So my engagement ring is Jacob's
grandmothers ring, she gave it to him
because he's her eldest grandson. Well,
she said she would be giving it to him
when he turns 18.
But now his older sister is getting
married, and she said she wants the ring,
so their grandma gave it to her! She says
she want it to go to the oldest
grandchild.
What the heck, she promised it to US.
I've still got the replica ring, but when
it comes time for us to actually marry
we're going to have to get out own rings
made. I love this ring, it's gorgeous, and
it's got history behind it. I don't want
another one.
Jacob's LIVID. Partially because he knows
how much I love the ring, and partially
because he got the replica made for me to
wear until he got the real ring, because
his grandma said she'd give us the ring.
But now that we won't get the ring, that's
$150 that could have gone toward get a
real ring!
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Idony
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Posted: 01-13-08 08:02am
im sorry that really sucks, have you tried
to expalin this to his sister and/or his
grandmother?
~alicia~
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-Tanya-
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Posted: 01-13-08 10:37am
Were you and Jacob planning to get married
soon?
Could it maybe be that she doesn't support
Jacob's choice to have a child and be with
with you at such a young age? Could she
maybe be doing this because she's
disappointed in the situation and not want
to give you guys the ring because of
that?
It's her ring, she's free to give it to
whoever she wants to. In fact, giving it
to her oldest grandchild, instead of
oldest grandson, seems a lot less sexist.
I'd be mad if I was his older sister and
he got it just on the fact that he has a
penis, even though she's the one actually
having a wedding.
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 01-13-08 12:35pm
She shouldn't have promised yall the ring
if she was going to change her mind.
Whatever the outcome, don't let it cause a
rift between yall and his sister! It's
only a ring.
Ruining a relationship over something
materialistic ISN'T worth it!!
Sarah
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sick_mama17
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Posted: 01-13-08 12:52pm
Aw sorry katrina, I bet you'll find an
even better ring though anyway!
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rosejackson
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Posted: 01-13-08 13:32pm
im sorry, that sucks
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ladylee70
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Posted: 01-13-08 13:38pm
babymajic0506
wrote:
She shouldn't have promised
yall the ring if she was going to change
her mind.
Whatever the outcome, don't let it cause a
rift between yall and his sister! It's
only a ring.
Ruining a relationship over something
materialistic ISN'T worth it!!
Sarah
Ditto! Great advice, Sarah.
I can honestly see the grandmothers point
in a way. Is the grand daughter older than
your fiance?? If I were in her shoes, I
would personally want my biological grand
daughter to wear the ring. Sorry - no
offense. However, the fact that she
promised it to you guys is another story.
Even if she wanted to go back on her
promise, she shouldn't. It doesn't change
the fact that she did go back on her
promise.
I wouldn't let it ruin the family
relationship. I know it hurts but you will
find another ring. If finances is a
problem, just get something inexpensive
for now until you can afford your dream
ring.
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 01-13-08 14:20pm
i know id b pissed if my grandma gave her
ring to my brother to give to a girl. I
think its only right to give it to your
first daughter/granddaughter. Im sorry
your taking to to heart but youll have
more fun picking out your own ring
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Posted: 01-13-08 15:03pm
~dani~
wrote:
i know id b pissed if my
grandma gave her ring to my brother to
give to a girl. I think its only right to
give it to your first
daughter/granddaughter. Im sorry your
taking to to heart but youll have more fun
picking out your own
ring
I agree Dani.
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-Tanya-
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Posted: 01-13-08 15:32pm
I forgot to add that I don't think she
should have promised it to you guys.
I agree with Dani though, this way her own
blood is the one wearing it and it's
staying in the family.
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Katrinadoodle
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Posted: 01-13-08 16:04pm
Well I wouldn't mind that, I plan on
giving my ring to Jayden, or Jay's oldest
daughter if Jay doesn't want it. BUT his
grandma already promised it to me, AND she
offered it to Ellison (his sister) but
Elle said she wanted her own ring. AFTER
Elle turned it down his grandmother said
we could have the ring. But now Elle is
throwing a huge fit, saying how she just
can't get married without
her grammy's ring, and how she just loves it
and would just die if she couldn't have
it.
Jacob proposed to me after I got pregnant,
and his grandmother knew about the baby
when she said we could have the ring....
so that's not the reason she took it back.
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Eyes Wide Shut
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Posted: 01-13-08 16:51pm
I wonder if his grandmaw is doing it JUST
to shut his sister up!?!?! LOL!
She's probably jealous that such a
sentimental gift was going to yall. You
know how sibling rivalry can be!!
I'd be pissed...
Sarah
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fairytale007
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Posted: 01-13-08 17:39pm
Aw that bites that you don't get the ring.
Maybe she'll change
her mind?
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softerxsin
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Posted: 01-13-08 19:30pm
yeah, that would piss me off. im really
strict with promises
Maybe she'll change
her mind?
