i have a question...i'm 23,and I'm a
virgin. I'm ready to have sex with my
boyfriend but I dont want to tell him I've
never had sex. For those men out there,
I'm wondering....if there is no bleeding
will he know I am a virgin when we have
sex?
How does a guy really know?Will I be
really tight? err
Is it hard to tell?
Thanks !
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unnamedny
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Posted: 01-02-08 22:20pm
Well I can tell you honestly, he probably
knows that you are a virgin by your
actions. If he has some experience then
he'll know I'm almost 100% sure.
a)You are not going to know what to do and
how to do things properly, what if he
wants to change a position, let's say from
the side, or from the back.
b)Girls are usually extremely shy, they
are very afraid to take their clothing
off
c)You probably will not enjoy the first
time, it could be seen by the guy.
There are more signs I just gave you the
most common. Don't be shy that you are a
virgin, I lost mine when I was 21, there
is nothing to be ashamed of.
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bslucy
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Posted: 01-02-08 22:29pm
what about actual physical signs though?
Lets say a woman is confident, not shy,
and seems to enjoy it.
I'm pretty sexually experienced, I've just
never had actual penetration. I'm
definitley not shy in bed....so I'm
wondering more about what it feels like
for the guy when he's with a virgin vs. a
woman who isnt. Is there any way to
physically tell?
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jaynemae
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Posted: 01-02-08 23:01pm
sorry, i know you want a guys opinion,
but...you might want to tell him anyway,
just because it can hurt and he may go a
little more gently at first. otherwise he
may end up hurting your down there area.
trust me, when it gets hurt, it doesn't go
away quick!
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TwistedJack
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Posted: 01-09-08 19:57pm
Well, I myself haven't ha sex with a
virgin before, but I'm almost positive
virgins tend to be tighter and wetter, but
that may hold true for second or third
timers as well.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 01-09-08 20:35pm
TwistedJack
wrote:
Well, I myself haven't ha
sex with a virgin before, but I'm almost
positive virgins tend to be tighter and
wetter, but that may hold true for second
or third timers as
well.
That's not true at all.
Grr...
Girls are tighter if they're not in the
mood or they're not turned on, or nervous.
Are they are "wetter" if they are more
turned on, or some women just get wetter
than others.
Sex does not physically change a woman's
vagina AT ALL
unless she had an intact hymen, which is
pretty rare.
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Roberta777
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Lost My Virginity Posted: 01-09-08 20:48pm
when my brother put me upon our horse
without a saddle. I remember that when I
barely survived by holding onto the reigns
of the horse and her hair that I barely
made it back to the house. There was
blood on my panties. I was seven or eight
years old.
First time for me was very pleasurable.
Just is up to the guy to make you get to
the point that you want to have sex.
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TwistedJack
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Posted: 01-09-08 20:53pm
Oh I'm sorry! I didn't mean to misguide
anyone, Iv'e been under that impression.
Thank you for correcting me though, I
wouldn't know otherwise .
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Georgia59
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Posted: 01-10-08 14:37pm
No, that's fine. Sorry to jump on you
I just get upset because it's a common
misconception and it is bad for women.
Just like the idea that if a girl doesn't
have a hymen, she isn't a virgin.
Telling him will not only allow him to
make it a better experience for you, but
it will show honesty in the
relationship... and that can never be
replaced.
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doiwku
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Joined: 03 Dec 2007 Posts: 11
- Posted: 01-27-08 11:41am
I honestly think you should tell your
boyfriend! He wont try and ruffle you up
as much, and you most likely will get hurt
if he trys. There will be blood if he
accurately pops the cheery, there is a
VERY small chance he wont, but seeing
blood might worry him, confuse him, or
gross him out (cause he was not expecting
it). If you tell him, he will be prepared,
not get at worried if he sees blood, make
sure your not being put in situations your
body cant handle. Also having sex with a
virgin can be extreamly hot, knowing that
you to love each other and want to have
that sexual love connection will just
simply better your relationship. He will
most likely end up hurting you, I really
think you should tell him. Plus he needs
to know some time.
also from what your saying, he probably
knows, unless you have convinced him
otherwise(like told him you have had sex
before).
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Georgia59
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 5320 Location: Along the Mississippi, USA
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