Just Found Out I Am 10 Weeks Pregnent And 17 Posted: 09-11-03 18:42pm
Well I just found out I am 10 weeks pg and
feel stupid for not knowing...The father
refuses to talk to me and thinks I am
lieing! I feel lost and confused, and
scared to tell my family or friends. I
don't want to be judged or hated. This is
so hard for me so will someone give me
curage and a hope to hold on to!
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003 Posts: 4922 Location: Right here at work!
Posted: 09-11-03 18:49pm
Your 17 almost 18. Of course your going
to be scared and lonely and all kinds of
other emotions to go with it! But dont
stress it darlin, things will work out
soon. You shouldnt be scared to tell your
family and friends. You cant take it back
so you might as well smile and be proud to
be having a little one. Your mom will be
hurt but she will be there for. She will
be the closest to you. Its a mother
bonding thing that goes on. You might be
judged but not hated. Its not your fault.
If the fathe doesnt believe you then let
him go for now. He will either come
around and be there for you, or you can
stop contact with him and just hit him
with child support! Haha j/k. Your
courage and hope now is your little one.
She/he will give you all you need so dont
worry! Good luck hope I helped a little!
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laura27
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Sep 2003 Posts: 22 Location: west coast
Don't Feel Stupid Posted: 09-11-03 19:16pm
You are 17? Well honey, for all tense and
purposes you are an adult. Many people
dont know this but 17 1/2 years old you
can force the state to recognixe you as an
adult. Use the recources around you.
Start with the white pages. Listen up,
the very beginning of the white pages are
your government listings. Use them.That's
what they are there for. Even if you are
not sure. Next, get medical attention.
Take your prenatal vitamins. Don't
overeat, rather eat like normal but
healthy. (i.E. 3 sqare meals a day.)
about the boyfriend. I'm not making any
judgement calls. What you need to do is
get him to sign the birth certificate.
Give the baby his last name and there is a
form concerning paternity. Get him to
sign it. If he signs this form it
prohibits him from contesting paternity in
court. If you believe he will never sign
it relax. His mother is the key tell her,
in the nicest most innocent way that you
are going to have her grandchild. Even if
she calls you a prostitute who is just
trying to trap her son, when it comes the
day of the birth, she will make him sign
that form because she will have had
several months to think ab0out it and she
will realize that she won't get to see her
grandchild unless she makes good with you.
One more thing. Whatever god you believe
in, he loves you and he loves your baby.
If you have more questions go ahead and pm
me.
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fattys_girl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Sep 2003 Posts: 3 Location: Madison, WI
I'm 19 And In a Similar Situation Posted: 09-11-03 22:46pm
First off, let me say that every woman has
it somewhere in her to be a wonderful
mother, and that as soon as you see your
baby as a blessing you will know what to
do. I'm 19 and pregnant, but me and the
father are still together, but he says if
I don't get an abortion he wont have
anything to do with me or my baby. But im
not worrying about him. Your baby's
father is just as scared and upset as you
are, he is just handling it differently.
Most men will say anything during the
first trimester to get you to have an
abortion. They want to make you feel
awful, so you wont want the baby. But i'm
pretty sure that once you pass the mark
where you can't get an abortion he will be
singing another tune. He just needs time
to let it all sink in. Im hoping that my
babys father will come around and I think
you should just hope for the best but dont
count on anyone but yourself. Having him
in the baby's life would be nice, but you
are perfectly capable of doing it on your
own. A lot can change in 9 months, so
many feelings can go through your head and
his. Just give it time and keep your head
up.
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janetp9
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Sep 2003 Posts: 13 Location: washington
Posted: 09-12-03 02:50am
I just want to tell you that I was in your
position was I was 17. You have to tell
someone that you can trust. You have to
review your choices and figure out what
you want to do. I made the wrong
decision. The most loving thing you can
do is go through this pregnancy and give
it up for adoption. You have a lot ahead
of you. You need to find all of your
strength and be strong. When I told my
friends some of them were not supportive
at all but some where. And those people
are still my friends today. You have
been made to officially grown up. I am
crying and praying for you!! Please
tell someone soon, you need support!!!!!
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cokebottle04
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Aug 2003 Posts: 4
Posted: 09-16-03 22:33pm
Well I have a situation kind of like that.
Im 17 also and I think i'm pregnant but I
have so many problems with knowing if I am
or not. I took like four home test and
two was positive. Then we have this free
prgnancy center called hope I went there
and it was negative. My parents are
ministers so you should know how bad I
feel but I had to go to the doctor I told
my mom at the doctors office and she
wasn't mad at all b/c she knew that I had
sex so I got some blood taken and it was
negative but I know my body and i've been
really sick everyday so now my doctor is
testing me for all kinds of stuff, so now
i'm really confused I wonder if the blood
test could be wrong b/c my mom said when
she got blood taken to find me they had to
do it like four times to find me in her
blood. The other thing is I have been
starting my period for the last 3 months
but it only lasts for 3 days and some
people say you can have periods when
you're pregnant. Will you tell me some of
your symtoms when you first thought you
were thanks and tell your parents b/c I
know if I could you can parents know that
things happen.
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Suzy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Sep 2003 Posts: 530
Pregnant At 17 Posted: 09-20-03 18:01pm
When I first fell pregnant I was 16 and
the father wanted nothing to do with me or
the baby and moved to another state when
he found out I was pregnant. My parents
were there for me, but I lived alone and
got through it. I am now 29, my little
girl is 13 happy and healthy. It was very
hard, and still is, child rearing is never
easy even at 29. Be prepared for some
tough times girl, but it will make you a
stronger person in the end I promise. Do
not give up ! Find some good friends,
join a mothers group, anything, try to
have supportive people around a lot, it
helps, you won't feel so alone.
Missa...
I was in your situation about 6 years
ago.
I know your fears and uncertainties about
this pregnancy.
The father wanted nothing to do with me
called me a liar too. But let me
encourage you. While I was pregnant I met
a wonderful man who loved me and my unborn
child...... Today he is considered my
daughters father and we have a 3 year old
boy and another child on the way... The
child I was pregnant with when I was 17 is
now almost 6 years old and the joy of my
life. Her sweet smile melts my heart. It
all worked out for me hun. I believe that
all things happen for a reason.... Stop
take a deep breathe, call your local
health department or w.I.C office and
find out what resources are available to
you.... There is help out there. I
promise. Turn to your family or church or
an adult who you confide in... And hey!!!
Enjoy your pregancy. I know you can't
tell now but this child is a blessing.
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Mari
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Sep 2003 Posts: 3
How Do U Know? Posted: 09-20-03 21:35pm
Well i've been kinda of curious as to
wither or not I could be pregant. I mean
I was a month late on my period and when I
did start it lasted 3 days longer then
usual and I spotted 2 days after I
finished. Sometimes I wake up feeling
nausa and I have to pee alot more then
usual I mean if I stand up for a long time
I have to pee like every 20 mins. And
not only that its onlycertain food that
gross's me out. Sometimes I feel soo
tired and other days I feel sick I took 2
pregancy tests and they came out negative
the nurse told me to a blood test to make
sure cause they're more accurate, but I
haven't gone i'm scared. How did u find
out u were pregant? Did u feel different
or did u feel like theres was nothing
wrong with you? Please let me know
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Suzy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Sep 2003 Posts: 530
Uncertain Pregnancy Posted: 09-21-03 01:51am
Mari, I know when I am pregnant because I
get really sore boobs about 3 weeks after
conception, I am at 6 weeks now and have
been feeling nauseas and I am quite turned
off chocolate or cake at the moment.
Usually you would'nt keep me away from the
stuff. I have also been getting really
tired and wanting to sleep a lot more.
You may be pregnant even with a period
type bleed, but only a blood test will
give you 100% peace of mind. My sister
had period type bleeding all the way
through her last pregnany and had a
healthy girl. At the same time you may
not be pregnant. So keep your chin up,
and get yourself off for a blood test.
Good luck !!
Im 17 too...And I found out recently that
I aam 7 weeks. Parents are different
when it comes to these kinds of things.
Ease up to him and try to get him to have
a serious conversation with you. When I
told my mom she was angry with me and
wouldnt talk to me for a day...But then it
hit her that there is no reversing it and
that abortion was out of the question.
If your dad doesnt belive you just take an
at home pregnancy test and show him...My
mom didnt believe me either so I did that
and she believed it right away...Hope I
was some help....Oh and my friend told me
that when the baby is born feed it
rice-cereal from gerber (its baby food and
looks like mashed potatoes) before you but
it to bed and it will wake up less then if
you were to just put it to bed with
formula. Hope I was some help...PM me and
let me know what happens
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