I_Love_Justin
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Im 15 And 23 Weeks And 2 Days Pregnany
Posted: 12-30-07 01:28am
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Im having a little girl and im so excited.
My boyfriend is by my side and can't wait
until our baby is born. Im just looking
for other pregnant girls to talk to and
who understand what im going through.
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Posted: 12-30-07 01:52am
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How do your parents and his parents feel
about you and your bf's decision to have a
baby?
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I_Love_Justin
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Posted: 12-30-07 02:02am
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well at first both of our parents were
shocked. but both of our parents are pro
life and they told me i could do adoption
of keep her. and we were like well we
wanna rise her and i could never imagine
giving her to someone else. our parents
are very supportive. were really lucky
that they didn.t flip out. lol
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-elizabeth-
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Posted: 12-30-07 02:06am
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Yes, I would say you're very lucky.
I'm not a mean person, I'm really not, so
I'm not going to say everything that I
would like to...so I'll say good luck and
leave it at that.
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Posted: 12-30-07 02:43am
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Why did you two want to have a child now,
when you are both so young?
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I_Love_Justin
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Posted: 12-30-07 12:53pm
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o this was not something we did on purpose
i guess i didnt make that clear.
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Posted: 12-30-07 13:21pm
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well good luck. I'm 16 and almost 37
weeks.
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Posted: 12-30-07 19:03pm
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| I_Love_Justin
wrote: | | o this was not something we
did on purpose i guess i didnt make that
clear. |
Ok, thanks for clearing that up. Here's a
different question then, why did you want
to keep the baby rather than abort it or
give it up for adoption?
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young Girl
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Posted: 12-30-07 19:10pm
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well good luck hun
my name is suzy and i am 16 yrs old and i
have a month old daughter named kristen
taylor
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I_Love_Justin
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Posted: 12-30-07 19:12pm
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well abortion was what me and my boyfriend
wanted to do. But my parents and his
parents are pro life and they told me i
could not get an abortion. and i thought
about adoption and in the begining i
looked up alot of information on it and i
mean i know it would be the smart thing to
do seeing as i still have two years until
i graduate and maybe im not emotionally
ready to deal with a baby but i love my
baby and i can't imagine after going
through 9 months of carrying her and
feeling her move in me, there is no way i
could hand her over to another mother.
and keeping her is such a huge choose also
and somedays i feel its the right choice
and then other days im just like "holy
caca can i honestly take care of a child
when im still a child myself??" but i
have so much support and anything finacial
is not a problem at all. i know that i
can do this.
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I_Love_Justin
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Posted: 12-30-07 19:14pm
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| the_girlfriend
wrote: | well good luck hun
my name is suzy and i am 16 yrs old and i
have a month old daughter named kristen
taylor |
thats a beautiful name. how did you cope
with the whole pregnancy?? and how bad is
labor?? im so scared lol
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Posted: 12-31-07 02:43am
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| I_Love_Justin
wrote: | | well abortion was what me
and my boyfriend wanted to do. But my
parents and his parents are pro life and
they told me i could not get an abortion.
and i thought about adoption and in the
begining i looked up alot of information
on it and i mean i know it would be the
smart thing to do seeing as i still have
two years until i graduate and maybe im
not emotionally ready to deal with a baby
but i love my baby and i can't imagine
after going through 9 months of carrying
her and feeling her move in me, there is
no way i could hand her over to another
mother. and keeping her is such a huge
choose also and somedays i feel its the
right choice and then other days im just
like "holy caca can i honestly take care
of a child when im still a child myself??"
but i have so much support and anything
finacial is not a problem at all. i know
that i can do this. |
I am sorry that you and your bf have been
forced into this very difficult dilemma.
It's not just emotionally difficult, it is
also physically risky to both you and your
unborn.
For the past few hours I have been reading
about the risks of pregnancy and
childbearing to young teens and their
children. The risks are real, and the
fact that they have been forced upon you
by your own parents is alarming to say the
least.
Following is a sample of the findings of
the dangers of very young childbearing.
Before you read this, keep the following
in mind. None of these finding say these
bad things will happen to everyone. These
findings are not talking about you. They
are jjust an overview of the risks to
younger teens in general.
source
Adolescent Women and Their Infants: at
Risk for Injury, Illness, and Death
• Adolescents age 15 through 19 are
twice as likely to die during pregnancy or
child birth as those over age 20; girls
under age 15 are five times more likely to
die.
• Infants of adolescents are at
increased risk for death. In fact, the
infants of adolescent mothers are more
likely to die before their first birthday
than are the infants of older mothers.
10
• Complications during childbirth
account for almost 25 percent of newborn
deaths.
11
Preterm delivery
and low birth weight are other reasons for
deaths among infants born to adolescent
mothers.
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Posted: 12-31-07 02:54am
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thats so so sad
thats horrible
its your choice you know
your parents cant force you to keep the
child
you could have gotten an abortion if you
wanted
labor didnt hurt me at all but everyone
says im crazy
pregnancy was awsome for me
id do it again if i was older id be trying
for my 2nd lol
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young Girl
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Posted: 12-31-07 02:55am
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| I_Love_Justin
wrote: | | well abortion was what me
and my boyfriend wanted to do. But my
parents and his parents are pro life and
they told me i could not get an abortion.
and i thought about adoption and in the
begining i looked up alot of information
on it and i mean i know it would be the
smart thing to do seeing as i still have
two years until i graduate and maybe im
not emotionally ready to deal with a baby
but i love my baby and i can't imagine
after going through 9 months of carrying
her and feeling her move in me, there is
no way i could hand her over to another
mother. and keeping her is such a huge
choose also and somedays i feel its the
right choice and then other days im just
like "holy caca can i honestly take care
of a child when im still a child myself??"
but i have so much support and anything
finacial is not a problem at all. i know
that i can do this. |
you could always give the child up for
adoption until your 18 
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Posted: 12-31-07 03:06am
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suzy what are you doing up??? OH YEAH,
you have a newborn. 
I'm just going to bed, lol!
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young Girl
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Posted: 12-31-07 03:07am
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lol actually shes alseep! call me crazy i
know!
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Posted: 12-31-07 09:58am
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Future, rehashing the risks with someone
who can no longer abort is a bit more than
unnecessary.
To the OP, I'm so happy your parents were
supportive! With school and all the other
crap teens have to deal with, it's so
important to have your parents behind you
anyway...and with a baby, mom's are even
more so [not just for teens, most first
time moms, of any age, rely on moms and
g-mas for advice and support]. I remember
the first time my oldest developed croup,
and I didn't know what to do. I wanted to
rush to the doctor. My mom calmly led me
into the bathroom and blasted the shower,
recounting all the times she'd done it
with me, and how steam helps and on and
on, lol.
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Posted: 12-31-07 11:23am
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| Altari
wrote: | Future, rehashing the risks
with someone who can no longer abort is a
bit more than unnecessary.
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First of all, I made sure to say this
first:
"None of these finding say these bad
things will happen to everyone. These
findings are not talking about you. They
are just an overview of the risks to
younger teens in general."
Second of all, knowing the risks of
something can help a person avoid them.
In this specific case, she still has time
to take as good care of herself as
possible, eating right, taking vitamins,
not smoking or drinking alcohol, etc.,
etc. to minimize any risks.
Third, it's outrageous that her parents
put her in this situation, and I am
pointing this out for anyone else reading
this.
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I_Love_Justin
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Posted: 12-31-07 14:43pm
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Ya the whole dying during labor is
something my boyfriend is actully realy
scared about. but i mean its almost 2008
the risk is like slim to none. which is
good. and ya i hated my parents for
awhile for not letting me get an abortion.
that would of so been the best thing for
me and my boyfriend. and i dont know if
my paerents relieze that this is going to
affect them hugely seeing as i do not have
a job (for now) and they wil be paying for
all this baby stuff and medical bills and
i dont what my point there was and im to
lazy to backspace it all. sorry. but like
i said earlier i know that this will work
out fine. well i really really hope.
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Posted: 12-31-07 17:41pm
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Yes I was going to ask who would be
financially responsible for this child?
You are not working, are you in school? at
15 you cant even get a job. Are you doing
anything from home? babysitting? running
errands? you can find ways to earn
money... not enough but some?
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