Married But Separated And In Love With a Married Man Posted: 04-25-04 16:57pm
I have been married for 4years. My
husband and I have been together for
4years before we married. We have no kids
together. Just the last past year we
separated because of numerous of things.
He constantly lies, he stole from me and
he cheated on me. He has also been
verbally abusive.So I decided to separate
from him. Since we have been separated I
ran into an old friend that I have always
loved. My friend and I have been seeing
each other for about eight months. He has
been staying with me. He is also married.
I have known him for about 20 years now.
I have always been very attracted to this
man. And he is attracted to me. My
husband say that he loves me and that he
is in love with me. I am not in love with
my husand anymore and I have told him
this. I really want my friend as my man.
I know that at this time I can not have
him this way.He tells me that he loves me
just as much as I love him. We are both
caught up into each other. What should we
do? Do we continue to go on this way or
should we go our separate ways? Help me
out please
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 05-02-04 02:36am
You said this new guy (old friend) is
"staying" with you. Does that mean he is
separated too? If not, then no, leave
him. If he has not left his wife, then
he is not going to.
As for you and your husband, you don't
love him anymore. Let it go. He was
obviously not worth it in the first place.
Sad but true. Just thank god you don't
have kids to worry about. That always
makes decisions one hundred times harder.
Good luck.
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 5286
Posted: 05-05-04 03:20am
You both need to be honest if you are
going to go on with this. I know it will
be hard to be 100% with your hubby, and
tell him you don't love him, and it will
be hard for your other guy also. But if
it is worth it you will be able to do it.
This will be a major change in life for
the both of you and in the end may push
even the 2 of you apart. Just be open to
this fact. If you both open up and it
pushes you away. Then you need to go
your seperate ways and start over.
~jennifer~
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TX_momy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jan 2004 Posts: 120 Location: TX
Hi Posted: 05-21-04 10:24am
I belive if he is still married to tell
him to get divorcet (btw you do that too)
it's best that you have that clear. You
already know how a married woman feels
when her man is cheating, you don' t want
your "friend" to do the same thing to his
whife, or do you ??? Just set things
clear and then if he is really true and
loves you than he will get divorced even
if he haves kids, it's better to stay
appart than fighting in a house full of
kids, any way just talk to him and see at
the end its your call what ever you want
to do.
