hello!!
well i just want some help im 16 and all i
think of is having a baby my own child.
my mum would be angry and sad but i think
that at the same time happy cause she
would be having her first
grandchild.....the problem is i want to
finish my studies that cause i live in
spain i have this year and 2 more.
should i wait??? and when i finish have a
baby or just have a baby when im older...
my boyfriend and i have been going out for
a year and a half
what should i do??? help please i would be
very greatfull
thank you for listening to me
happy new year to all!!!
kisses xxx teddies
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futuredaddy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2007 Posts: 24
Posted: 01-02-08 09:26am
bad idea.. believe me, you don't want a
child at your age.
my child isn't even born yet and i'm
already stressed 24/7
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stefanialynn
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Dec 2007 Posts: 30 Location: Horsham , PA US
Posted: 01-02-08 09:56am
you are dreaming...
JUST WAIT PLEASE... the girlfriend needs
to get in here and tell you all about the
long sleepless nights, the not showering
eating or doing what you want to do when
you want to do it
Do you drive? Do you have a job? Does your
boyfriend have a job? What if he leaves
you? Can you raise the baby on your own?
Why would you want to make your mom sad or
angry with you even if you knew it was
only for a short time? Do you want to stay
in while your girlfriends go out partying?
Why do you want to take the fast track?
You should get married live with your
boyfriend have a steady income then make a
family!
Finish your studies and see where your at
in your life. Education is so important
and you need to take advantage of it as
much as you can.
Dont have unprotected sex & go on
BIRTH CONTROL
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Ayrshire-lass
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2007 Posts: 649 Location: Ayrshire, Scotland
Posted: 01-02-08 10:26am
hmmm all i'm going to say is that i realy
wanted a baby at your age and everyone
around me found it sooo redicilus. my
friends thought i was sooo stupid. so i
ended up going to college and doing a few
courses. see if i had a kid at 16 i would
of missed out on the best 3 years of my
life! college days, jobs, holidays,
partys, onenightstands lol meeting new
people. i wouldnt never of done any of
that. i'll just say that try to give in to
your craving and live your life out in
spain for a while. your living a dream for
somepeople. ok u may want to be a young
mum but it doesnt mean that your lacking
fun from your life hope that
helped a wee bitty.
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Ayrshire-lass
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Dec 2007 Posts: 649 Location: Ayrshire, Scotland
Posted: 01-02-08 10:26am
hmmm all i'm going to say is that i realy
wanted a baby at your age and everyone
around me found it sooo redicilus. my
friends thought i was sooo stupid. so i
ended up going to college and doing a few
courses. see if i had a kid at 16 i would
of missed out on the best 3 years of my
life! college days, jobs, holidays,
partys, onenightstands lol meeting new
people. i wouldnt never of done any of
that. i'll just say that try to give in to
your craving and live your life out in
spain for a while. your living a dream for
somepeople. ok u may want to be a young
mum but it doesnt mean that your lacking
fun from your life hope that
helped a wee bitty.
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Idony
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Posted: 01-02-08 10:40am
dont do it, wait until your older please
i got pregnant my senior year, it was
seriously hard and i only had 2 classes a
day then 1 in night school every monday
and wendsday, i had to go to school
through morning sickness, when i was
tired, i even went when i was in labor,
all because i didnt want to fail, i
gradutaed when my baby girl was 2 weeks
old, its really really hard
even though im done with school (for now,
some day i would love to go to college)
its still hard, my daughter is awake most
of the day (shes 7 monthes now) and sleeps
from 7 or 8 at night until about 5 or 6 in
the morning, and lately shes been waking
up at least once during the night, i dont
have time to shower as often as i use to,
i eat 1 MAYBE 2 meals a day and thats just
snatching something when she is asleep or
when im feeding her, i never get to go out
and have fun, she crys all the time its
insane
dont get me wrong i love my baby to death
but its so incredably difficult....just
wait until your older please
~alicia~
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Altari
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Nov 2007 Posts: 125 Location: Chicago, IL USA
Posted: 01-02-08 13:57pm
I had my daughter right after I finished
my junior year. It was hell. The pregnancy
wasn't planned - my b/f (now hubby) and I
had plans to finish high school, get
married, go to college, have this perfect
little life where we built our lives
together, had the "normal" life, etc. But
we got preggers, and everything kind of
fell apart. We spent a lot of our 17-19
year old relationship fighting and
bickering. We made it through it (he's
finishing college this year, and I'm doing
online-associate's), but we're the hard
core exception. It was a FIGHT every step
of the way. This year is our Jubilee (our
7th year together) and things are finally
getting in order, lol.
So, do the smart thing, and avoid it at
all costs. You won't lose much in your
young relationship if you don't have sex.
And if your hormones feel you 'must', get
on good b/c - the ring, for instance, so
you don't need to remember to take a pill
each day.
I won't even go into the sleepless nights,
the croup, the depression, the ugh...Just
think about how much easier your life will
be if you wait until you're in your early
20s and you've had time to get the
craziness out of your system.
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Katrinadoodle
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Nov 2007 Posts: 1231
Posted: 01-02-08 15:42pm
Don't do it. I'm 16 and have a daughter
that's nearly 2 weeks old. Having a baby
is the most amazing thing in the world,
but it is hard. Wait until you're out
of school and have some money saved up and
a decent income, because babies are
expensive. I've gone through 3 packages of
diapers in the last week and a half, and
each pack is $20 a pop. I've also gone
through 2 cans of formula, and that's $25
a can. We went to our first doctors
appointment, and it would have been $115
without insurance. Even with insurance the
copay was $40. And that was just for a
checkup. When she goes in for her
immunizations, we're looking at a $600
bill without insurance. All this is on top
of my labor and delivery bill, which we
haven't even gotten yet, but we're looking
at another $800 with insurance already
covering 80% of it. Babies aren't cheap.
You need all the money you can save, every
last penny counts. And is it really fair
for you to make your parents spend their
money on a child you purposefully created
when you wouldn't be able to support it?
Aside from the money, the emotional toll
is crazy. Jayden is a relatively "good"
baby, she doesn't really cry unless she
needs a diaper change. But I'm up with her
ever two hours, and by the time I get her
fed and changed and back off to sleep I've
been up for an hour. The only reason I get
enough sleep is because I can sleep most
of the day too. Can you imagine trying to
go to school after only a few hours of
fractured sleep every night? Schools don't
give you a maternity leave. Then there's
all the hormones that shoot through your
body after birth, they make you swing from
being so happy one second to feeling like
you're the worst mother in the world and
everything is going wrong the next. It
will cause problems with your boyfriend,
you just can't help but pick fights with
all the stress.
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Dannzibelle
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Joined: 23 Oct 2006 Posts: 3742 Location: South East, England
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Posted: 01-02-08 15:44pm
I am 16 and i gave birth 6 months ago two
weeks after i turned 16. I have terrible
post natal depression right now and i'm
stressing about things most people don't
think of until they're in their mid
twentys. I don't know why people would
plan to have a baby this young, they
obviously have no brain IMO.
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Verizon-y
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Joined: 29 Aug 2007 Posts: 3291
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Posted: 01-02-08 16:36pm
Wow. This is an excellent, real life,
in-your-face thread. If any teen still
wants to have a baby before they graduate
from high school, get married or at least
are in a long term committed relationship,
and can financially support themselves,
I'd like to know why.
To all of the teens who think they will
just live at home and care for their
babies, besides the fact that it is
extremely selfish to burden your parents
that way, what about when you are 18? How
will you support yourself and your child
without an education? What kind of job
can a high school drop out get?
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Altari
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Nov 2007 Posts: 125 Location: Chicago, IL USA
Posted: 01-02-08 16:51pm
Katrinadoodle
wrote:
Can you imagine trying to go
to school after only a few hours of
fractured sleep every
night?
Been there, done that. It sucks. I (a
straight A student pre-baby) managed to
pull a C in a lame English class because
it was 1st hour. Half the time the teacher
had to wake me up. Forget the
embarrassment of leaking nipples. I also
forgot things ALL THE TIME. I forgot our
semester end project, entirely.
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manuftw82
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Joined: 02 Dec 2007 Posts: 359 Location: Vestal/LI, NY USA
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Posted: 01-02-08 17:59pm
Definately wait! You are still a kid and
have so many things to experience before
you have a baby! I'm glad that I did not
get pregnant as a teen and I'm glad that
I'm still not pregnant now. I enjoy
college and my job and going out with
friends. There will be plenty of time for
babies later in life.
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young Girl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 01-02-08 21:50pm
wait
mmkay?
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 01-03-08 11:55am
the_girlfriend
wrote:
wait
mmkay?
lol! I love it when you say that!
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jessamyn
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Posted: 01-03-08 13:28pm
um if you havent accidentally got pregnant
dont plan on it purposely anytime soon
please, thanks!
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Electriceyes
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Nov 2007 Posts: 1059 Location: Monroe, Michigan United States
Posted: 01-03-08 14:02pm
Please wait. Live the rest of your teens
kid free, have fun do what teens are
supposed to do. Screw up some. Don't be
stuck having to take care of a baby when
you should be out having fun.
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Altari
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Nov 2007 Posts: 125 Location: Chicago, IL USA
Posted: 01-03-08 15:23pm
princess6591
wrote:
Please wait. Live the rest
of your teens kid free, have fun do what
teens are supposed to do. Screw up some.
Don't be stuck having to take care of a
baby when you should be out having
fun.
LoL, it's really hard to take care of kids
when you have a hangover.
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Electriceyes
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Nov 2007 Posts: 1059 Location: Monroe, Michigan United States
Posted: 01-03-08 16:03pm
lol...i've gone to babysit after a long
night of drinking but I don't get
hangovers so I don't know
what i'd do if i had to actually take care
of a baby with one
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bellax0x
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jun 2004 Posts: 3572 Location: Jersey Baby!
Posted: 01-03-08 21:53pm
haha i've been in that situation too!
knock on wood that i've never got a
hangover
here's a story for you
i've wanted a baby since i was 14 or 15
years old. i never tried for one but at 16
i accidentaly got preg.. i thought my
dreams came true even though it was an
accident. well, turns out that it NEVER
happens the way you picture it... everyone
turned against me keeping the baby and i
wound up getting an abortion. it's a
decision i regret and think about
everyday. its been 2 years
please wait
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young Girl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 01-03-08 21:56pm
bellax0x
wrote:
haha i've been in that
situation too! knock on wood that i've
never got a hangover
here's a story for you
i've wanted a baby since i was 14 or 15
years old. i never tried for one but at 16
i accidentaly got preg.. i thought my
dreams came true even though it was an
accident. well, turns out that it NEVER
happens the way you picture it... everyone
turned against me keeping the baby and i
wound up getting an abortion. it's a
decision i regret and think about
everyday. its been 2 years
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