Bipolar Disorder Forum - Bipolar diagnosed girlfriend

so, I looked through that "Symptoms of Bipolar" topic here, and got the following results:

"What Are the Symptoms of Bipolar Disorder?

Bipolar disorder causes dramatic mood swings from overly high and/or irritable to sad and hopeless, and then back again, often with periods of normal mood in between. Severe changes in energy and behavior go along with these changes in mood. The periods of highs and lows are called episodes of mania and depression.
Signs and symptoms of mania (or a manic episode) include:

* Increased energy, activity, and restlessness
* Excessively high, overly good, euphoric mood
* Extreme irritability
* Racing thoughts and talking very fast, jumping from one idea to another
* Distractibility, can't concentrate well
* Little sleep needed
* Unrealistic beliefs in ones abilities and powers
* Poor judgment
* Spending sprees
* A lasting period of behavior that is different from usual
* Increased sexual drive
* Abuse of drugs, particularly cocaine, alcohol, and sleeping medications
* Provocative, intrusive, or aggressive behavior
* Denial that anything is wrong

-increased energy, activity, and restlessness
-excessively high, overly good mood (atleast she used to. I havn't seen that side of her since we broke up, though)
-distractibility/can't concentrate well.
-little sleep neeeded
-unrealistic beliefs in ones abilities and powers
-POOR JUDGEMENT
-increased sex drive
-provocative, intrusive, or AGGRESIVE BEHAVIOR(!)
-DENIAL THAT ANYTHING IS WRONG........ or that it's her fault at all, is how she sees it. It's completely my fault, and I am nothing but an ignorant problem who does nothing but make her life terrible. It's scaring me to say that, but I think that that is about how she sees me at the present time. She dismisses my explanations for why I did something that made her flip out at me as "petty, childish and inconsiderate".

she's mad that I told one of our mutual friends the details about our breakup before she told anybody. Apparently she hasn't even told most of her friends we've broken up, and it's been a good few weeks now since we did. She says "he's MY friend!" and so forth and "where do you get off talking to MY friends about that" and such, even though it wasn't a plural "friends", it was just the one...

We broke up, after dating for 11 months, basically because I couldn't deal with her problems efficiently, and neither of us were happy. Usually, I'm great at figuring things like this out, and I'm probably the most stable person there is, I don't fluctuate moods at all. I have them, of course. I'm a very, very, very sensitive person. But ever since she was diagnosed with Bipolar, things havn't been the same.

I don't know how to talk to her without making her freak out at me. Currently, after we've broken up (on our 11 month anniversary, too (Yes, in highschool you celebrate "months" Wink

)! On one hand, she forgot it was our anniversary when she broke up with me, but on the other, she forgot our anniversary in the first place, so I don't know how to feel about that one! Rolling Eyes

), she won't even talk to me.

Since we've broken up, she's gotten mad at me! I never would have thought that to happen, especially since when we actually broke up she was apologising and crying and saying "thank you" for being so supportive and everything. But when I went to her house to drop off clothes and things from my house that she'd left, she freaked out at me because I didn't call ahead. She also, like I said above, got VERY mad, to the point where she won't talk to me now, when I was talking to our mutual gay friend who she seems to think I hardly know about this all.

February 1st would have been our one year anniversary. I want to get her back on that day, if I can settle her down and gain her trust again before then, that is. I think it would be very symbolic and beautiful to do it then. I have a whole idea going in my head about how I'm going to recreate exactly what it was like the day I first asked her "if we were dating" (long story! Laughing

), so hopefully that might get through to her that I really care and such.

But... How do I do it?

How do I do all of this? What do I do to get her to A) talk to me again, first of all! B) trust me again, and how do I go about talking to her in the future? I'm a VERY painfully honest person, so I've always struggled with trying to "talk" to people differently than how I feel I should, you know? What I feel I should hasn't worked the last few months, and that is why we broke up! I am willing to do this to get her back.

If I can't date her, I atleast want to be her friend again. She has lots of other problems from her childhood as well, but I've always been able to handle those. This Bipolarness is what has ripped us apart. She gets angry at EVERYTHING! I don't know how to handle this all! I want to be there for her, but she still goes crazy. She claims she "isn't mad" or "wasn't mad" or something similar, but that's totally untrue. Or if it is, I would be scared for my life to see her "mad"! Shocked

She was going to the hospital a while ago and I promised I'd go and wait in the lobby for her (it was a loonnnng session, too!). Sadly, I got very ill around that time. I was spitting out blood and yellow stuff (which I found out means "infection")m and my mother forbid me from going to the hospital that day. I phoned her mother, who works at a clinic, and she also told me that I really shouldn't go. Because of all the people with the weakened imune systems and such. Needless to say, she got mad at me over this and started calling me unreliable and all this, even though I was still going to go, against my own mother's wishes, until her mum told me to stay home. I tried, and I always try for her, but nothing is ever good enough. What do I do?

I know that all of this is a lot to deal with, and that I have probably dozens of questions thrown around in this long post, but I really need help. I rarely do need advice, I'm usually the one to give it, actually, but I am not scared to ask when I need help.

Peace and Love,
-Peter.

And thank you all for your support (once I get some, that is Wink

)! I honestly can not do this without you. Thank you all.

EDIT: Oh yeah, I just thought of something, too. Perhaps a smart way of answering me would be to quote directly what I said, so that I know exactly to which part of my post you are referring to. Thanks! Wink