baby
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Posted: 12-29-07 23:20pm
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Such a hard situation, i'm sorry. What I
can tell you is that men will come and go
from your life but your child will be
FOREVER.
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Posted: 12-29-07 23:24pm
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you DONT need stress or this jerk in your
life
if he leaves and does this now think of
how it may be when the child is born
your kid doesnt need someone who will come
and go and just leave all the time
you deserve better
stop it
stop feeling sad
you have more to worry about now. a BABY.
let him go if he wants to act like that
you dont need him.
do you know exactly how far you are? have
you been to a DR
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Posted: 12-30-07 00:02am
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I am somewhat in your shoes. I'm 18 and 16
weeks pregnant. My boyfriend was super
happy when we first found out I was
pregnant and did not want me to abort.
However, recently he has broken up with me
and will not communicate. I am afraid he
doesn't care about me or his daughter. And
I know he is seeing many other girls.
People keep telling me to get over him and
move on...easier said than done! Your
baby's father may have held you close, but
someday you will find a guy that holds you
closer. His kiss may have been sweet, but
this other guy's kiss will be sweeter.
It's better you found out his true colors
now rather than wasting more time on the
jerk. PM me if you need to talk.
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j_n_k
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Posted: 12-30-07 00:57am
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awwwww thank you all so much you all have
really helped me out a lot but yes it is
easier said than done...i keep telling my
self to move on but its like im stuck on
stupid i have realized that no matter how
much you try you can never change the way
someone acts...
i have just spoken to him earlier today
and he said that he is holding a grudge
against me because i should have went and
gotten one and im putting a squezze on his
life i want to say leave and dont worry
about me and the child but the words never
seem to come out
and no im not sure exactly how many months
i am because the doctor had a new
ultrasound machine and could not get the
weeks to come up but she judge from how
high up the baby was and said i was
further along than 14 weeks
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Posted: 12-30-07 01:00am
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| j_n_k
wrote: | awwwww thank you all so much
you all have really helped me out a lot
but yes it is easier said than done...i
keep telling my self to move on but its
like im stuck on stupid i have realized
that no matter how much you try you can
never change the way someone acts...
i have just spoken to him earlier today
and he said that he is holding a grudge
against me because i should have went and
gotten one and im putting a squezze on his
life i want to say leave and dont worry
about me and the child but the words never
seem to come out
and no im not sure exactly how many months
i am because the doctor had a new
ultrasound machine and could not get the
weeks to come up but she judge from how
high up the baby was and said i was
further along than 14
weeks |
you want me to come treally put a "sqeeze"
in his life for ya lol
ill put his nuts into a blender if you
want:D
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Posted: 12-30-07 01:06am
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| the_girlfriend
wrote: | | j_n_k
wrote: | awwwww thank you all so much
you all have really helped me out a lot
but yes it is easier said than done...i
keep telling my self to move on but its
like im stuck on stupid i have realized
that no matter how much you try you can
never change the way someone acts...
i have just spoken to him earlier today
and he said that he is holding a grudge
against me because i should have went and
gotten one and im putting a squezze on his
life i want to say leave and dont worry
about me and the child but the words never
seem to come out
and no im not sure exactly how many months
i am because the doctor had a new
ultrasound machine and could not get the
weeks to come up but she judge from how
high up the baby was and said i was
further along than 14
weeks |
you want me to come treally put a "sqeeze"
in his life for ya lol
ill put his nuts into a blender if you
want:D |
haha can you come do that to my ex? lol
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Posted: 12-30-07 01:14am
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heck yes lol
hes gunna get punched in the adams apple
too lol
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Electriceyes
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Posted: 12-30-07 01:15am
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SWEET! lol stupid men hehe..well not the
current bf. he's amazing. 
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Posted: 12-30-07 06:31am
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I'm sorry to hear that, it's never easy to
get over men. But remember, if he doesn't
stay with you, try your hardest to get
child support, milk that man of every
penny he's got! In other words, he helped
to make it, he's gonna help raise it one
way or another  Good Luck
with everything!
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Posted: 12-30-07 13:09pm
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yep it sucks when your
ex doesn't have a job though..lol *cough*
Devon* *cough*..well he has a temp job for
3 months..so i'll get all I can then
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j_n_k
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Posted: 12-30-07 13:15pm
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yea he claims hes in the process of
getting a job and we talked again last
night we had a very long conversation he
said that he needed time to his self to re
think everything because he felt as if i
betrayed him but i said no you betrayed me
turning on me and your child like
that...he says he's going to be in the
childs life finicially and physically but
who knows until the baby arrives he kinda
made me feel a little better about the
stress factor but im not going to fall
back in his trap i need to get strong for
me and my child first..ill keep you all
posted with whatever new story he comes up
with today...
and by the way chopping his nuts up doesnt
sound like a bad idea.....lol...j/p
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Posted: 12-30-07 14:13pm
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I am so sorry to hear that your ex is such
a butttttt whole! ugh men like that anger
me
and i didnt know you couldnt get an
abortion after 14 weeks??
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Electriceyes
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Posted: 12-30-07 14:20pm
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you can. you can get one until like 24
weeks.... it's just harder to do after 14
weeks.
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Electriceyes
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Posted: 12-30-07 14:29pm
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yeah, 'cuz my ex tried to get me to have
one that late but I didn't want to.. after
like 14-16 weeks it's a 2 day thing
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j_n_k
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Posted: 12-30-07 16:10pm
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yea i was going to go to memphis and the
clinic i chose only did them up into 14
weeks for 325 dollars but anything after
that the price went up to 500-1000
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Posted: 12-30-07 16:49pm
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you can get an abortion up to 26 weeks in
some states
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Electriceyes
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Posted: 12-30-07 17:30pm
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michigan just happens to be one of them I
guess.. I hate Michigan. Stupid Cold!!
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