I have a twin, and it seems my mom is
either constintly trying to find the
littlest thing wrong to kick him out, or
trying to find some reasion to kick me
out! Since i was 16 my mom has been so
mean. for 7 months straight i was in a
very deep depression, and constantly
thought of suicide ( up until i was 18, im
19 now and dont get that depressed) I was
afraid to do anything in my house that
might be seen by my mom as a reasion to
kick me out. for 2 years i wasnt aloud to
leave the house except to go to school,
when went to the store i had to have
someone with me, i wasnt aloud to hang
out, couldnt watch tv, play on the
computer, or any game system, got intruble
if i read couldnt talk on the phone i was
so depressed. We go through a couple
months here and there were my mom and i
get along, but now im back around to her
trying to find a reasion to kick me out
again.
Heres what happend today, my mom is a
clean freak, so we clean alot. We have
this huge heavy glass table that has
really thin legs so its easy to vaccume
under, well every week she makes me move
the table to the other side of the room to
vaccume where it is. Well this morning i
was thinking about it and decided it didnt
make sence to me to move it every week, so
i asked her why we move it every week. She
lost it! totaly started yelling at me,
calling me lazy and got super pissed! I
tould her im sorry i didnt mean to make
you mad, i was just woundering. I didnt
have an additued when i spoke to her, and
tryed to sound friendly, i was totaly
shocked she was yelling at me! I cook, i
clean, im going to college and i work, im
deffntly not lazy.
So every little thing i did she started
yelling at me for, last time she did this
i was in tears and she was threating to
throuw me out. i cant afford to get thouwn
out, i spent all of my money paying for
school and books, i dont even have a dime,
so i cant afford to live on my own. So i
decided to let her cool off and went over
to Aj's for the day, i came home after
school and my bro was telling me how my
dad is really mad at me and saying that
he's gunna have a "talk" with me, idk what
my mom tould him, but all i did was ask y
we move the table every week..
I really dont know what to do. Do you
think she is over reacting, or did i do
soemthing wrong and just dont realize its
wrong. Im starting to get really depressed
again, and i cant be like that and still
put all my effort in school.
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PixieKat
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Posted: 01-15-08 15:23pm
So ive been avoiding her, giving her
space. Doing everything i think needs to
be done so she wont get even madder. but
now she's not talkin to me, wont let me
listen to music, and keeps giving me evil
glars every time she sees me. The tension
is so thick around us, you could choke. I
know my dads going to give me a "talk"
tonight, and its going to invovle alot of
yelling and me possibly being kicked out,
I really dont know what to do, i dont
think i did anything wrong. My dad scares
me so much when he yells at me.
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 01-15-08 15:30pm
Is it possible that you move out with a
couple of other people and split the rent
accordingly? Some places even give a
student discount on rent.
I would seriously consider saving up some
money (or using a tax refund) to move the
heck out of there.
Not allowed to READ?
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PixieKat
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Posted: 01-15-08 15:38pm
Idk, my parents pay for my car and my
phone, i dont think i make enought money
to pay for school my car, phone, gas rent
food. stuff like that Im only making $8
an hour, and i only work 4 hours a night
I love to read, i couldnt read books.
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 01-15-08 15:42pm
You would have to work more than that.
Maybe find a second job?
You can make it without a cell phone and a
car. A house line runs like 30 bucks/month
and the bus is cheeeaaap.
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PixieKat
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Posted: 01-15-08 15:47pm
yea true, i guess ill try to find someone
to live with.
Ive never lived on my own.. its a scary
thing to think about
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 01-15-08 15:51pm
PixieKat
wrote:
yea true, i guess ill try to
find someone to live with.
Ive never lived on my own.. its a scary
thing to think
about
It can be scary having to pay bills and
budget all of your money but it is worth
it honey. You can do whatever you want,
whenever you want without anyone
questioning your actions.
If I can do it, you can do it
You can even get assistance through the
government for housing based on your
income.
Also, have you thought about applying for
grants to pay for college?
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PixieKat
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Posted: 01-15-08 15:57pm
i was thinking of getting a loan but i
wanted to pay for as much of it by myself
as i can. How much do apartments usualy
run? well i guess that depends on the
state lol.
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PixieKat
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Posted: 01-15-08 16:01pm
Im going to ask around my friends and see
if i can find any that wanna move out and
help pay for rent.
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 01-15-08 16:03pm
Well my apartment runs $700/month. That is
here in Charleston, SC though. It could be
cheaper where you are.
I got a college loan for my classes too.
My Pell Grant already covered my tuition
and books, so the loan money actually came
back to me to pay my other bills. I don't
have to pay them back until I graduate.
Then, it is a minimum monthly payment.
I would search your local paper for
apartments. I'm sure there is a bulletin
at your college with ads for people
seeking roommates. That would probably be
your best bet.
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 01-15-08 16:03pm
Your brother probably wants to get the
hell out of dodge too, you know?
He could help pay rent too.
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PixieKat
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Posted: 01-15-08 16:07pm
Yea he does.. but he is so far in debt
from when he tryed to move out before that
he doesnt ever have money it all goes to
bills.
How did you get your loan?
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 01-15-08 16:13pm
I googled "student loan" and a whole bunch
of sites popped up. I had to go through
them all very closely because you have to
be sure you understand all of the terms,
all of the fine print.
I would advise you to go to your financial
planning office at school and ask them
what kinds of loans they would recommend.
You will probably qualify for financial
aid too.
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PixieKat
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Posted: 01-15-08 16:19pm
Thank you much for your help, ill keep you
updated if i move out or anything
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Posted: 01-23-08 19:57pm
I think you should talk to someone at
school about what is happening. They have
counsellors for that sort of thing. It
sounds like you are very depressed and
anxious and no wonder! Your mother has
mental health issues of her own and you
must not let her rule your life in this
way. In my experience, schools and
colleges have funds to help in situations
like this. You need to get away. You
will leave your depression behind when you
go to a place where you can read, talk,
shop and do whatever you want, when you
want.
I wish you all the very best.
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PixieKat
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Posted: 01-24-08 05:21am
Thanks
I tryed finding someone to move in with,
but that hasnt worked so well yet lol.
So at home i just acted like nothing was
wrong until my mom started acting normal
again.. so far so good as long as i can
stay on her good side.
