Pregnancy Community Chat Forum - Just Need To Vent.. + Very Long

So Shane & I have this friend, Bryan.. Well he's technically Shane's cousin.. Shane's known him forever & I've known him maybe 6-7 years or so. We've always butted heads, he's always been that friend of Shane's that will do or say anything to get a rise out of me & make me & Shane argue. Today was about the last straw with him though. He didn't do or say anything to me so I'll give ya some history behind the story...

2 years or so ago, Bryan finally got his first girlfriend, he was 19, she (Amanda) was 15. Amanda is also known as "PsychoChick". She used to hate me & Shane & all of my friends, & hated Bryan hanging out with us because she would always accuse him of cheating. Even with me when Shane would be right there. A few months after they were together, Bryan got turned in for Statutory Rape. He spent some time in jail, I can't remember how long exactly. Got out of jail, was on probation & was under orders not to see Amanda until she turned 18. In the meantime, Amanda's mother got her other 3 kids taken away for allowing this whole thing with Bryan to happen in her house. Needless to say, they didn't stay away from each other, & Amanda ended up pregnant. She had her baby a few weeks after she turned 17. They had nowhere to live. Her entire pregnancy was spent staying with random people, sleeping in the car, or pitching a tent down by the river. For about a week while she was still pregnant they stayed with us )because I couldn't imagine being pregnant & having to sleep in a car or on the ground by the river) until we started noticing things missing. Then I guess they went & stayed with her grandmother. We didn't talk to them for a few months, but there were rumors flying around town that Amanda & Bryan were both doing drugs. She was turned into CYS (Children Youth Services) while she was pregnant. Bryan called us the day they had the baby so we could go see them. When we got there, Amanda was histerical, apparently right after the baby was born, they had something in the babies diaper testing her for drugs in her system? We didn't see them for a while until the other day, but people were saying they found Meth in the baby & that she was taken away. Out of nowhere Bryan called us the other night & wanted us to go visit, I knew they probably just wanted something because that's how they are, but Shane wanted to see him so we went. We got there & surprise surprise, they had heard we got a new car & wanted us to take them to get groceries. The baby was there, 4 month old baby girl, Kimberlyn. Looked perfectly happy & healthy, smiled the whole time we were there. Shane & Bryan stayed there with the baby while I (being WAY too nice) ran Amanda to the grocery store. While we're in the car Amanda tells me how CYS is at their house every few days checking on the baby & checking up on everything. They constantly have to take drug tests. We left there that night & I told Shane I don't want anything to do with them if they've got CYS following that closely to them. The last thing I need is to get wrapped up in that & be turned in. Well today we had to run to the bank then we were going to Kmart to get fireplace pokers for the woodstove, while we were in town Shane decided he was going to drive up by Bryan's to see if he wanted to ride along. We go inside (Me, Shane & Kaylee). Bryan said he'd go, he just had to go upstairs to get a sweatshirt. Amanda wasn't going to go with us, but she followed Bryan upstairs & decided to go. That's when we realized that the baby wasn't there. We heard Bryan asking her upstairs if she wanted to ride along to ger her mind off things & she screamed "My baby just got taken away Bryan, why would I want to go out & do anything!?".. Well she still went so... So we all get in the car & head to Kmart & then we find out the whole story. Bryan had a drug test yesterday, he *swears* it came back that he had nothing in his system. This morning around 10am, two police officers came pounding on their door saying they were going to be taking Kimberlyn into their custody. A CYS woman was with them. Amanda demanded they have papers drawn up saying why they were taking her. The woman & the cops went to the court house, got papers, came back & took the baby. We got there maybe 11am & Bryan & Amanda both acted like nothing happened. I'm sorry but if my baby was just taken away, I don't even KNOW how I'd react. All day long they never acted like they were effected by the fact that their baby was just taken away. They swear that the only reason she was taken was because they argue. I'm sorry but if CYS took peoples children away for arguing, *I* wouldn't have my daughter anymore! Shane & I are both betting anything that the drug test came back positive for something. It's just bothering me so much that they are seriously acting like nothing happened. As if Kimberlyn was just some random kid they were babysitting & gave back to the parents or something. How do you do that? How do you NOT care? Then they started saying later today that the only way they'll get the baby back is if they don't live together. I don't get it but okay.. So I said, well why don't you guys find seperate places to live, play it off like you aren't together, so you can get the baby back? They both said no that wouldn't work. Bryan doesn't have a job. He just lost his one foot due to diabetes so he can only work part time. He lost his car months ago so he has no way to get anywhere. He gets SSI, who knows how much. Amanda also doesn't have a job, dropped out of high school, & also gets SSI, for what I'm not sure. They're living in a falling down low income housing apartment building paying $28 a month for rent. They are both more than capable of getting jobs, getting a car & raising their daughter right, they just don't want to. I was in tears tonight when we dropped them off because I just keep thinking about that poor baby girl. I wish I could adopt her. She's absolutely beautiful & doesn't deserve any of this. I don't know what I'm trying to get at in this post, I just needed to vent I guess. I just can't understand how someone would not care that their child got taken away. It makes it worse that this is Shane's cousin.

Sorry this is so long, but thanks to anyone who reads it.