This is a serious question and I need some
help. First let me say that I am not a
social person. I really dont trust people
but I need someones advice and help right
now. I was going on a trip to see my wifes
family. I had my kids in the car(from a
previous marriage) and I was driving
through a blizzard to get to her families
house. I opened the trunk to get the tire
chains and put them on the tires and
inside was a bottle of valtrex. I called
her immediately and she confessed that she
had herpes and had since she was 17 and
that she did indeed lie to me( I guess it
wasnt lying,she just didnt tell me). I
decided that I would wait til after the
trip to adress it since, I dont know, what
else was I gonna do? I was half way to her
parents house and it was a 12 hour drive.
I felt like I should turn the car around
and go home and never come back,but I
didnt. And I promised for my kids sake
that I wouldnt ruin christmas over it. I
waited after we got back from the trip for
her to say something but of course she
didnt so I had to bring it up. She just
keeps saying " I dont know what to say..."
I must say that I have never felt the way
I feel right now. I am numb and I feel so
insecure and just....empty. She refuses to
make it a big deal and I feel like she
should be oh, I dont know,KISSING MY
FREAKING ASS RIGHT NOW! But instead she
has been ignoring me and making me feel
like I did something wrong,not her. I
really love my wife. But I think this has
changed my heart, I really do. I am angry
and sad and numb. I feel like I am looking
at a blank screen right now. How could she
do this,thats what I keep asking myself.
How could she do this? She is supposed to
love me and she wont make amends for what
she did. She makes me ask her to say sorry
and ask her to talk about it. I mean its a
pretty freaking big deal! It changes sex
and love. It changes our whole life!!! I
dont know what to do... I am genuinely at
a loss. I have never felt this lost. I
mean what do you do when someone betrays
you like this?
