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young Girl

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I Am Livid Angry
Posted: 01-08-08 20:12pm

i am SO MAD i dont even know how im sitting here at the computer and not punching holes in the walls. i seriously need to vent
this will take a while to write but if everyone could read it that will be great. comments would be awsome to.

ok so
im in the room folding laundry right? and i took my phone off the charger to check and see if my mom called. well i had NINE missed calls. so i was like "ok thats normal, probably just my parents and my friend mikey or a few people calling me."
well i check the number and its my grammy (shes my dads sister. but weve always called her grammy) this is the one i was supposed to go see for that christmas gathering this but we ended up just going to my dads instead. anyways...
so then it says i have voice msgs. so then i go to check my msg and theres NINE of them all from my grammy. seriously 9. im not kidding

the first one went like this:
"hey suzannah its grammy. i got your christmas cards and pictures of the baby. i cant wait to see her. i hope you can bring her by soon. i stil have the $200 for you for your present and some stuff for the baby. i love you call me when you get this."

ok so then the next one: " hey suzy this is grammy again. i called about an hour ago. i just wanted to see if you can call me back when you get this. i love you. bye"

ok so then" hey suzannah leigh (i HATE WHEN SHE SAYS MY MIDDLE NAME SHE IS NOT MY MOTHER Mad ) um i REALLY want you to CALL me back soon. calll me suzy."

ok then:
"listen suzannah im serious i dont know WHY YOURE NOT CALLING ME BACK. but i WANT to see that baby. you NEED to bring her to my house so we can see her. CALL ME BACK SUZANNAH THIS IS IMPORTANT"

so im siting there holding my phone like what? then i hear " suzannah i have called you over and over i am NOT PLAYING WITH YOU ANYMORE. you NEED to answer my phone calls im really not playing with you suzannah LEIGH"

Confused Mad Confused

and then there were a few more but the very last one went like this " SUZANNAH! i want to see that baby! i have TWO HUNDRED DOLLARS for youi and i dont care if your mad at me! tell TRAVIS that I SAID I DONT CARE if YOU want to come out or NOT! tell HIM to just bring kristen over here you DONT HAVE TO COME if you are mad! im SERIOUS SUZANNAH. ANSWER YOUR PHONE!!! im worried about you (yeah right your not owrried about me you just need an excuse to be a complete bi*&#) ok suzy call me back or im going to call the cops! i want to SEEE HER!"

click.

okay first off. what the...hell?
she has a serious control problem. i was already haveing a rough day. she pushed me over the edge. so i called my dad whos in a treatment center right now and i FLIPPED. i was crying and cussing and telling him to tell her i dont GIVE A F*^$ about her money she will NOT harass me like that on MY PHONE. i told my dad to tell her she will NEVER see me or my daughter again. and she can get that straight right now and dont get it twisted!!!!!!!!!
so my dad doesnt know im on the anti depressants and i told him and then i started crying even harder and then he started crying because he was worried about me. and i didnt mean to burden my dad with this but i just didnt know what else to do. if I called my grammy myself it would NOT have been pretty because i was OUT OF CONTROL angry.
who does that?
um SORRY but she is NOT my #1 priority and she acts like she should be the first person to see kristen. the only 2people i care about that need to see her is my dad and mom. not my GRAMMY who for the past few years hasnt even been in my life and wanted nothing to do with me when my parents divorced she completely hated me and my sisters and brothers. she just wants an exuse to control me and she thinks she can get away with it with kristen. NOT
no i have lots of people that want to see her but no one ever leaves stupid harassing msgs like that. i am so angry i could S-c-r-e-am.
am i over reacting or would you guys be just as mad if someone did that to you?
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Posted: 01-08-08 20:16pm

I'd be angry too. But you should still see her. She doesn't have to be controlling of you or Kristen - because you aren't going to allow that and you are the parent now. You are in charge.

When you've calmed down from being angry (yet another symptom of the hormones in your system right now, by the way), call her and tell her when YOU will be willing to visit her. And if you don't want her money, tell her you don't need it. Or you could just buy something for Kristen with it - or put it Kristen's bank account Smile
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Posted: 01-08-08 20:23pm

thanks ingi. i just couldnt believe it. she knows im stressed already. she is not my first priority.
shes done this her entire life to my mom with all of us kids and now to me with my child
my mom put up with her when she was married to my dad because it was my dads sister. but i will NOT put up with it
not for one second.

how gay is this lol
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Posted: 01-08-08 20:29pm

Wow... I can't believe she would flip like that. That's kinda unbelievable, I'm so sorry : (

Try and think of it like this. That's your little girl, you have your own life. YOU are in control of this situation.

I'd call her back when you're feeling a little better, and say calmly that 1) you don't appreciate this treatment and if it happens again you'll take necessary action to prevent it again. And 2) You will call her when you're ready for visits, you're busy, tired and have a lot of other thing to deal with right now.

Don't put up with any bull, just because you're related doesn't mean she can treat you inappropriately.

Cheer up!!! Everything's going to be fine!!! Very
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Posted: 01-08-08 20:31pm

I would be mad too. I hate it when people call over and over again..it gets really frusterating. And she is not your boss and she can't tell you when she'll see Kristen. And calling the cops...they'd just laugh at her. Sounds like she has a major control problem.

I would just relax and forget about it for a while and call her back when you're calm and collected. Tell her you don't appreciate her calling so many times and what not and that she will see Kristen when you have the time and energy. You don't have to take that kind of treatment from her.

And if she doesn't respect your decision, tell her to go to hell-o. Smile
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Posted: 01-08-08 20:43pm

she is old just call her up say hey i wasnt home i was running important errands and i will bring her over when i have the time but not until then but hey if you wanna see her then you are more then welcome to come over but she is my child and i set the boundries not anyone else money or not
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Posted: 01-08-08 20:45pm

I would be angry also but your the parent and can be the bigger adult in this situation. Sounds like she has serious control issues. If I were you I would just relax and feel confident in the decision you make and if she cant respect it then I'd state my opinion if I were you and leave it at that. If she can't handle it then w/e you decide... its her loss. Goodluck girly Smile Hope all goes well and you feel better.
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Posted: 01-08-08 20:48pm

thanks guys
no way she is NOT comming over here
she would be over here everyother day if she found out where i lived lol
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Posted: 01-08-08 20:51pm

lol I wouldnt want her comming over either! Your the mommy so everything will work out to your benifit, your choice and she has to stick by that if shes smart. Smile Again, goodluck hun.
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Posted: 01-08-08 21:27pm

Wow...just breathe...

I would be SOO mad if my aunt called me talking like THAT!! Especially calling *9* times!!! Now who does THAT?!

Def just call her and start off like nothing happened. Once she realizes how busy you've been, tell her how upset the messages made you. And how you shouldn't have to deal with nonsense like that...ESP not right now, (not ever, really).

I have an aunt that seems to think that it's my fault that she never sees Oni. When SHE'S the one with the car during the week. She's NEVER even seen my new house and she blames ME!!

It's like you can't win for losing with some family members!!!

Sarah
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Posted: 01-08-08 21:49pm

something like this happened to me once and the person doing it didn't realise that i had a silent answering machine. they were thinking i was sitting there listening to them talk and not answering the phone so they got madder and madder. meanwhile i was on my way over to their house. how embarrassing for them.

i think if you're going to freak out on anyone it should be her not your dad. maybe just let her know how crazy she sounded and tell her she's jumping to conclusions.
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Posted: 01-08-08 22:19pm

ok i know that was rude of her but what if shes like ill and doesnt wanna tell ne one but wants to make sure she gets to see Kristen? i dunno I would go for the stuff and money and stay for like 20 mins and b like ok bye now. nine times is a lot and seems a lil fishy like theres something she isnt tell you but then again i dont know the lady.

okijust remembered how my inlaws called me like 5 times to ask when i was gunna b there and that pissed me off but they also knew i was coming.

dont work yourself up over it suzy just let it go and ignore her
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Posted: 01-08-08 22:53pm

~dani~ wrote:
ok i know that was rude of her but what if shes like ill and doesnt wanna tell ne one but wants to make sure she gets to see Kristen? i dunno I would go for the stuff and money and stay for like 20 mins and b like ok bye now. nine times is a lot and seems a lil fishy like theres something she isnt tell you but then again i dont know the lady.

okijust remembered how my inlaws called me like 5 times to ask when i was gunna b there and that pissed me off but they also knew i was coming.

dont work yourself up over it suzy just let it go and ignore her


nope
this is just like her
she does this to everyone all the time
she did it to my mom and dad constantly
she does it to my other family
and she did it at the hospital.
she just has a control issue. shes selfish and she doesnt think
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Posted: 01-08-08 23:23pm

ya some ppl were born without tact
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Sandbox Party

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Posted: 01-08-08 23:30pm

Sad

wow.

I think you need to tell her that you aren't a little girl anymore.. you may be 16 but you have a child now and she has no right to speak to you that way. What if you *had* left your phone at home and hadn't been there to answer it? She cant expect you to available at her discretion. Its YOUR life. She has to understand that you have better things to do than stand around waiting for her to call.
Now, having said that, she is STILL your grandma.. so watch how you tell her things. You have to show respect even if you don't like it or are angry. Maybe have your mom or dad talk to her?
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Posted: 01-08-08 23:41pm

It's actually her aunt, not her grandma. Just wanted to put that out there.
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Sandbox Party

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Posted: 01-08-08 23:44pm

lol well i read GRAMMY so i was like... grandma. My ignorant tookus didnt see the (my dads sister but we call her grammy) part.

My aunt is a total skitzo too.
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Posted: 01-08-08 23:47pm

that's absurd.. seriously... I would flip... I'm sure she meant no harm ... but she sounds somewhat dramatic?

Take your time... and anybody that pushes you .. well make em' wait extra long to see that beautiful baby girl!

You deserve better treatment then that , thats just silly.
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Posted: 01-09-08 07:27am

i would be angry aswell. i would definately ring her and tell her how upset these messages have left you. i hope she understands she cant demand to see kristen
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