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Aunt WeeWee

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Use protection or not ? Posted: 01-29-08 11:18am


ok, NO, I'm not pregnant, but i don't kno where else to put this!!!! I have been talk-n 2 this guy & we started mess-n around. So far everytime we have been use-n protection. well the other day he asked my if he could put it n w/out a condom. I don't kno if I should let him. Then he asked me if I got pregnant if I would have an abortion. It's like he wants me 2 get pregnant, & then go have an abortion. (I'm against abortions) We don't go out, were jus "Friends w/ benefits". What would U do in my case?????

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Posted: 01-29-08 11:20am


i personally would stop seeing and hooking up with him. yeah he's like you said a friend with benifits, but it sounds like he saying if i get you pregnant and you choose to keep it, your on your own. And second if hes just a friend with benifits, who knos how many other friends with benifits he has, so i'd definately tell him to keep wearing protection.

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Posted: 01-29-08 11:29am


Yeah I would stop seeing him too- he sounds like an idiot

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Re: Listen To this Crap!!!!!!
Posted: 01-29-08 11:58am

Aunt WeeWee wrote:

ok, NO, I'm not pregnant, but i don't kno where else to put this!!!!

I have been talk-n 2 this guy & we started mess-n around. So far everytime we have been use-n protection. well the other day he asked my if he could put it n w/out a condom. I don't kno if I should let him. Then he asked me if I got pregnant if I would have an abortion. It's like he wants me 2 get pregnant, & then go have an abortion. (I'm against abortions) We don't go out, were jus "Friends w/ benefits".

What would U do in my case?????

Yeah, but what would you do if he gave you herpes? Would you keep them? Oh, that was a trick question. When it comes to herpes you don't get a choice. It is LIFELONG!

But still, he could give you HIV, herpes, HPV or any other NUMBER of LIFELONG diseases just by 'sticking it in'. I think you should worry less about pregnancy and worry more about these horrific diseases. Two of them can kill you. That would be a great benefit of this friendship, huh?

WEAR CONDOMS ALWAYS!

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Re: Listen To this Crap!!!!!!
Posted: 01-29-08 12:05pm

Ingi wrote:

Aunt WeeWee wrote:

also could be passed along to new born babies, or kill them before birth...friends with benifits, i never got why ppl did this. its no offense but disgusting. Sex is supposed to be something special shared with two ppl that love one another, not because someone wants to get lucky.
Friends with Benifits..mine as well call them Friends with walking STD's!

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Posted: 01-29-08 12:24pm


krystineM i think what you said was a lill un called for. you can still love your friend when theres a conection it just means that you dnt want to go too far incase you lose all friendship you have. now i dnt think he wants you to have an abortion. mibi he wants a baby?? but obv yes there are all the risks of std's and all that lol just do what u feel comportable with. xxxxxxxxxxxx

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Posted: 01-29-08 12:26pm

Ayrshire-lass wrote:

krystineM i think what you said was a lill un called for. you can still love your friend when theres a conection it just means that you dnt want to go too far incase you lose all friendship you have.

now i dnt think he wants you to have an abortion. mibi he wants a baby??
but obv yes there are all the risks of std's and all that lol just do what u feel comportable with.

xxxxxxxxxxxx

It doesn't sound like he wants a baby! It sounds like he wants to have sex without protection but he doesn't want to face the consequences if she were to become pregnant.

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Posted: 01-29-08 12:27pm

Ayrshire-lass wrote:

ok maybe it was harsh, but you kno what its the truth.
teens these days have sex like they breathe air! Friends with Benifits, what do you think that mean? Do you honestly think that if your that other friend that this guy is only gonna be a benifit to you? Come on now, Friends with Benifits which means theres alot more girls out there hes probably hooking up with too. I dont kno what sex means to you, but to me its a special bond not just something two ppl do. Friends or not. Ya maybe its harsh, but its strictly the truth.

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Posted: 01-29-08 12:30pm


well you cant just say that he will have others. mibi think she might as well? i'm preg with my best mates baby. we did love each other at one point but we were never dating. we just cared about each other soo much and now we would rather be best mates than being in a relationship. its just the way it workd out. at least i know he wont dump me for a girl hahaha

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Posted: 01-29-08 12:50pm


yea i know i had a friend with benefits and he wasnt the only one lol im just say obv there are a hell of alot of people out there who take sex differently to what i do. you being one. and i honnor that. but i'm from a small island than yours lol quite a bit smaller lol and well its normal to have casaul sex like everywkend for a teenager here lol.

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Posted: 01-29-08 12:54pm


...and that is how girls get pregnant and get herpes and cervical cancer....

Aunt WeeWee

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Posted: 01-29-08 14:43pm

Ayrshire-lass wrote:

Thank You!!!!

Jus 2 make things a lil clearer.... We R very close, always there 4 each otha, always got each othas back, we talk bout everything. Hes the kinda friend dat knos everythin bout me, & I kno everythin bout him! I do have feel-ns 4 him & we have talked bout b-n n a relationship, but its jus not the right step right now!!!!!

Its not like I jus met him & jumped n bed w/ him........

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Posted: 01-29-08 15:01pm


...so sleeping with him is easier even though its not the right time or 'step' for a relationship? i dont kno maybe im just used to being in a relationship with my fiance and having sex with him...friends with benifits...the things kids come up with and do these days..wow!

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Posted: 01-29-08 15:26pm


krystineM, you are absolutely right. For everyone else, what is the "benefit" for the girl in friends with benefits?

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Posted: 01-29-08 15:33pm

Aunt WeeWee wrote:

Rest assured, it is NEVER the right time for sexually transmitted diseases or unplanned pregnancy either.

Sex isn't the answer. But if you are having sex with him, WEAR A CONDOM!

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Posted: 01-29-08 15:46pm


ya definately if their just a friend with benifits, that friend could be carrying something..then when you are 'ready' to have a relationship not a "friend with benifits" you'll have to explain to someone that you have an STD of some kind... if your not ready for a relationship, to me it sounds like your not ready for sex either if you have to question using a condom while having sex with a person who is just a friend.

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Posted: 01-29-08 20:04pm


To the Op (whom I can barely understand...) If he wants to have sex with you without a condom, two things need to happen. 1. YOU need to get on some form of birth control. Pills, Depo, the Patch, whatever. Why? Because even if he "just sticks it in" you can STILL become pregnant!! Precum oozes out of the penis before he ejaculates, and this precum can have semen in it which will make you pregnant. NEVER stick a naked penis in a vagina if you're not on birth control UNLESS you want a baby. 2. HE needs to get tested for STDs. All of them. Except the ones that men cannot be tested for - like HPV which can give YOU cervical cancer and YOU can die!! HPV is extremely common. NEVER stick a naked penis in a vagina if you're not 100% sure he is STD free!! So since men can't be tested for HPV, we need to add a step 3: 3. YOU need to go get the HPV injection, which will protect you from contracting a few varieties of HPV - namely the ones that cause cervical cancer. But it doesn't protect against ALL kinds of HPV! OOOOOOOOR..... He can keep a condom on his penis. Your decision.

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Posted: 01-31-08 00:44am

I want this on a bumper sticker!

Eiri wrote:

NEVER stick a naked penis in a vagina if you're not on birth control UNLESS you want a baby.
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Posted: 01-31-08 15:27pm


"Friends with benefits" aside, you shouldn't have sex with a man unless a- you know he is clean and NOT seeing anyone else b- you are protected from std's and pregnancy (yes, condoms) c- you are prepared for what might happen if a and b fail- a kid or a disease, you could be stuck with either. If you are, then go ahead, have sex all you want! But protect yourself. Protect your mind too. Don't get attached to a guy who's not attached to you- especially if he thinks you'll always be around just for the "benefits"