Mother in law wanting live in our house Posted: 01-27-08 16:11pm
So I just got married 3 months ago and I
face now a very unusual situation. The
mother of my husband is divorced and she
recently found a job in my town and now
wants to live in the house with us. We
told her she could stay in the house until
she finds a house or apt but that she
can't live with us as we want to have our
privacy. So she got to the house and it's
been a month and she is not looking for a
place to live. She hasn't even pay us rent
or utilities and the job she has is a 90k
job which she likes to brag about. Has
anyone been in a similar situation? What
do you guys think of this? My husband is
going to talk with her this week and tell
her that she has to go now in Feb thank
god.
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Jude-Love
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Posted: 01-29-08 13:01pm
That is so strange.
My MIL has hinted, many times, that she'd
like to live with my husband and I. Why?
Because she's in debt. I like her, but my
personal opinion is that she is selfish to
want to do it. We are starting our life
together and her problems shouldn't be my
husband's or mine to solve.
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ladyT02
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Posted: 01-29-08 20:21pm
Ugh reminds me of my boyfriends mom, she
wanted him and I to live with her family.
Mind you there are 5 people already. But I
found out that its cause they wanted to
have my boyfriend back so he could help
them pay the house with his military
disability money. Selfish ass people. I
said no and they seem to have gotten a bit
upset lol
I've never been through that situation but
I imagine it would be pretty anoying. My
b/f's mother used to beg for large amounts
of money on a weekly basis and my b/f (who
was making good money att), would give it
to her just to shut her up. I hated it! I
mean this lady would come over at midnight
and start yelling at my b/f (her son) for
him to give her money, it was ridiculous!
The lady is like way past 50 years old and
behavior like that is just so not normal,
thank god we moved out of state and don't
have to deal with the stress of her
anymore!!! I mean this lady would yell and
scream until she got her way, so shocked
that the cops never came to stop her
drama, lazy cops.
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nightangel73
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Posted: 01-30-08 21:38pm
You guys hit the nail right in the head.
There could be only reason why would
somebody take away the privacy of
newlyweds...you said it very correct this
is about money. In my case the MIL has no
debt but she wants early retirement so she
has been saying all along that she needs
to save 200k to retire. If she could live
for free in my house she could retire in a
couple years! I guess that was what she
was hoping for. And she is probably still
thinking she will get away with it hehe.
God how selfish!! It's disgusting what
people do for money.
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ladyT02
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Posted: 01-31-08 04:28am
I mean if it was my mother that I
personally know she wouldn't get in our
buisness I would let her stay wit us in a
heartbeat. My parents live 4 doors down
from were we live and they never bother
us, we have our privacy
My mom works and likes to be active, but
my bf mom doesn't work cause her husband
doesn't want her to, shes not active cause
she puts the excuse that she's got little
kids. Which are old enough to go to an
after school program
And since he knows her I kno he wouldn't
want her to stay wit us.
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Hart74
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Posted: 03-12-08 11:39am
I had a similar story my brother in law
somehow wanted to ditched his mom and
asked her to stay in our house however my
husband and I refused and so did my mother
in law ends up she now lives in a nursing
home. In law no matter how close and good
they are better to not to stay under the
same roof. No offence to anyone but I am
now paying it (not literary) but I nearly
lost some old friends because of these.
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RASALIJEN
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Posted: 03-12-08 11:54am
there's always going to be problems in a
home if theres in laws, no matter how good
you get along, theres always problems.
everyone wants their space and privacy. if
you argue with wife or husband, someones
always gonna say something about it or try
to solve the problems and things like
that. i personally would never want to
live with in laws or other family members
and its worse if you are married.
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Xalleah08
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I feel sooo sorry for you! Posted: 06-01-08 19:41pm
I love my MIL, but I lived in her house
for awhile and it's not the best
situation. Your MIL probably misses her
som and wants to make sure everythign is
okay. She proably also feels that after
supporting her somn, she deserves the
favor in return. Remind her that while you
don't have any particulat anomosity
towards her, you really do need your
privacy and you would like her to start
looking for a place. point yout some
places in the adds to remind her that you
are trying to help. I hope that she hasn't
decided to stay, and I hope that
everythign works out!
