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Verizon-y
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Do Teen Dads Help Out Enough With Taking Care of Babies?
Posted: 01-11-08 14:22pm
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It recently occurred to me that I don't
read about teen dads helping out very
often, so I thought I'd just ask you guys
about it.
If the dad isn't a teen, please answer
anyway, and just tell us he's not a teen.
Was the dad in the delivery room assisting
in the birth with you?
How much does he do now that the baby is
home? Does he get up and feed and change
diapers in the middle of the night?
During the day?
Feel free to discuss any other aspect of
child care that goes on, and how much dad
is involved. Thanks.
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Martiny
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Posted: 01-11-08 14:28pm
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My bf is 22, not a teen anymore, he his
the best dad for my lil Kyanah, he loves
the family. He was their in the delivery
room with me. I had a depression for about
6 months after the birth and he was always
their waking up everyday, changing
diapers, at night he would wake up too. He
does the cooking too. He makes me and
Kyanah feel like princesses. He went back
to work on November, and he has still time
at the bank to call me to see if
everything is ok.
I love him with all my heart.
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 01-11-08 15:27pm
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WOW he sounds awesome!!!!!!!! Thanks for
sharing that. 
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Martiny
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oh_mommy
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Posted: 01-11-08 15:37pm
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shawns not a teen anymore he's 21, but he
was there in the delivery room, he changed
diapers At first, stopped once they
started to stink (poopy ones) he baths
Reese after dinner, he works while i stay
at home, he helps clean the house, and if
im in a bad mood he puts Reese to bed
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 01-11-08 15:55pm
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my husband Steven is awesome. He flew down
for the birth of our daughter (he was in
school in IL) and was totally amazed cuz I
had a csection (hes now a surgical tech
with plans to be a surgeon) he did
everything but nurse her the three days he
was there, i didnt change one diaper in
the hospital. We moved in together in
April when Macy was 2mo when he got out of
school. He always helps with the kids and
when Liam was born he was amazing again.
he was yelling at my retarded nurse who
didnt understand the oxygen mask was
suffocating me. He would watch them when I
was working too. He means so much to the
kids, I hear daily how Macy wants her
Daddy back and when u ask where he is
shell tell you Iraq. She even cries
randomly for her Daddy. Liam understands
he can talk to Daddy on the phone but he
just doesnt get it. I was actually looking
at pics last night and there were some
cute ones of him playing in Macys little
tikes house with her
O yeah n he was 19 when I got pregnant and
20 we we had her.
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 01-11-08 16:40pm
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You guys sound like you have great
partners as well. I hope teens
reading this see what good men are really
like, so they don't settle for less.
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Katrinadoodle
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Posted: 01-11-08 16:42pm
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He helped me with the delivery... my butt
was so numb I couldn't curl myself forward
enough to push, and he actually put his
arms under me and lifted me up while I
pushed.
We don't live together, so he doesn't get
up with her at night, per se. I do call
him every time I feed her though, so he
gets as much sleep as I do XD
During the weekends when he's over here he
does everything... I mean EVERYTHING. He
makes me sit down all day and he runs
around the house cleaning and he changes
her diapers... he didn't feed her because
I breastfed, but now that we're doing
formula he'll do that as well. He loved
feeding her warmed up breastmilk in a
bottle.
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 01-11-08 17:14pm
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i made steven carry me to the bathroom
basically at the end of my pregnancy and
he wiped n sprayed my stitches
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young Girl
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Posted: 01-11-08 20:51pm
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he helped me with the delivery. i couldnt
have done it withoput him
he does help but not as much as i do
but thats normal. seriously it is. boys
dont understand like women do. we have
this natural instinct. they dont.
he is a huge help to me in many ways. he
loves kristen and he tries to help out
whenever he can. but our mentality is very
different
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michelle1981
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Posted: 01-11-08 20:56pm
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Aww Dani!
Brian was 17 when our 1st son was born. He
stayed with me all through my labour, and
was in the operating room with me(i had a
c-section). I breastfed, and Brian use to
bring him to me(i fed him while lying in
bed) and switched him one breast to the
other for the first few weeks. He changed
diapers, bathed and fed all 3.
Wow, sounds like i did nothing at all.
He's a great dad!
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Posted: 01-11-08 21:19pm
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| the_girlfriend
wrote: | he helped me with the
delivery. i couldnt have done it withoput
him
he does help but not as much as i do
but thats normal. seriously it is. boys
dont understand like women do. we have
this natural instinct. they dont.
he is a huge help to me in many ways. he
loves kristen and he tries to help out
whenever he can. but our mentality is very
different |
The situation was completely reversed in
my family. My husband had the instinct
and I didn't. He bonded with our DD right
away, he fed her when no one else, not
even the nurses, could.
I'm glad we are sharing our different
experiences.
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Posted: 01-12-08 15:56pm
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I was 20 when i had Layla so one year out
my teens. Neil was a godsend to me. he
would take Layla every other night even
though he was at Uni so that I could rest.
he would come home and take her straight
off my hands.
I was suffering from bad post natal
depression withy her and he was my rock at
that time. Similarly with Logan, he took
him every night in the spare room so that
i could sleep.
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Posted: 01-12-08 16:33pm
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Becky, he sounds great.
I am very happy to hear that most of the
dads are A-1 first rate!
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jessamyn
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Posted: 01-14-08 10:38am
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Wel most of you know my case, where my
sons dad signed his rights over. However
being unbiased... I DO NOT feel that teen
dads are involved as much as they should
be... unless they give up their current
life they arent involved enough.
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Katrinadoodle
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Posted: 01-14-08 14:15pm
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Jacob does more for Jayden than my dad OR
my step-dad ever did for me, and my father
was 25 when I was born and my step-dad was
30 when he adopted me.
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Posted: 01-14-08 14:56pm
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Was the dad in the delivery room assisting
in the birth with you? yes and i'm glad he
was. he was so calm throughout
How much does he do now that the baby is
home? Does he get up and feed and change
diapers in the middle of the night? During
the day?
bobby wasn't brilliant to begin with. he
couldn't wake up to william during the
night and was unsure of holding william.
but we got into a routine that i did the
night feeds and he did the morning feeds
and i got a lay in. hes always been good
with changing nappies. the only thing hes
not so confident with at the moment, is
dinner time because william knows how to
wind daddy up and gets away with it
because daddy gives up so easily, so i
feed william his dinners if he needs
assistance
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Posted: 01-14-08 22:22pm
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Well my fiance is 26, and he was great! He
went to every single appointment with me
during the pregnancy, except for a few
when he had to work. He helped buy mostly
all the baby stuff, since I only made so
much from working. He was in the delivery
room with me the entire time during my
induction, brought me food after wards,
and was my camera man since I was all
hooked up. After the delivery, he held him
and change him and comfort him when I
can't deal with him any longer. He doesn't
do as much as I do since he works and I
breastfeed, but he definetly tries when
he's around. 
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Posted: 01-15-08 07:49am
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Dom is 17, 16 when Mika was born. When i
was pregnant he came to every appointment
with me and he was there when Mika was
born. I couldn't of asked him to do more
when i was in labour. My labour was very
compliated and he really wasn't prepareed
for any of what happened to happen but he
coped. When i had my water broke he heald
my hand, He held the gas and air for me
and watched the monitor to tell me when to
take a breath of it. Dom was terrified
when i started having convultions, he
thought i was going to die but he was
still asking the midwife if there was
anything he could do. He held one of my
legs up while i was pushing and had his
arm arounf my back and told me he loved
me. I couldn't get out of bed after i had
Mika so Dom was the one who did everything
when she was born, he had never been
around a newborn before but he managed to
get a nappy on her and get her dressed and
then give her back to me.
I'm breastfeeding so Dom can't help with
feeds but he gives her her solids when
he's here. He changes her nappy all the
time when he's here and plays with her and
tidy's up all of her things and even does
the washing up for my mum sometimes! He's
lovely really!
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Posted: 01-17-08 09:44am
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| jessamyn
wrote: | | Wel most of you know my
case, where my sons dad signed his rights
over. However being unbiased... I DO NOT
feel that teen dads are involved as much
as they should be... unless they give up
their current life they arent involved
enough. |
This is a very profound and important
point. None of the dads described thus
far sound like they have done this. (I
don't think many do in general, either.
That's a tall order. I don't want anyone
to think I am singling out their partner.)
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