Joined: 04 Jan 2008 Posts: 46 Location: Minnesota,
starting on the pill Posted: 01-04-08 14:25pm
Hi, I'm new to this forum. I got my first
pap smear at the beginning of december
(all is good), and I discussed birth
control with my doctor. She gave me a
prescription and told me I could fill it
whenever I needed to. I just recently
became more intimate with my boyfriend,
but we have not had sex...though, we have
been close. I have only been with him for
a little over a month. I know that I am
not ready to have sex yet (I'm still a
virgin), but sometimes when we are both
"in the moment," it feels right. I was
hoping to have sex with only one
person...and since we haven't known each
other very long, I don't know if he is
"the one." I filled my prescription
yesterday, but now I'm having second
thoughts. I realized that the fact that
I'm not on birth control is what stopped
me. My boyfriend doesn't pressure me, and
stops when I ask him to. What do you guys
think I should do?
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Georgia59
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Posted: 01-08-08 03:30am
I'd start it. It takes seven days to be
fully protected from pregnancy, so you'll
need to be protected ahead of time.
Here's the thing- if you're not ready to
have sex, don't. Tell your boyfriend that.
What is stopping you? Why exactly don't
you feel ready (not that that's a bad
thing, just wondering)
do you trust yourself to wait until you
feel you are ready? Do you trust yourself
to wait until you are protected from
pregnancy, even in the heat of the moment?
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penpen
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Joined: 04 Jan 2008 Posts: 46 Location: Minnesota,
Posted: 01-08-08 21:00pm
What is stopping me? Well, I have only
known my boyfriend for a little over a
month, I would like to wait till marriage
(but I don't think that will happen), I'm
not on the pill, and I think I would
regret it if we do have sex.
Do I trust myself to wait? Yes, and no. I
stopped him once when we were close to
having sex. But other times I just get
these urges to have sex with him.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 01-08-08 21:06pm
If you feel that not being on birth
control will really stop you from having
sex, go ahead and wait to take it until
you are ready. But if you're afraid that
you might do it anyway, it's better to be
prepared, right? Those "heat of the
moment" decisions get us all
It makes sense that you'd want to wait.
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Georgia59
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Posted: 01-08-08 21:07pm
Maybe talk to the guy about it and just
tell him you're not ready and you'd like
his help in waiting.
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penpen
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Joined: 04 Jan 2008 Posts: 46 Location: Minnesota,
Posted: 01-08-08 21:27pm
Thank you very much for your help. I think
I will talk to him about it.
What are the odds of getting pregnant
without having sex...like his "privates"
touched mine, or if semen gets near my
area?
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Georgia59
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Posted: 01-08-08 21:36pm
Very close to 0
Not having sex is the best way to prevent
pregnancy.
If you wanted to get pregnant, you would
have to soak up semen in your hand right
away after he ejaculated and shove it into
your vagina. It's almost impossible to get
pregnant without having sex.
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penpen
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jan 2008 Posts: 46 Location: Minnesota,
Posted: 01-08-08 21:42pm
Haha, thanks. I don't want to get
pregnant...I just wanted to check to make
sure, because our "privates" have touched.
I was just a little worried. Thanks again!
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