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Underage Sister Wants Birth Control Posted: 01-03-08 16:10pm
Sorry this is so long. Ok I'm in a sort of
sticky situation and need some good
advice. My younger sister is 15 years old
and even though there is a 10 year age
difference, we have always been very
close. Yesterday she came over to our
house to hang out and spend the night and
all the while she was texting and IM'ing
her boyfriend. During one of her IM'ing
episodes, I was walking into our computer
room and just glanced at the screen, and
was very surprised at the seriousness of
their conversation. I joked with her by
saying "cool it down, I'm not ready to be
an aunt yet". Then she said that she
needed to talk to me about something very
personal. I told her of course....Then she
springs it on me! She said that she is
considering having sex with her boyfriend
and wants me to help her obtain birth
control! I nearly passed out! Really I
think I was frozen for about minuet.
Anyway I told her that I was concerned
that her having sex now is not the wisest
thing to do and that I think she should
wait untill she was older. I explained to
her that virginity is not something you
just give up, that sex is something very
special and worth waiting for. I explained
that I'm not saying to wait untill
marriage just wait a while untill she is
sure she is in love and ready. Well, she
of course insist that she is in
love...yada yada yada...and that she knows
he is the one. I just told her I would
have to think on it and get back with her.
Ok obviously there is nothing I can do to
stop her and if she does do it I want her
to be protected. What do yall think I
should do? Should I help her obtain bc?
Can I even do that if I'm not her parent?
I feel so awkward because if our parents
ever found out...whoa they would kill us
both....its not like they can ground me
anymore, LOL, but silent treatment can be
rough! Any advice yall have would be so
appreciated!!! Thanks yall so much!
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 01-03-08 16:27pm
You're right, she is going to have sex
whether or not you tell her it's ok or
not.
The best thing to do is make sure she is
protected.
I would help her get the birth control.
Even if she was on birth control, that
doesn't necessarily mean she has to have
sex, she will just be prepared when she is
ready.
By the way, make sure to tell her that she
has to wait 3 months while taking the pill
before she is protected. She will have to
use condoms during that 3 month time.
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 01-03-08 16:27pm
You're right, she is going to have sex
whether or not you tell her it's ok or
not.
The best thing to do is make sure she is
protected.
I would help her get the birth control.
Even if she was on birth control, that
doesn't necessarily mean she has to have
sex, she will just be prepared when she is
ready.
By the way, make sure to tell her that she
has to wait 3 months while taking the pill
before she is protected. She will have to
use condoms during that 3 month time.
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sammisa
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Posted: 01-03-08 16:33pm
If she chooses to have intercourse, she
needs to be protected via birth control
and condoms (to prevent stds). With it
being her first time, and her being so
young, she is not going to think about
what could happen, ya know?
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lele25
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Posted: 01-03-08 20:03pm
Thank you. I just don't feel comfortable
with this at all. I feel like I'm giving
her the green light to have sex if I help
her to obtain birth control. On the other
hand I'd feel horrible if I didn't help
her and she got pregnant or an STD. I also
keep worring about what would happen if
our parents found out. Yes I am a grown
and married woman but still, they would be
so upset with me for "helping her to have
sex". I don't think kids should be going
through this kind of stuff so young I mean
I was 18 the first time I had sex...I know
that's only a 3 year difference, but
there's a lot of maturing between 15 and
18. She'll be back over on Sat. Do yall
think ther's anything else I can say to
her to prevent her from doing it?
