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Q: Alone..stressed And Pregnant
asked by: j_n_k on December 29th, 2007
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I am 17 years and will be 18 in march. I am now somewhere in between 3 and 4 months pregnant. I am still in school i make good grades but i am very concerned about my future. THe father of my child was very excited when i showed him the pregnancy test that said positive but the excitement only lasted for about a month. He then changed his mind and bought up me getting an abortion. I have had one before in the past when i was alot younger and although i was against it it turned out for the best. I was scared to tell my mother about this pregnancy but after what we thought was around 2 or 3 months he decided to tell his mother. She told him it was up to me and my mother what we decided to do but i had her support in either situation. The father and I have been seeming not to get along. I didnt want the abortion but i felt as if he were pressuing me to get it. I then have told my mother and she agreed on the abortion they looked into the information and the day of my abortion appt. (that i didnt want to go to) i went to get a first time ultrasound which confirmed that i was further along than 14 weeks and could not go along with the abortion. THis mad me happy.My mother is now on my side 100% but now the father has gotten really upset with me. He know longer calls me or anything of the such.He didnt even offer to go with me to get the abortion. He says he's just taking a break but he doesnt understand that hes causing me stress which isnt good for me and the child. I feel that hes cheating but he swears that hes not but i feel as if he really doesnt care if were together or not. I tried calling him today and no one answered i know that he is now at home but he has failed to return the call. I am very unsure of what i should do it is to hard to move on because i love him and i am carrying his child. Can someone please help me and tell me what i should do? I havent been able to keep my mind off of the situation and it stresses me out even more....
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Electriceyes
replied on December 29th, 2007
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I've been somewhat threw what you are.. The best thing to do is just let him go and move on.. If he changes his mind like my ex is starting to that's great. If not then he doesn't know what he's gonna miss out on. Him doing this shows how much he really doesn't care about you or that child. If he really loved you he would be right there with you now, supporting you.
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O0o0h_baby
replied on December 29th, 2007
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Such a hard situation, i'm sorry. What I can tell you is that men will come and go from your life but your child will be FOREVER.
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young Girl
replied on December 29th, 2007
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you DONT need stress or this jerk in your life
if he leaves and does this now think of how it may be when the child is born
your kid doesnt need someone who will come and go and just leave all the time

you deserve better
stop it

stop feeling sad
you have more to worry about now. a BABY. let him go if he wants to act like that you dont need him.

do you know exactly how far you are? have you been to a DR
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care_free
replied on December 30th, 2007
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I am somewhat in your shoes. I'm 18 and 16 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend was super happy when we first found out I was pregnant and did not want me to abort. However, recently he has broken up with me and will not communicate. I am afraid he doesn't care about me or his daughter. And I know he is seeing many other girls. People keep telling me to get over him and move on...easier said than done! Your baby's father may have held you close, but someday you will find a guy that holds you closer. His kiss may have been sweet, but this other guy's kiss will be sweeter. It's better you found out his true colors now rather than wasting more time on the jerk. PM me if you need to talk.
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j_n_k
replied on December 30th, 2007
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awwwww thank you all so much you all have really helped me out a lot but yes it is easier said than done...i keep telling my self to move on but its like im stuck on stupid i have realized that no matter how much you try you can never change the way someone acts...
i have just spoken to him earlier today and he said that he is holding a grudge against me because i should have went and gotten one and im putting a squezze on his life i want to say leave and dont worry about me and the child but the words never seem to come out


and no im not sure exactly how many months i am because the doctor had a new ultrasound machine and could not get the weeks to come up but she judge from how high up the baby was and said i was further along than 14 weeks
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young Girl
replied on December 30th, 2007
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j_n_k wrote:
awwwww thank you all so much you all have really helped me out a lot but yes it is easier said than done...i keep telling my self to move on but its like im stuck on stupid i have realized that no matter how much you try you can never change the way someone acts...
i have just spoken to him earlier today and he said that he is holding a grudge against me because i should have went and gotten one and im putting a squezze on his life i want to say leave and dont worry about me and the child but the words never seem to come out


and no im not sure exactly how many months i am because the doctor had a new ultrasound machine and could not get the weeks to come up but she judge from how high up the baby was and said i was further along than 14 weeks


you want me to come treally put a "sqeeze" in his life for ya lol
ill put his nuts into a blender if you want:D
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Electriceyes
replied on December 30th, 2007
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the_girlfriend wrote:
j_n_k wrote:
awwwww thank you all so much you all have really helped me out a lot but yes it is easier said than done...i keep telling my self to move on but its like im stuck on stupid i have realized that no matter how much you try you can never change the way someone acts...
i have just spoken to him earlier today and he said that he is holding a grudge against me because i should have went and gotten one and im putting a squezze on his life i want to say leave and dont worry about me and the child but the words never seem to come out


and no im not sure exactly how many months i am because the doctor had a new ultrasound machine and could not get the weeks to come up but she judge from how high up the baby was and said i was further along than 14 weeks


you want me to come treally put a "sqeeze" in his life for ya lol
ill put his nuts into a blender if you want:D


haha can you come do that to my ex? lol Laughing
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young Girl
replied on December 30th, 2007
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heck yes lol
hes gunna get punched in the adams apple too lol
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Electriceyes
replied on December 30th, 2007
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SWEET! lol stupid men hehe..well not the current bf. he's amazing. Smile
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Lilly Ivy
replied on December 30th, 2007
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I'm sorry to hear that, it's never easy to get over men. But remember, if he doesn't stay with you, try your hardest to get child support, milk that man of every penny he's got! In other words, he helped to make it, he's gonna help raise it one way or another Very Happy Good Luck with everything!
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Electriceyes
replied on December 30th, 2007
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yep Smile it sucks when your ex doesn't have a job though..lol *cough* Devon* *cough*..well he has a temp job for 3 months..so i'll get all I can then Very Happy
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j_n_k
replied on December 30th, 2007
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yea he claims hes in the process of getting a job and we talked again last night we had a very long conversation he said that he needed time to his self to re think everything because he felt as if i betrayed him but i said no you betrayed me turning on me and your child like that...he says he's going to be in the childs life finicially and physically but who knows until the baby arrives he kinda made me feel a little better about the stress factor but im not going to fall back in his trap i need to get strong for me and my child first..ill keep you all posted with whatever new story he comes up with today...


and by the way chopping his nuts up doesnt sound like a bad idea.....lol...j/p
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Flurries in the air
replied on December 30th, 2007
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I am so sorry to hear that your ex is such a butttttt whole! ugh men like that anger me

and i didnt know you couldnt get an abortion after 14 weeks??
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Electriceyes
replied on December 30th, 2007
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you can. you can get one until like 24 weeks.... it's just harder to do after 14 weeks.
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Flurries in the air
replied on December 30th, 2007
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oooo i didnt know =O
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Electriceyes
replied on December 30th, 2007
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yeah, 'cuz my ex tried to get me to have one that late but I didn't want to.. after like 14-16 weeks it's a 2 day thing
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j_n_k
replied on December 30th, 2007
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yea i was going to go to memphis and the clinic i chose only did them up into 14 weeks for 325 dollars but anything after that the price went up to 500-1000
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young Girl
replied on December 30th, 2007
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you can get an abortion up to 26 weeks in some states
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Electriceyes
replied on December 30th, 2007
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michigan just happens to be one of them I guess.. I hate Michigan. Stupid Cold!!
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