Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 01-20-08 14:43pm
tdr
wrote:
Dani, there's a difference
though. Macy is almost 3, Liam is almost
2. Kristen's only
7wks.
whats the difference?
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tdr
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Posted: 01-20-08 14:48pm
I see it as you're her mom, you know her
best. Right now, Kristen is too little to
say what she's feeling, but you, as her
mom, know her cries. You know what she's
like when she needs to be fed/changed/put
to bed. Macy and Liam are old enough to
voice their needs and feelings, which
makes it easier to leave them with
someone.
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 01-20-08 14:54pm
Im sure if we lived closer to ppl when our
babies were little we would have left them
to go out. Macy stayed with the less than
reliable inlaws overnight the night b4
easter so she was like 10 weeks.
Regardless she asked how to get Krissy to
sleep not everyones opinions on if she
leaves Krissy with her mother in law on
occasion
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Idony
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Posted: 01-20-08 14:56pm
i dont think anyone was really saying she
cant leave krissy with anyone, at least i
wasnt, i know my post was directed at
futureshocks post making it sound like
travis's mother had an obligation to watch
krissy
~alicia~
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young Girl
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 01-20-08 14:59pm
my mom is going to watch krissy on
valentines day for a few hours while me
and travis go to dinner
natalie whats the difference in leaving
krissy with a family member? when people
whom have to go back to work take thier
babies to daycare? terra watches a 6 week
old (i think shes 6 weeks) so whats the
difference in that?
or parents that only have a 6 week
maternaty leave so they have to go back to
work and they leave there kids at daycare
or a baby sitters?
is that different too?
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tdr
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Posted: 01-20-08 14:59pm
I wasn't either, I was just saying that I
saw a difference in leaving a 7wk old with
her grandmother than leaving a 2 and 3
year old with theirs.
I was living at my parents when i had
joseph, they rarely every helped out, i
would ask my mom if she could watch joseph
when he was asleep while i had a shower
just in case, i was always awake with him
when he woke up, anytime i went anywhere
he went with me. my mom only ever babysat
on my 21st bday that was it and when i was
working she watched him during the day but
thats a lil different when u hav a job. My
sister always dumps her kids on everyone
else when she stays at our parents house
or anyones house. Wich everyone has said
something to her, she would stay up till
5am talking online to her husband and
sleep all day so my parents and brother
all took turns watching her kids while she
slept all day.
My friend had her daughter without her
husband there, hes in afghanistan he was
there with jason but of course jason had
to come back early. and they wont send em
back just cuz your having a baby. So she
had to do it alone , but her parents live
near by and her sister lives around the
corner from me. i just did 6 mths alone,
no one was here to help me out, no family
around or any of that, hard work but its
not bad, its just nice when u have them on
a schedule though seriously. I dont know
exactly how jordynne got on one, jason
helped me out b efore he left so by the
time he left she had a nap during the day
, just one long one and went to bed at 8pm
and so did joseph, if they took a short
nap or i was out running around and thye
missed there nap then they go to bed at 7.
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tdr
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Posted: 01-20-08 15:07pm
the_girlfriend
wrote:
my mom is going to watch
krissy on valentines day for a few hours
while me and travis go to dinner
natalie whats the difference in leaving
krissy with a family member? when people
whom have to go back to work take thier
babies to daycare? terra watches a 6 week
old (i think shes 6 weeks) so whats the
difference in that?
or parents that only have a 6 week
maternaty leave so they have to go back to
work and they leave there kids at daycare
or a baby sitters?
is that different
too?
I personally see that as being a different
case. Parents who have to go back to work
and leave their 6wk old in daycare
oftentimes don't want to, but it's
necessary because they HAVE to go back to
work.
A lot of your posts on here make it seem
like someone else is always watching
Kristen. That's all I'm saying.
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young Girl
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Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 01-20-08 15:13pm
tdr
wrote:
the_girlfriend
wrote:
my mom is going to watch
krissy on valentines day for a few hours
while me and travis go to dinner
natalie whats the difference in leaving
krissy with a family member? when people
whom have to go back to work take thier
babies to daycare? terra watches a 6 week
old (i think shes 6 weeks) so whats the
difference in that?
or parents that only have a 6 week
maternaty leave so they have to go back to
work and they leave there kids at daycare
or a baby sitters?
is that different
too?
I personally see that as being a different
case. Parents who have to go back to work
and leave their 6wk old in daycare
oftentimes don't want to, but it's
necessary because they HAVE to go back to
work.
A lot of your posts on here make it seem
like someone else is always watching
Kristen. That's all I'm
saying.
where are the posts at? can you please
show me which posts say that someone is
always watching kristen? cuz im pretty
sure me and and travis take her with us
when we go somewhere
and if he goes somewhere and i dont i stay
to watch her
or if he stays and i go somewhere he
watches her. or we bring her with us.
parents who have to go to work still leave
thier 6-7 week olds with other people who
are not thier parents who dont know thier
cries or anything. im not saying anything
is wrong with that. but you pointed out
the fact that kristen is 7 weeks old and
ive left her with travis mom a few times.
like the night she watched her when i
started taking my medicine. (travis was
working that night helping his uncle move
things out of storage or he would have
watched her)
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young Girl
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suzy, you are HER momma do what you want.
there is nothing wrong with have your own
mom or travis mom watch krissy keep her
over night. That is their grand
daughter...they will know what to do,
they've raised babies...
if your not a mother you really have no
room to talk because you don't know how
hard it is taking care of a baby, you NEED
time to yourself and time with your
boyfriend/husband...
anyways...my input
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young Girl
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Posted: 01-20-08 15:19pm
mommy_2_dallas0813
wrote:
suzy, you are HER momma do
what you want. there is nothing wrong with
have your own mom or travis mom watch
krissy keep her over night. That is their
grand daughter...they will know what to
do, they've raised babies...
if your not a mother you really have no
room to talk because you don't know how
hard it is taking care of a baby, you NEED
time to yourself and time with your
boyfriend/husband...
anyways...my
input
thanks kayla
hows dallas?
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mommy_2_dallas0813
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Posted: 01-20-08 15:20pm
He's good!! Been sick though, getting
better slowly
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Becky
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Posted: 01-20-08 15:22pm
Suzy you are doing a great job as mum-
don't listen to people trying to say you
are doing bad by having other people watch
her- so what?
I left Logan and Layla over night with
their Grandma when Logan was a week old-
do i feel liek a bad mum? Nope! You are
with Kristen most of the time so you are
entitled to a break
Everyone is entitled to a break but
unfortunately not everyone gets a break-
if you can though you should take it. It
doesn't make ou a bad mum and your child
won;t hate you for it- my kids love me to
death.
I think it is BETTER to leave a 3 week old
than a 3 year old as the 3 year old is
more likely to miss their mummy and cry
for them cause they are more self- aware
and aware of situations
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Posted: 01-20-08 15:31pm
the_girlfriend
wrote:
tdr
wrote:
the_girlfriend
wrote:
my mom is going to watch
krissy on valentines day for a few hours
while me and travis go to dinner
natalie whats the difference in leaving
krissy with a family member? when people
whom have to go back to work take thier
babies to daycare? terra watches a 6 week
old (i think shes 6 weeks) so whats the
difference in that?
or parents that only have a 6 week
maternaty leave so they have to go back to
work and they leave there kids at daycare
or a baby sitters?
is that different
too?
I personally see that as being a different
case. Parents who have to go back to work
and leave their 6wk old in daycare
oftentimes don't want to, but it's
necessary because they HAVE to go back to
work.
A lot of your posts on here make it seem
like someone else is always watching
Kristen. That's all I'm
saying.
where are the posts at? can you please
show me which posts say that someone is
always watching kristen? cuz im pretty
sure me and and travis take her with us
when we go somewhere
and if he goes somewhere and i dont i stay
to watch her
or if he stays and i go somewhere he
watches her. or we bring her with us.
parents who have to go to work still leave
thier 6-7 week olds with other people who
are not thier parents who dont know thier
cries or anything. im not saying anything
is wrong with that. but you pointed out
the fact that kristen is 7 weeks old and
ive left her with travis mom a few times.
like the night she watched her when i
started taking my medicine. (travis was
working that night helping his uncle move
things out of storage or he would have
watched her)
calm down suzy, she didnt say you werent
watching her, she said thats what it
sounded like from how she read your posts
~alicia~
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Posted: 01-20-08 15:32pm
I did not mean that I am surprised Suzy is
taking care of her daughter all on her
own, with Travis there to help sometimes.
What I meant was I was surprised that
there was no one there to guide her, to
give her advice, like to tell her some of
the things some of you have told her.
For example, how much sleep a newborn
should get.
How to get a newborn to sleep.
Etc.
I just thought Travis's mom would be there
to tell Suzy these types of things. I
don't know how else she would know these
types of things.
There is a reason a 16 year old is not an
adult in our society. Most teens need
adult supervision just for themselves, let
alone themselves plus a newborn. If you
took the average 16 year old and all of a
sudden took them away from their parents
and put them in a situation where they had
to take care of themselves, I don't think
it would be in their best interest. Most
don't know how to take care of themselves
sufficiently, i.e. eating right, taking
medication correctly, taking care of
themselves if they are ill, etc. Now
compound that with adding a newborn.
I AM NOT SAYING THAT IT CANNOT BE DONE.
I'm sure all of you are perfectly capable
of taking care of yourselves and newborns
as sufficiently as any older person.
