I am 15 years old. I live in a urban city
where teenage pregnancy is pretty much an
everyday thing. Most of it occurs when
they get to high school, but it won't be
much of a surprise of you see a 7th grader
with a buldge. All three of my older
sisters got pregnant before 18; only one
finished high school.
Due to the large percentage of pregnant
girls, doctors and teachers etc. try to
inform us on how to protect ourselves. I
remember getting my first sex talk in the
5th grade and then two more the following
years until they offered us condoms in the
8th.
I took it more seriously than pretty much
everyone else. I got on birth control 5-6
months before I lost my virginity (which
was a year ago).
And Recently, back in October, my doctor
upgraded my pills to a stronger brand due
to constant spotting. You're supose to
wait a full week whenever you change your
birth control prescription or risk
unplanned pregnancy, which I knew and
understood completely. (My sister messed
up on that one.)
When I started running out of placebos in
late October, I called up my pharmacy and
ordered a refill using a barcode they
have, not the actual pill's name. My
mother, who knows I'm sexually active and
has met my boyfriend, went to pick it up.
They told her that they never recieved a
prescription order from me.
Now, my mother was given two choices:
a) call me and ask for the name of the
birth control I'm currently taking
b) or guess
She guessed (picked the wrong one) and
didn't tell me a thing about the incident.
I'm pretty sure that in other pharmacies,
you'll notice if you get the wrong
prescription but like I said, I live in a
city. They give us our birth control in
these flimsy cheap packets that often
tear. On the flap of the packets, they
place the prescription sticker but they
write the actual drug name in the teeniest
letters on the bottom left corner.
Of course, I didn't notice. I thought I
was getting the pills that I've called for
and my mother was just the delivery
person.
The first day of the new prescription I
had unprotected sex. Then again, two days
later; he came inside both times if you're
wondering.
Two weeks after that, I spot bled for 2
days. I didn't get my period on the
placebo week.
I started calculating things out and
counting days when my eyes somehow landed
on the prescription name. It was the wrong
freaking one; I asked my mother what
happened and she just told her story as if
it wasn't a big deal. She doesn't have an
idea what she just did. But I stayed
quiet.
I switched back to my regular pills and
waited a month for the placebo week. I got
my period a couple of days late, but it
seems like a regular period.
Could I still be pregnant? I've heard that
some girls still recieve their period
while they're pregnant.
Personally, I think it's more of my
mother's fault than mine. Yes, I should
have analyzed my packet more but like I
said, I've been on it for a year, I had a
routine to this. We both had a routine
to this. It's not like I hid my sex
life from her neither. She definately
knew.
Kind of sucks, ehh.
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bellax0x
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Posted: 01-03-08 21:57pm
first. it's not your mothers fault. if you
don't want to be pregnant you should not
have sex..
second. if you got a period you're most
likely not preg. you might have missed it
the first month bc it was new pills.. they
can do that to you sometimes. if you are
you'd be far enough along for a test to be
accurate so if you want to ease your mind
you can do that.
good luck!
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Katrinadoodle
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Posted: 01-03-08 22:10pm
^^ that's stupid. Consent to sex is not
consent to motherhood.
OP - Wait a week or so and then test.
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bellax0x
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Posted: 01-03-08 22:16pm
never said it was. she can have an
abortion or give her baby up for adoption
but consent to sex is a consent for all
the consequences.. would you say the same
thing about an STD? how about emotional
issues if a guy took your virginity and
then leaves you? you don't think you
consent to these things by having sex?
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young Girl
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Posted: 01-04-08 02:32am
take a test in a few weeks
if you are pregnant you have options
dont let anyone force you into anything
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Ayrshire-lass
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Posted: 01-04-08 08:55am
ever since i joined this website i have
never ever heard of someone giving the
option of abortion and adoption so much in
my life!
btw thats the last option. thats when
theres nothin else to do and your at the
end of your tether.
so anyway dnt pannic its bad for you! just
do what above said and wait a week or so,
you could even do it now. just buy a test.
n yes your mum really should of toold you
about it but i dnt think she knew she
guessed the wrong one lol. Mothers EH lol
good luck
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jessamyn
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Posted: 01-04-08 10:24am
hahahaha youre hilarous... its no ones
fault but your own. no matter if you live
in a perfect city or "urban city" it is
your own personal choice the actions you
take and teh consequences that happen due
to YOUR OWN personal decisions. Theres a
nice homicide rate in San Diego.. oh wow
should I go out and shoot someone now?
No... You're 15 and choosing to have sex,
whether or not your mom is cool with that
is not an issue. Even if she wasnt okay
with you having sex, mostlikely you still
would be... Sex has nothing to do with
peer pressure (or seeing a 7th grader with
a buldge) thats why there are still woman
who save their selves for marriage to this
day. If you dont want your mom "screwing
things up" then be an 'adult" about this
"adult matter" and get your own BC and
dont involve her.
Wait it out and test. and Best of Luck to
you and your family.
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josmi
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Posted: 01-04-08 21:24pm
to bellax0x:
i knew that if i had sex, there would be
consequences if i messed up. i gave that
consent when i started having sex. as for
the STD theory, my boyfriend was a virgin
but we both got tested before we became
sexually active. and yes, the guy who took
my virginity left me two weeks later. my
emotional issues weren't terrible. yeah i
felt like crap for a while but it's not
something i dwell on and become depressed.
i'm actually glad it happened because it
changed my perspective on guys.
to jessamyn:
i'm not pointing out my enviroment to make
me seem 'tough' or whatever; or to blame
my problem on it neither. my neighborhood
was just a main reason why i was so into
protecting myself from an early pregnancy.
i saw personally how tough it was to raise
a child and attend school at the same time
(a majority of my friends TRY to continue
their education after birth but they don't
last that long). i didn't want to fall
into the stereotype in which i'm expected
to. as a latina i am 51% more likely to
get pregnant before i hit 20 [ s
ource ] and living below the poverty
line i'm puts me 46% at risk. [ source ]
and yes, sex DOES have something to do
with peer pressure. apparently sex is a
'cool' thing to do nowadays. kids often
brag how many girls/guys they've been
with, that they got some last night, or
who's messed who, whatever. people in
general are pressured into sex all the
time. yeah, it's wrong. no, you shouldn't
listen to such pressure but not everyone
knows how to say no.
but those who do know how to say no can
and most probably will save themselves for
someone special. i do agree with that.
obviously i don't want my mother to screw
up on my birth control; that's why i took
the responsibilty of talking to her about
my situation. she was warned. she should
have known better, especially with what
happened to my sisters.
and i do pick up my own birth control but
because i'm human, every now and then i
don't have the time to do certain things.
i became an 'adult' and treated the
situation as an 'adult matter' and made a
personal phone call to my pharmacist.
and would you not trust a loved one with
picking up your medication for you? it's
not like i told a friend or an uncle or an
associate; i got someone more personal who
i trusted. i mean, if you can't trust the
person who gave birth to you, who can you
trust? but i guess i know better now. even
if i don't come up pregnant, i'll be sure
to check my pills out if my mother picks
them up for me.
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Verizon-y
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Re: 15/possibly Pregnant/birth Control Problem Posted: 01-04-08 22:12pm
josmi
wrote:
I am 15 years old.
Now, my mother was given two choices:
a) call me and ask for the name of the
birth control I'm currently taking
b) or guess
She guessed (picked the wrong one) and
didn't tell me a thing about the incident.
Personally, I think it's more of my
mother's fault than mine. Yes, I should
have analyzed my packet more but like I
said, I've been on it for a year, I had a
routine to this. We both had a routine
to this. It's not like I hid my sex
life from her neither. She definately
knew.
Kind of sucks, ehh.
It is your mother's fault if you are
pregnant for these reasons:
1) You are legally under her care and she
is responsible for you. You are too young
to make decisions like whether or not to
have sex. That's why the legal age of
consent is at least 16 and more often than
not, 18, in the United States.
2) She knew you were having sex, and
obviously condoned it because she went to
pick up your birth control pills for you.
3) She did not even tell you there may be
a problem with your prescription. You
seem to know more about what is going on
than she does. I am astonished that the
pharmacy let her "guess" which pills to
get you. This means that they filled the
wrong prescription.
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Jude-Love
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Joined: 17 Jun 2007 Posts: 727 Location: Williamstown, Kentucky USA
Posted: 01-04-08 22:21pm
Why is everyone jumping bad on this girl?
Effing stupid asses. She's a little young
to be sexually active, but SHE'S TAKING
BIRTH CONTROL. Pretty responsible and I
commend her mom for supporting her taking
it and it's wonderful they have an open
relationship about it.
Anyway, it's just an accident. Your
mother didn't know, it was a mistake on
your part too. I know how that can be
with the pharmacies....they suck so damn
bad and they don't care when they do
either.
I honestly do not think you are pregnant.
You can wait a little while and test, but
it doesn't really seem like you are. You
were spotting on the other pill you were
taking, so it makes sense that you'd have
some abnormal bleeding. The last period
you had, that you said seemed normal, what
color was the blood? Women do not have
actual periods while pregnant, they have
spotting that can seem like a period.
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young Girl
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Posted: 01-04-08 22:30pm
Ayrshire-lass
wrote:
ever since i joined this
website i have never ever heard of someone
giving the option of abortion and adoption
so much in my life!
btw thats the last option. thats when
theres nothin else to do and your at the
end of your tether.
so anyway dnt pannic its bad for you! just
do what above said and wait a week or so,
you could even do it now. just buy a test.
n yes your mum really should of toold you
about it but i dnt think she knew she
guessed the wrong one lol. Mothers EH lol
good luck
xxxxxxxxx
why is that the last option
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 01-04-08 23:01pm
I think it is the first option, lol!
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bellax0x
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Posted: 01-04-08 23:22pm
i was wondering that too
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Lilly Ivy
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Posted: 01-05-08 09:02am
josmi
wrote:
and yes, sex DOES have something to do
with peer pressure. apparently sex is a
'cool' thing to do nowadays. kids often
brag how many girls/guys they've been
with, that they got some last night, or
who's messed who, whatever. people in
general are pressured into sex all the
time. yeah, it's wrong. no, you shouldn't
listen to such pressure but not everyone
knows how to say no.
That's why you turn it around and brag
about being a virgin. That's what I did
for a good years before I finally got
into a stable relationship when I was
almost 16.
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bellax0x
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Posted: 01-05-08 09:42am
16 really isn't that old
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Lilly Ivy
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Posted: 01-05-08 10:14am
yes, but it's still older than 15 and even
more than a 7th grader. I was also smart
enough to get BC because I knew a baby
would ruin my life at that point in it. I
assume you are going to say 18 isn't old
enough either, but I'm 18 and pregnant
now.
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bellax0x
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Posted: 01-05-08 10:16am
hah well i'm 18 too. so i can't talk. hey
i lost my virginity at 14 so i'm not
saying you were bad for loosing it at 16
i'm just saying i don't think it's old
enough to brag about
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Lilly Ivy
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Posted: 01-05-08 10:19am
but when you are 14 and everyone else is
bragging about who they slept with/how
many the slept with, it's nice to be able
to brag about it then.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 01-05-08 11:56am
I think everyone who's telling you not to
have sex needs their head examined. Yeah,
you're young but you're being way more
responsible about it than most kids OLDER
than you on this forum!! SO screw everyone
else on this topic who's being all high
and mighty.
Secondly, I don't think you're pregnant.
If you had a normal period, then where
exactly would the embryo be living? You
bled it's entire world out, remember? It
has no where to stay. I don't think the
changed prescription mattered either. You
don't actually need to wait a week as long
as you start the new prescription right
when you finish the placebos.
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bellax0x
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Posted: 01-05-08 12:17pm
i'm not saying she shouldn't have sex. I'm
saying she shouldn't blame it on someone
else if something goes wrong
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