Dannzibelle
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I'm Not Coping
Posted: 01-02-08 11:51am
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I thought i was but i'm not. I've just
gone backwards and now when i've come on
here to get all my feelings out and try to
get some advice Mika's just woken up and
is screaming at me. I'm a terrble mother,
i don't want my baby. Every night she
screams for two hours until i finally give
in and let her come into bed with me,
meaning that i don't get a good sleep and
am exhausted for all the next day and then
because she won't go to sleep in time she
wakes up later so then doesn't get her
three solid meals a day and isn't in a
routine like i've been trying.
Everyday i have to put up with my dad
asking me when i'm moving out, how long is
it going to be until i move out, can i get
Mika to be quiet while he's trying to
watch tv, why have i left her in the
lounge while i go into the kitchen etc
etc. He couldn't make it move obvious that
he doesn't want me here if he tried.
I miss Dom so much. I hate not living
together, it's tearing us apart, our
relationship is in ruins right now.
We were promised somewhere to live and
were told we would have somewhere before
Christmas without a doubt, we're still at
our parent's. Dom's mum's moving hundreads
of miles away in a few months and if we
don't have somewhre of our own he's going
too. And he won't have a job after friday
because it was temporary.
I really don't know what to do, i try to
be positive and upload photo's etc and all
those other things but deep down all i
want to do is cry, i just don't know what
to do anymore.
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rosejackson
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Posted: 01-02-08 11:57am
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are you on the council or anything that
can house you? because if you are, you can
get your dad to write that he is chucking
you out. doesnt sound nice, but you and
dom will be placed in emergency
accomodation together, which will be
temperary until they find a suitable place
for a family to live in
i know things are hard now. things will
get better. keep strong
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Becky
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Posted: 01-02-08 11:59am
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Danni I am so sorry you are going through
this. i went through exactly the same
thing with Layla and I am sunk in
depression too now. Would you like me to
come down and visit you? I could come
pretty easily on the train or drive down
with Robbie. I am free tomorrow or Friday.
I think it is much better in person to
talk....
Give me a text or speak on here
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acruz
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Posted: 01-02-08 12:00pm
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I am so sorry to hear that you are having
a rough time. I wish I could help you,
babysit or something...but you are too far
away  Please do not
think that you are a bad mother...you love
and provide for Mika and that makes you a
great mother. Please keep your head high!
pm me anytime if you want to talk. *Big
Hug*
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Idony
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Posted: 01-02-08 12:02pm
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i sent you a pm hun
~alicia~
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 01-02-08 12:03pm
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| rosejackson
wrote: | are you on the council or
anything that can house you? because if
you are, you can get your dad to write
that he is chucking you out. doesnt sound
nice, but you and dom will be placed in
emergency accomodation together, which
will be temperary until they find a
suitable place for a family to live in
i know things are hard now. things will
get better. keep
strong |
We're on it already. All they can offer is
a bed and breakfast where you have to be
out by 9am and in my 5pm. There's no other
flats or houses available because they
give them to jumkies and scroungers.
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rosejackson
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Posted: 01-02-08 12:07pm
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the council should usually offer emergency
occomodation (eg a hostel) until they find
you somewhere else. a bed and breakfast
really isn't suitable for a family to live
in. have you tried being on the housing
association? that's what housed us when
william was a week old.
i hope your situation gets better. try not
to blame yourself. has dom tried getting a
job at a supermarket? they usually offer
jobs on a daily basis, like asdas and
tescos? even as a trolley boy for the time
being. any type of income helps. or even a
paper boy? brings in a few extra pennies a
week
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NotEnoughForAnyone
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Posted: 01-02-08 12:08pm
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I'm sorry things are not going the way you
need them too. I hope it gets straitened
out soon hun. I wish I had some advice but
I got nothing but hope for you.
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jessesgirl
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Posted: 01-02-08 12:09pm
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I'm so sorry to hear about this.
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Becky
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Posted: 01-02-08 12:12pm
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If it's not convienant for me to come up I
could always just give you a call on your
mobile. I don't like to just call randomly
but if you would like me too, i will
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Shanyan
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Posted: 01-02-08 12:26pm
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I am so sorry that your going through all
this. Don't ever think that you are a bad
mother....you are doing the best you
can!!!!! I hope that things get better for
you and Dom. If his mother moves and he
goes with her is it possible that you and
Mika would be able to move with them?
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CaNdItAs CrAzY LaNd
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Posted: 01-02-08 12:44pm
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hun you are a good mom. you are just going
thru a rough patch right now we all have
been there in one point in our lives des
had colic and that was not fun and dereke
was gone allll the time so he was never
home to help i had to do it on my own
which sux big time. just hang in all will
get better soon have you talked to your dr
again yet??? is there anyone who could
take her for a while so you can just rest
for a while? i wished i was there for you
i would help you
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Bridget
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Posted: 01-02-08 12:45pm
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i'm really sorry, danni. i hope things get
sorted out real soon for you.
you are not a bad mom.
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mamaTT
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Posted: 01-02-08 12:48pm
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I'm sorry you are feeling so down. I hope
things get better for you soon.
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moldedbymercy88
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Posted: 01-02-08 13:29pm
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I don't know what to say other than I am
so sorry you are going through this. I
can't imagine how much it would hurt if
you were ONLY dealing with your dad making
you feel unwelcome. I can't imagine
everything at once. I'm so
sorry.............
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monkeygirl22
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Posted: 01-02-08 15:56pm
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I'm sorry Danni. I don't really know what
to say but I do hope things get better.
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Dannzibelle
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Posted: 01-02-08 15:58pm
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I think my dad realised how horrible he's
been. He's being a little nicer but in
honesty i can't blame him for being mean,
i mean who wants to live with their 16
year old and her 6 month old. I just hate
the situation i'm in but i can't complain,
i chose to keep Mika and i knew it would
be hard
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-Tanya-
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Posted: 01-02-08 17:26pm
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You aren't a bad mother Danni. So many
mothers have been there.
You can pm me anytime you want. I know
what it's like feeling like you just can't
do it. Not even wanting to be a mother,
and feeling like the future is completely
hopeless. Talk to me if you want to.
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Katrinadoodle
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fairytale007
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Posted: 01-02-08 17:58pm
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I'm so sorry to hear that you're going
through this. You shouldn't have to deal
with stuff like that. You're a great girl,
and you deserve only the best. I know how
it feels to always be asked when you're
moving out. It sucks.
And know that you're not a bad mother at
all. It's hard to take care of a baby, esp
when you're young. Don't be so hard on
yourself..you're a great girl and doing
the best you can with Mika. Hang in there.
We're all here for you. 
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