On Nov. 27 2007 I
lost, Gloria, friend/cousin(by
marriage) of mine. Although I recently
married into her family, I've known her
since 1995 when she was 8 years old. then
became best friend with 1 of her cousins 3
years later not knowing they were family.
With all this in mind.. I'm not sure how
to feel about loosing her.. It hurts like
crazy and I find myself getting really
angry and lashing out at my best friend &
husband (her blood cousins). One
particular family member questions if my
feelings are real but I don't believe she
realizes or knows how long I've known
Gloria. Those things make me even more
angry. I'm not
sure what is right or wrong to feel and do
with all this going on. Gloria died in a
car crash very violently which doesn't
make it any easier. That day several of us
cousins drove past the seen not thinking
it was fatal some not even realizing it
was gloria. I keep replaying things in my
head like that is gonna change the outcome
of all this but it doesn't. I stopped
going to church all together not that I've
lost faith but it's just hard.. Is all
this normal and how long will it last. The
1 thing that is great is that we still
have her son to love and hold but looking
into his eyes is like looking into hers. I
sometimes wonder if i'm just imagining
these feelings and thought or I've just
lost my mind.....
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StacyHoll
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Posted: 01-10-08 16:38pm
I think that you're feelings are normal. I
am sorry to hear about the resent loss of
Gloria. This must be very hard for you.
Have you seeked councelling? Everybody
greives in different ways. I am so very
sorry for your loss
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StacyHoll
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Posted: 01-11-08 12:00pm
Hey no problem! The way that I see it is
that its having a great affect on your
life and that you deserve to be happy. So,
you need to do whatever it takes to be
happy, and I have always found that
talking and getting opinions from an
outside source has always helped me.
Sometimes when something so sudden happens
we don't think clear and need someone to
sort everything out. People go to
councelling for all different reasons. I
would have to say a sudden death of
someone close would be a good idea.
Gloria would want to see you happy. You
know this now its time to find resources
to be happy. Death is not only an end, but
its a new beginning for you. Hold her
close charish the memories. One thing that
I learned about when people close to me
pass away I chose the thing that I loved
MOST about that person and I pass it on to
others so a part of them can live on.
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I
lost, Gloria,
friend/cousin(by
marriage) of mine. Although I recently
married into her family, I've known her
since 1995 when she was 8 years old. then
became best friend with 1 of her cousins 3
years later not knowing they were family.
With all this in mind.. I'm not sure how
to feel about loosing her.. It hurts like
crazy and I find myself getting really
angry and lashing out at my best friend &
husband (her blood cousins). One
particular family member questions if my
feelings are real but I don't believe she
realizes or knows how long I've known
Gloria. Those things make me even more
angry. I'm not
sure what is right or wrong to feel and do
with all this going on. Gloria died in a
car crash very violently which doesn't
make it any easier. That day several of us
cousins drove past the seen not thinking
it was fatal some not even realizing it
was gloria. I keep replaying things in my
head like that is gonna change the outcome
of all this but it doesn't. I stopped
going to church all together not that I've
lost faith but it's just hard.. Is all
this normal and how long will it last. The
1 thing that is great is that we still
have her son to love and hold but looking
into his eyes is like looking into hers. I
sometimes wonder if i'm just imagining
these feelings and thought or I've just
lost my mind.....
