crazyinluvwitchu
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new boyfriend and ex-boyfriend?!
Posted: 01-31-08 04:00am
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okay..a while back when I was a freshman
in highschool. I dated a senior for a GOOD
5 months...
everything was going good.and we both
liked eachother.MORE LIKE LOVED
EACHOTHER.
then suddenly he had to leave to another
place that was far from me..AT that time I
wasn't ready for a long distance
relationship.
so we just had to end it.
I was so heartbreaking....but the only
thing to do.!.he was the first guy I was
in LOVE with.
I know if we did a long distance
relationship I wouldn't have nothing to
worry about!.like with him cheatong on
me!.
he's so faithful,honest,he was so perfect
to me!......
but I wasn't ready for the distance
thing!....
well I haven't seen him until
now...it's probably been like about 5
years.
we never communicated until my senior
year..well he just emailed me..txt'd
me...but we never talked on the fone.
well in highschool, I wasn't that
onterested in dating anymore...I always
told myself that he was comming
back!.....
but when junior came..I started dating
other people..IT WASNT THE SAME!.....
then after graduation, people told me
that he was comming back to stay here....
so I was happy!....
so we again started communicating,telling
eachother that we loved one another[during
summer]..
then another guy started hitting on me..
so I did a little flirting..then next
thing you know..we're dating.
so now..I"m dating this guy!..
we've been together for a pretty long time
now...
and I do love this guy now!....
well I didnt really tell my ex anything
about this new guy..but it's obvious!.
I think he atleast has a clue that I have
a new BF.
anywais...my ex and i are still very
good friends......
we chat once in a while on myspace.
um?..this one time, my ex-boyfriend left
me a comment and he called me
SUNSHINE!.....
is that wrong?...
cause my boyfriend saw that and he got
mad.....
we got into a huge argument...he says that
he doesn't want to be to0 over-protective
with me...but it seemed wrong to him!...
well I aint stupid to run off with my
ex..
I really do love this new guy I'm with.and
I know he loves me!......
but what should I do?...
any suggestions??????
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unnamedny
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Posted: 01-31-08 07:42am
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"I really do love this new guy I'm
with.and I know he loves me!"
Please never say that, I have a friends
who is in their 40's and what they told me
that they've been living with the wifes
for over twenty years and still don't know
everything about them.
Jealousy does not lead people anywhere.
What you should do is to tell the new guy
that he is just your friend and you know
him much longer than him, if he has an
issue with that you have to think about
your relationship.
should you break up and go for your ex
again. I don't think so. He knows if you
are not with him that you might be with
another guy, I don't see anything wrong
with that. If he is mature enough then he
understands that.
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Posted: 01-31-08 11:40am
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You have a very strange view of what love
is.
Anyways, why haven't you already told the
ex you're with someone else? In my opinion
thats the worst thing that could have
happened.
And since you are in love with the guy you
are with currently then why is it even a
question? Tell the old guy you're with
someone else and make sure he gets that
you two(The ex and yourself) are just
friends. Then you go to the guy you love
and tell him the ex is a friend and that
you have no control over what he calls
you.
The main thing in my opinion is making it
clear to the ex that he is just that,
you're ex. Anything else and you're
leading him on-- which you have been
doing. Tell him whats really going on.
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crazyinluvwitchu
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Posted: 01-31-08 18:26pm
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basically..the ex-boyfriend and I are just
very go0d friends..
we've been very go0d friends even beofre
we started dating..
then now that we broke up.
we're still very go0d friends.....
I guess it'S hard for the new boyfriend
to be kool with that.
he says that he's just scared to get his
heart-broken.but I'm not like that.
I've been cheated on..but never cheated on
any guy I've been with.
well I know how it feels to get your
heart-brokn, and it hurts...that's why I
dont wanna do that to my boyfriend......
I dont know how to show him that I really
do care about him..
and I only wanna be with him..
NO ONE ELSE!
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lele25
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Posted: 02-08-08 15:28pm
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Crazy...as you know, I've responded to a
lot of your previous posts and I was just
wondering if this "new" guy is the same
one who you were so in love with a few
weeks ago and wanted to help quit smoking.
From what I'm reading on here you are now
with a different guy and you are so in
love with him and he with you, and it
seems to me that you may be confusing lust
for love.
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crazyinluvwitchu
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Posted: 02-10-08 00:21am
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| lele25
wrote: | | Crazy...as you know, I've
responded to a lot of your previous posts
and I was just wondering if this "new" guy
is the same one who you were so in love
with a few weeks ago and wanted to help
quit smoking. From what I'm reading on
here you are now with a different guy and
you are so in love with him and he with
you, and it seems to me that you may be
confusing lust for
love. |
oh..no..no..no..
sorry..my bad......
I"m still with the same guy...you
know...the one I wanted to help with the
smoking thing...
well yeah....
and sorry about this whole confusion
thing..
but I was just straight out with him..
and now everything's ok.....
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Little Miss Oops
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Posted: 02-12-08 13:50pm
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Love is something that LASTS FOREVER not
something that just dies or bounces from
one person to another.
Your aren't in love you are in lust. like
i said before- love is something to be
treasured not thrown out there to save a
relationship or to use to your advantage.
love comes from the heart and from what i
have read you are not in love.
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Posted: 02-27-08 15:57pm
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| cassie K
wrote: | Love is something that LASTS
FOREVER not something that just dies or
bounces from one person to another.
Your aren't in love you are in lust. like
i said before- love is something to be
treasured not thrown out there to save a
relationship or to use to your advantage.
love comes from the heart and from what i
have read you are not in
love. |
thatbeing said, how long have you actually
been with this new guy?
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crazyinluvwitchu
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Posted: 02-27-08 18:37pm
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| ~*~Melissa~*~
wrote: | | cassie K
wrote: | Love is something that LASTS
FOREVER not something that just dies or
bounces from one person to another.
Your aren't in love you are in lust. like
i said before- love is something to be
treasured not thrown out there to save a
relationship or to use to your advantage.
love comes from the heart and from what i
have read you are not in
love. |
thatbeing said, how long have you actually
been with this new
guy? |
MELiSSA.....
I do agree...
LOVE does die....
well I've been with this new guy for
about a year now......
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lele25
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Posted: 02-27-08 21:58pm
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Yes deffinately love can die....divorce is
a fine example
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Little Miss Oops
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Posted: 02-28-08 15:58pm
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| ~*~Melissa~*~
wrote: | | cassie K
wrote: | Love is something that LASTS
FOREVER not something that just dies or
bounces from one person to another.
Your aren't in love you are in lust. like
i said before- love is something to be
treasured not thrown out there to save a
relationship or to use to your advantage.
love comes from the heart and from what i
have read you are not in
love. |
thatbeing said, how long have you actually
been with this new
guy? |
then you weren't actually in love. i
believe (as i say it is MY belief) that
when you fall in love it does indeed last
for ever. and just because you get a
divorce doesn't mean you fall out of love.
it's not a fine example because there are
many things that have to deal with
divorce. like cheating or other things
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 02-29-08 09:43am
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Let me rephrase that then, You CAN fall
OUT of love with that person but it
doesn't always mean you still don't love
them.
I have been in love yes and I have fallen
out of it too.Maybe when you get a bit
older you will see.
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Little Miss Oops
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Posted: 02-29-08 15:28pm
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are you saying just because i am only 17
that i don't understand it? if so that is
not the case. and like i said it WAS MY
BELIEF!
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 03-03-08 07:56am
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Chill. Don't take things so offensively.
With age comes experience my love.
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Little Miss Oops
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Posted: 03-03-08 12:53pm
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i'm trying not to but all of you "older"
people think that just because we are
young or younger than you that we don't
know alot of things. just because we are
of a younger generation doesn't mean we
are stupid. sorry if i sounded rude but
every where i turn just because i am 17
people automatically think i am stupid in
everything like knowledge and experience.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 03-03-08 14:03pm
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Oh no, I never said you were stupid. I
just know that I use to think the same way
when I was your age. Keep in mind i'm not
*too* much older than you but with age
comes experience. I definitely do NOT
think your stupid in anyway, you just
don't have a lot of experience yet is all.
Please do not take that offensively. I
wasn't trying to tell you that you were
wrong so maybe I should have rephrased
that a bit 
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Little Miss Oops
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Posted: 03-03-08 14:11pm
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lol yea you should have thanks though lol
sorry for sounding like a butt hehe
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