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young Girl
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I Need All of Your Advice: What Did You Do?
Posted: 01-07-08 17:06pm
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ok kristen WILL NOT sleep fore more than
an hour at a time, but even worse, she
REFUSES TO SLEEP in her bassinet or crib.
she will only fall asleep in her pink
bouncy chair and even then she doesnt
sleep for long.
so i need help and i have a question:
Is it wrong to lay a 6 week old in her
bassinet or crib and shut the door and let
her cry? she cries everytime i lay her
down and i always run to her. travis says
its ok for her to cry herself to sleep?
but is it?
maybe im just paranoid? maybe im spoiling
her?
did you all ever do this? or is it wrong?
  hellllppp
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Lauren_Jay15
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Posted: 01-07-08 17:36pm
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Hiya hun,
Personally I've never let Paige cry simply
because she hardly cries and if she does
its for a reason that needs caring. If
Kristen is crying because you've put her
down, or doesn't want to be where she is,
then I'd say give her 10 minutes, if she
doesn't settle, go soothe her, put her
back down, and again and again and
eventually she'll settle unless she just
isn't ready to go to sleep but she should,
if she's well fed, warm, clean bum and
dry, and not unwell I guess its ok to just
leave her but I wouldn't leave her for 10
minutes at a time.
Have you got like a ceiling projector or
something she can focus on?
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young Girl
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Posted: 01-07-08 17:39pm
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yes i have a mobile, this little music box
with music and fishes and bubbles on the
side of her crib.
its wierd, even if she eats, is changed
and everything ill lay her down because
she will fall asleep while im holding her
and the second i lay her down she cries
and cries and gets so upset.
but i dont know what else to do
i have to get more than 30 minutes to an
hour of sleep at a time. and i cant hold
her 24/7
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Mommy35
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Posted: 01-07-08 17:41pm
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I don't think it is possible to spoil a
baby as young as Kristen. I don't think I
would let her cry for long either. Maybe
5 minutes? That is easier said than done
though. I can't stand to hear Jaylon cry
to this day.
My advice would be to enjoy her liking to
be held while it lasts. When she gets
older you will want her to cuddle and she
won't want anything to do with it.
Jaylon would NOT sleep on his back or
side. The only time he would sleep was on
his stomach. Of course this is a no no
these days, but maybe give it a try for a
nap to see if it works.
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tinkinpink84
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Posted: 01-07-08 17:41pm
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i never di with joseph but with your first
your overly paranoid, but joseph also had
colic, he cried all the time, one time he
fell asleep in his carseat on a car ride
and i let him slep ther that night an he
slept for 5 whole hours! i was sooo hapy
but hats because he would cry from 11pm to
5am nonstop, maybe u should prop somethng
on the bassinet under the matress maybe
she doesnt like being flat on her back,
jordynne was really picky about that she
hated laying flat.
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musikmaker
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Posted: 01-07-08 17:45pm
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I didn't let Luke cry it out until he was
3 months old. That is when my doctor said
that it was okay. I don't like doing it
but he only falls asleep if he cries for
5-10 minutes.
I would think that with Kristen you are
going to just find a way to get her to
sleep. It was really hard with Luke. I
wish you luck.
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Posted: 01-07-08 17:54pm
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It's too early to let her cry on her own.
Sometimes she can be over-stimulated and
tired, and cry for that reason, so there
is nothing you can do for her at that
point. Sometimes you just can't see the
problem. Don't let her cry for maybe more
than 10 minutes because this will build up
gas in her tummy and then you will have
whatever the problem was, plus the gas
pain on your hands.
Colic sometimes starts to show up at this
age as well.
One of the best methods for me was letting
the baby fall asleep on my chest. I would
get some sleep that way too, even if it
wasn't as restful. I would just lie down
and put her on my chest facing me....the
warmth is good for gas pains, and babies
love to hear mom's heart tones.
You can use a baby bjorn or carrier when
you are doing this if you are worried
about sleeping too heavily and turning on
the baby or letting her fall off. I've
never had it happen, but it depends on how
heavy a sleeper you are.
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Posted: 01-07-08 17:56pm
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oh and.........
Sometimes babies love sleeping in the
carseat too. It's closer than a bassinet
and it props them up which also helps with
gas pain.
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Posted: 01-07-08 18:03pm
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I think it's absolutely wrong at such a
young age. She is way too young to
understand what is going on, or to have
the ability to sooth herself to sleep.
They develop those things later, but right
now I think it would be really cruel to
let her cry it out.
I didn't start sleep training Rowan in a
way where she would cry by herself in her
crib for a period of time until 7 plus
months (I think it might have been 8
months). Now I will put her in the crib
and she will cry while I put her there and
while I'm walking out, and then for a
couple of minutes after I close the door,
then sleep. She sleeps so much better
since I've allowed her to learn how to
self sooth (now she won't fall asleep
while I'm holding or rocking her
anymore!). Babies that young don't have
the ability to self-sooth yet. Their use
to your warm belly, rocking them and
holding them right. I know it's
frustrating, young babies often don't
sleep well, but I don't think leaving a
baby that young to self-sooth is the right
thing at all.
Rowan had colic, so she was a really bad
sleeper. She spent practically all her
awake time screaming, for four months. I
would turn on the bath water for her to
listen to, put her in her car seat in the
bathroom, turn off the lights and rock the
seat. It was the only way I could get her
to sleep. Once she was asleep I would
leave the room and the sound of the water
in the background would keep her asleep.
I obviously left the tub stopper out!
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kaerbear
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Posted: 01-07-08 18:37pm
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i agree that you shouldn't let her cry it
out. i'm glad others feel that way. they
need to know that you are trying to
comfort them even if they still cry. i
read this book called the baby whisperer
and it really helped a lot with knowing
when eadie was overstimulated and needed a
dark, quiet room to settle down in. at
that age, they have trouble getting
themelves to settle down and sleep. they
need help.
the only time you should let the baby cry
is if you feel like you are losing control
or losing your temper. if you ever feel
like that (not saying you do - but if you
did) then the best thing would be to just
leave them in a safe place and take a 5
minute break.
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young Girl
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Posted: 01-07-08 18:39pm
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kristen just started doing this i have no
idea why
sigh. i have to get some sort of sleep. i
really DO NOT want to do co sleeping.
serously. laura alreay warned me lol
i guess ill just coninue to put her in her
bouncy chair or carseat. i just hope she
gets on some kind of schedual. i cant just
let her cry. it hurts too bad and i start
to panic and then i get upset.
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jenniek
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Posted: 01-07-08 19:15pm
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Ok I didn't read everything but I don't
think I would let a baby that young cry it
out. I would wait until she is older for
that maybe 3 or 4 months at the youngest.
As for sleeping in the bouncy I would say
be tough and keep her in her crib.. It
may be a sleepless few nights but don't
start any bad habits you will regret
later. When brayden was that age he slept
in his bouncer when he got sick of that he
slept in his swing which then broke and so
he moved to sleeping in my bed..and now at
almost 11 months we are STILL battling to
get him to sleep in his bed.
Gosh Tanya how much was your water bill??
haha!
Last edited by jenniek on 01-07-08 19:20pm; edited 1 time in total
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young Girl
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Posted: 01-07-08 19:18pm
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| jenniek
wrote: | | Ok I didn't read everything
but I don't think I would let a baby that
young cry it out. I would wait until she
is older for that maybe 3 or 4 months. As
for sleeping in the bouncy I would say be
tough and keep her in her crib.. It may
be a sleepless few nights but don't start
any bad habits you will regret later.
When brayden was that age he slept in his
bouncer when he got sick of that he slept
in his swing which then broke and so he
moved to sleeping in my bed..and now at
almost 11 months we are STILL battling to
get him to sleep in his
bed. |
yes but if i dont get sleep on these
antidepressants then i will be a nutcase
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Posted: 01-07-08 19:24pm
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i just skimmed this so i don't know anyone
else mentioned this, but do you swaddle
her? finn started sleeping through the
night at 4 weeks and i know he wouldn't
have if he wasn't swaddled. not every baby
likes it but it's something to try if you
haven't already. i think they feel more
secure and they can't flail about.
then once he outgrew his swaddle blankets
(we used the kiddopotamus brand, $10 at
walmart) we'd put him on his stomach
because that's what he liked. they do say
it's a no-no, but you have to do what
works. i think he was about 3 months when
we started doing that.
good luck!
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Sandbox Party
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Posted: 01-07-08 19:27pm
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have you thought maybe you are letting her
sleep too much durring the day?
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young Girl
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Posted: 01-07-08 19:27pm
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| BridgetHeartsFinn
wrote: | i just skimmed this so i
don't know anyone else mentioned this, but
do you swaddle her? finn started sleeping
through the night at 4 weeks and i know he
wouldn't have if he wasn't swaddled. not
every baby likes it but it's something to
try if you haven't already. i think they
feel more secure and they can't flail
about.
then once he outgrew his swaddle blankets
(we used the kiddopotamus brand, $10 at
walmart) we'd put him on his stomach
because that's what he liked. they do say
it's a no-no, but you have to do what
works. i think he was about 3 months when
we started doing that.
good luck! |
hah shes like her dad she hates blankets
covering her feet, she loved it until she
was about 3 weeks old. now she throws a
fit
she does love to sleep on my tummy
or she will sleep fine with me in my bed
whenever i take a nap and lay her with me.
another thing i knowticed is that she
HATES the dark.
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Posted: 01-07-08 19:46pm
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buy a cheap night light.. And I know what
you mean about being a nutcase without
sleep. If you have read my posts lately
I'm having a very difficult time with
Braydens sleeping too. Maybe you can just
talk to travis and his parents and get
everyones help for a few days until she
gets used to sleeping there..
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young Girl
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Posted: 01-07-08 19:49pm
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| Sandy_Pants
wrote: | | have you thought maybe you
are letting her sleep too much durring the
day? |
she DOESNT sleep during the day now
for the past i dunno maybe 4 days she
literally will sleep 30 minutes maybe an
hour at a time NEVER longer. and then shes
up
and when shes up she wants to be held
or she freaks
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young Girl
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Posted: 01-07-08 19:49pm
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| jenniek
wrote: | | buy a cheap night light..
And I know what you mean about being a
nutcase without sleep. If you have read
my posts lately I'm having a very
difficult time with Braydens sleeping too.
Maybe you can just talk to travis and his
parents and get everyones help for a few
days until she gets used to sleeping
there.. |
thats good idea lol
i think next weekend i wi;ll take her to
my moms and let my mom have her saturday
and then go pick her up sunday 
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kaerbear
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Posted: 01-07-08 20:08pm
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swaddling! i forgot about that. eadie did
so much better when she was swaddled but
we couldn't do it for the first little
while because it was too hot in the house.
she also has always preferred to sleep on
her side. i always roll up blankets
beside her so she stays put and it helps
her sleep better.
if you aren't breastfeeding then getting a
babysitter is the best option.
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