Pregnant father being left out Posted: 01-20-08 16:33pm
My teenage son has a baby coming in
August. The parents didn't know each
other well prior to conception. He has
made continual efforts to be supportive,
including significant financial
contributions, but she continually doesn't
return his calls. As the grandmom-to-be I
continually wonder if I should be doing
more and/or what I should be doing. At
the least how to support my son in this
both scary and frustrating time.
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Katrinadoodle
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Posted: 01-20-08 16:40pm
Make him fight for visitation, especially
if he's giving money. Document everything
he gives her.
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young Girl
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Posted: 01-20-08 16:40pm
well maybe you could try and set up a
lunch or meeting or something with the
girls parents? and start from there
get together and try and talk to them and
let them know that you guys are willing
and wanting to help in anyway possible
as a father your son has the RIGHT to be
in his childs life and unless she has a
court order saying he cant then she has no
right to keep him from seing that baby
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yellow ribbon
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Posted: 01-20-08 18:22pm
definitely try talking to the girls
parents, also be prepared to have to get a
lawyer incase you have to fight for
visitation or even establish paternity
because if she doesnt put him on the birth
certificate youll have to request a DNA
test to get on it and get the visitation
rights.
It sounds like your son is trying to do
the right thing and by supporting his
decision to be a part of this babys life
and wanting to be a grandmother for it
your on the right track
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 01-20-08 19:04pm
So she just found out she's pregnant,
right? Like within a few days? Because
depending upon the day of conception, the
due date is around 8 months away, right?
Maybe she is just in shock or needs a
little time.
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young Girl
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Posted: 01-20-08 19:07pm
who knows
girls are wierd
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 01-20-08 19:07pm
Why is he giving her money already? Is he
sure she has decided to keep the
pregnancy?
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young Girl
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Posted: 01-20-08 19:09pm
maybe for medical bills, to start buying
stuff for the baby,etc
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Verizon-y
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Posted: 01-20-08 20:20pm
Gotcha.
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jessamyn
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Posted: 01-23-08 12:48pm
Do you know for certain that the child is
his? Maybe she has gotten into another
relationship?
If for certain the child is his then
petition for custody?
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benc152
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Posted: 03-01-08 02:44am
I don't think a petition for custody would
be the right way to start this, as you may
be able to do it on friendly terms.
I think the idea of a lunch with you and
your son, the girl and her parents to
begin with would be a smart idea, try to
keep it friendly, maybe not even bring up
the baby just make friends with them so
that it's easier to get that visitation
later.. once the babys born they'll
probably be dying to let your son take
him/her for a while so they can get some
sleep
