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Masturbation Question
Posted: 01-06-08 01:14am
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Dose your spouses/significant other know
that you masturbate? I realize that it is
completely natural and almost everyone
does it but do you discuss it with your
spouse/s.o.? My husband and I have never
discussed it, though I'm sure he does, and
I certainly do as well. I know its a silly
question, but I was just wondering if it
was normal for couples to discuss and/or
acknowledge masturbating.
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PenguinsRus
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Posted: 01-06-08 12:58pm
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He knows that I do it. He encourages it
actually. If we make love and I'm not
able to finish, he'll encourage me to
finish myself. Same goes with if he's
giving me oral and I just can't quite get
over the edge. Usually he's pretty good
at getting me off, but if things aren't
working right, he knows that would be the
next best way for me to finish since he's
only known my body for a year and a half
but I've known mine for 20 years.
We just make it into a healthy part of our
relationship I suppose
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lele25
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Posted: 01-06-08 21:19pm
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| PenguinsRus
wrote: | He knows that I do it. He
encourages it actually. If we make love
and I'm not able to finish, he'll
encourage me to finish myself. Same goes
with if he's giving me oral and I just
can't quite get over the edge. Usually
he's pretty good at getting me off, but if
things aren't working right, he knows that
would be the next best way for me to
finish since he's only known my body for a
year and a half but I've known mine for 20
years.
We just make it into a healthy part of our
relationship I
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That's awesome that yall are so open.
Hopefully we will get to that point
eventually. We'r not prudes at all but
there are still somethings that I'm
hesitant to bring up. 
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Re: Masturbation Question
Posted: 01-06-08 21:43pm
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| lele25
wrote: | | Dose your
spouses/significant other know that you
masturbate? I realize that it is
completely natural and almost everyone
does it but do you discuss it with your
spouse/s.o.? My husband and I have never
discussed it, though I'm sure he does, and
I certainly do as well. I know its a silly
question, but I was just wondering if it
was normal for couples to discuss and/or
acknowledge
masturbating. |
Duh... My ex-fiancee knew I masturbated
often, even while we were dating and
engaged. We talked about it on occasion,
and even used web-cams to masturbate
together when we were away.
I would say it is important to discuss
masturbation! It is an activity you can do
together and it is part o a healthy sex
life.
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lele25
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Posted: 01-06-08 23:15pm
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Like I said, I know its a silly question,
but the other day I almost got caught in
the act when my husband got home early. I
was so worried about whether or not he
suspected anything! I know that is so
stupid! I should have been like "excuse me
babe kinda busy". Anyways, I don't know
why it embarresses me so much but I should
just get over it!
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Proud Mama
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Posted: 01-07-08 00:37am
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I was actually embarrased to tell my SO
that I have never done so before I met
him. I felt pathedic because I couldn't.
He was actually the one to encourge me to
"discover" myself and learn how. Now 7
years and one child later, which who was
conceived with the help of knowing myself
because more Os equal better chances, I'm
still not as good as he is but I'm sure
I'll get there.
Besides it is really different between the
two. 
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Posted: 01-07-08 00:41am
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| Proud Mama
wrote: | I was actually embarrased to
tell my SO that I have never done so
before I met him. I felt pathedic because
I couldn't. He was actually the one to
encourge me to "discover" myself and learn
how. Now 7 years and one child later,
which who was conceived with the help of
knowing myself because more Os equal
better chances, I'm still not as good as
he is but I'm sure I'll get there.
Besides it is really different between the
two. |
more O's equals better chances? of what?
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Posted: 01-07-08 06:17am
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| the_girlfriend
wrote: | | Proud Mama
wrote: | I was actually embarrased to
tell my SO that I have never done so
before I met him. I felt pathedic because
I couldn't. He was actually the one to
encourge me to "discover" myself and learn
how. Now 7 years and one child later,
which who was conceived with the help of
knowing myself because more Os equal
better chances, I'm still not as good as
he is but I'm sure I'll get there.
Besides it is really different between the
two. |
more O's equals better chances? of what?
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Getting pregnant. I was watching a program
the other day that talked about this. They
said there is a slightly better chance of
becoming pregnant if you have an orgasm
during the act of intercourse. Tho having
an orgasm is not necessary to become
pregnant. Just that orgasm slightly
increases the chance. Tho I have 3 kids
and did not have an orgasm during the act
of intercourse each time I conceived.
Oh forgot to answer the main question. Yes
my husband knows I masturbate and like
wise I know he does because we have talked
about it. But no we do not masturbate in
front of each other. I say if we are in
front of each other we might as well have
sex.
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Posted: 01-07-08 18:11pm
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Before anyone jumps on this, she does have
a valid scientific point.
For many women, during orgasm the vagina
shortens and the cervix descends, bringing
it closer to the tip of the penis and
dipping deeply into the deposited semen,
thus possibly increasing the amount that
gets inside etc etc.
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Posted: 01-07-08 23:15pm
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| the_girlfriend
wrote: | | Proud Mama
wrote: | I was actually embarrased to
tell my SO that I have never done so
before I met him. I felt pathedic because
I couldn't. He was actually the one to
encourge me to "discover" myself and learn
how. Now 7 years and one child later,
which who was conceived with the help of
knowing myself because more Os equal
better chances, I'm still not as good as
he is but I'm sure I'll get there.
Besides it is really different between the
two. |
more O's equals better chances? of what?
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Sorry. The more orgasms you have the
better the chance of you getting pregnant.
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Posted: 01-14-08 19:29pm
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| Proud Mama
wrote: | | the_girlfriend
wrote: | | Proud Mama
wrote: | I was actually embarrased to
tell my SO that I have never done so
before I met him. I felt pathedic because
I couldn't. He was actually the one to
encourge me to "discover" myself and learn
how. Now 7 years and one child later,
which who was conceived with the help of
knowing myself because more Os equal
better chances, I'm still not as good as
he is but I'm sure I'll get there.
Besides it is really different between the
two. |
more O's equals better chances? of what?
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Sorry. The more orgasms you have the
better the chance of you getting
pregnant. |
what? are you serious?
no the more orgasms you have does not
increase the chance of pregnancy.
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Posted: 01-14-08 19:29pm
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| Proud Mama
wrote: | | the_girlfriend
wrote: | | Proud Mama
wrote: | I was actually embarrased to
tell my SO that I have never done so
before I met him. I felt pathedic because
I couldn't. He was actually the one to
encourge me to "discover" myself and learn
how. Now 7 years and one child later,
which who was conceived with the help of
knowing myself because more Os equal
better chances, I'm still not as good as
he is but I'm sure I'll get there.
Besides it is really different between the
two. |
more O's equals better chances? of what?
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Sorry. The more orgasms you have the
better the chance of you getting
pregnant. |
what? are you serious?
no the more orgasms you have does not
increase the chance of pregnancy.
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Posted: 01-14-08 20:15pm
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| the_girlfriend
wrote: | | Proud Mama
wrote: | | the_girlfriend
wrote: | | Proud Mama
wrote: | I was actually embarrased to
tell my SO that I have never done so
before I met him. I felt pathedic because
I couldn't. He was actually the one to
encourge me to "discover" myself and learn
how. Now 7 years and one child later,
which who was conceived with the help of
knowing myself because more Os equal
better chances, I'm still not as good as
he is but I'm sure I'll get there.
Besides it is really different between the
two. |
more O's equals better chances? of what?
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Sorry. The more orgasms you have the
better the chance of you getting
pregnant. |
what? are you serious?
no the more orgasms you have does not
increase the chance of
pregnancy. |
Actually yes it potentially could. Did you
read what I wrote above? Orgasm causes
many changes in the vagina, including
causing the vagina to shorten and the
cervix to dip down, dipping into the
sperm, thus increasing the chances they
will get inside and cause pregnancy.
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Posted: 01-22-08 22:43pm
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INteresting information. Well, it
certainly didn't in our case. I was on bc
with the first one no big O when it
happen. I was only off of BC with the 2nd
one and no big O when that happened
either. So sad for me  Very interesting
info though.
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Posted: 01-22-08 22:54pm
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isnt the contraction of the muscles
suppose to help the sperm along too? It
makes sense suzy the guy has to orgasm to
let out the sperm so why would a females
orgasm help conceive?
My husbands in Iraq so we have dirty phone
conversations. lol. when hes home he
prefers to do it for me so if i threaten
ill do it myself I fet whatever I want.
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Posted: 01-22-08 23:07pm
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?...the orgasms is by clitors? or is it
vagainally? Or both? or either?
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Posted: 01-23-08 00:06am
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I just told my fiance that I materbate.
OMG he flips! I still have sex with him
and our sex relationship is great. Why
did i even tell him. I knew he would've
acted like that. Man....this sucks. I
should've kept it my little secret.
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Posted: 01-23-08 00:43am
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Seriously he's mad! How can I explain to
him? Geez i'm just a big idot for trying
to be open about it. Lele, think it out
before you tell yours. I should've done
the same. it was kinda impulse. I
thought mine would've been okay with it.
He totally not!
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Posted: 01-23-08 01:24am
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That isn't cool that he isn't okay with
it. Just explain to him that how can you
expect to be pleased by him, if you can't
please yourself...
You should be able to tell him and he
should be able to accept it. Does he
masturbate?
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Posted: 01-23-08 01:46am
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| Eiri
wrote: | | the_girlfriend
wrote: | | Proud Mama
wrote: | | the_girlfriend
wrote: | | Proud Mama
wrote: | I was actually embarrased to
tell my SO that I have never done so
before I met him. I felt pathedic because
I couldn't. He was actually the one to
encourge me to "discover" myself and learn
how. Now 7 years and one child later,
which who was conceived with the help of
knowing myself because more Os equal
better chances, I'm still not as good as
he is but I'm sure I'll get there.
Besides it is really different between the
two. |
more O's equals better chances? of what?
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Sorry. The more orgasms you have the
better the chance of you getting
pregnant. |
what? are you serious?
no the more orgasms you have does not
increase the chance of
pregnancy. |
Actually yes it potentially could. Did you
read what I wrote above? Orgasm causes
many changes in the vagina, including
causing the vagina to shorten and the
cervix to dip down, dipping into the
sperm, thus increasing the chances they
will get inside and cause
pregnancy. |
This is exactly right.
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