This isn't going to be
popular, this is exactly why "saving"
yourself until marriage is ridiculous.
This guy is about to commit to someone
for the
rest of his life and can't even
talk about sex with
her.
Not exactly. We've been talking about sex
- just might not know all the options
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Birch
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Re: first time in May - need help from the ladies Posted: 01-28-08 14:29pm
soonhitched
wrote:
I already posted in the
birth control forum about my upcoming
wedding in May. here's the situation,
we're both virgins so I'm a bit anxious
about our first night together. From a
woman's perspective, what should I/we be
focused on for our first time. My worries
range from will I ejaculate really early?
(I can't imagine I'll last long, but I
know that's normal), to "will I stick my
penis in the wrong place? Will I hurt her
(she's already talked to plenty of people
and the answer is "yes", but how do I deal
with that? How do I broach the subject of
oral sex? (definitely not the first night
but as we get more comfortable with each
other and how things work down there...)
Any helps/ tips/ suggestions are
appreciated. My "game plan" as of right
now, is to just be as caring as possible.
It's not "humping", it's making love and i
think there's a huge
difference.
soonhitched
wrote:
Not exactly. We've been
talking about sex - just might not know
all the
options.
You are worried about sex the first time,
you need to talk to her about that. If
you are insecure about ej. early, you need
to talk to her about this. You aren't
sure how to talk about oral sex to her.
You need to talk to her about this. You
also need to talk to her about what birth
control she's "sold on", not anonymous
well-meaning posters on an internet
forum.
This is big stuff. I promise you it is in
your best interest to sit down with her
and strip your pride away and let it out.
Best wishes...
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Georgia59
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Posted: 01-28-08 22:33pm
I agree that he needs to talk to her about
it all, this is true. But doing some
independent research and knowing more
about what you're getting in to is
important!! If he takes this information
to her and discusses it, that is the best
that could happen (and what I think has to
happen)
But hey, I didn't wait until I got
married. I'm glad we had sex before this,
lol, our honeymoon was amazing because we
already knew what we were doing and didn't
have any inhibitions! Best sex of my life.
You are worried about sex the first time,
you need to talk to her about that. If
you are insecure about ej. early, you need
to talk to her about this. You aren't
sure how to talk about oral sex to her.
You need to talk to her about this. You
also need to talk to her about what birth
control she's "sold on", not anonymous
well-meaning posters on an internet
forum.
