Ilovejulietannafaye
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Posted: 01-31-08 09:01am
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What is the best age gap to have between
your children.. my bf wants me to get
pregnant.. when it is safe for me to
immediately after this one... My darn
emotions can not handle that.. What do you
guys think?
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SamanthaM
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Posted: 01-31-08 09:04am
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My little boys are only 11 months and 1
week apart. I would not suggest getting
pregnant right away. Unless your child is
really independent, it will be pretty
difficult. My youngest is 9 months old now
and it is easier now, but it can still be
difficult at times.
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Becky
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Posted: 01-31-08 09:12am
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my kids are just over 10 months apart. i
love it that way but i don't think it will
be for everyone. It is hard having two in
nappies/diapers etc but my two are really
close and good friends
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SamanthaM
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Posted: 01-31-08 09:14am
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| Becky
wrote: | | my kids are just over 10
months apart. i love it that way but i
don't think it will be for everyone. It is
hard having two in nappies/diapers etc but
my two are really close and good
friends |
That is one thing that is good about it.
They are usually closer. Alex isn't really
old enough to be able to tell if they are
going to be close, but I hope so. I can
tell he is going to look up to Ethan
though. He crawls around following him all
day! 
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Ilovejulietannafaye
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Posted: 01-31-08 09:16am
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Well. It might be a good thing. I know I
can handle it.. but.. the money and
things.. I just want to make sure that we
will be ok with the first one..
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SamanthaM
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Posted: 01-31-08 09:23am
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| Ilovejulietannafaye
wrote: | | Well. It might be a good
thing. I know I can handle it.. but.. the
money and things.. I just want to make
sure that we will be ok with the first
one.. |
If you are worried about money DO NOT get
pregnant again. It is very expensive to
raise two babies!
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sick_mama17
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Posted: 01-31-08 09:30am
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I think a bigger age gap is best,
personally. Like 5yrs or more. As far as
them being close I think it really depends
on their personalities NOT their age. I
know siblings 20 yrs apart and are really
close, and some 1-2yrs apart who hate
eachother (as adults). Although I do
think its easier for the parents having
them close in age as they play with/amuse
eachother so you dont have to as much, and
you get past the sleepless nights,
diapers, etc all the stages all at
once....well not exactly at once but you
go through those stages around a similar
time with both.
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Becky
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Posted: 01-31-08 09:34am
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i am really close to my sister and we are
17 years apart. I think it does depend on
the kids you are right. My sister and
layla get on sometimes but then argue and
bicker and there is 4 years between them.
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sweet_mom
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Posted: 01-31-08 10:12am
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I heard from my prenatal doctor that it is
best to wait 2 years between kids to let
your body completely heal.
It probably wouldn't really hurt you to
have another baby a year after the
first,but the doctor said 2 years is the
perfect amount of healing time.
And about the siblings being closer due to
age,my older brother is 18 months older
than I am and we NEVER got along until I
moved out and had my son(now we get along
really well)my younger brother is 18
months younger than I am and we never
really got along either until now.My
sister is 7 years older than I am and we
never got along either,we were too far
apart in age,we weren't interested in the
same things.So I think it all depends on
the child's personality and how they
interact with each other.It's not always
easier with them really close in age,and
it's not always easier with kids farther
apart in age.It all depends on your kids.
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Ilovejulietannafaye
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Posted: 01-31-08 10:42am
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That is like my sister and I she is 37 and
I am 19 and we get along great. My little
brother (17) and I fight all the time. We
can barely stand each other most times.
So.. I know what you mean.. it all depends
on the kids
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Posted: 01-31-08 10:43am
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My son is soon to be 12 and my daughter is
5 and they get alone. I think though that
it has a lot to do with my son. He is just
very tolerant of younger children. He
really is good to her. He will sit with
her on the bus (even though he desperately
wants to sit with his friends) he plays
well with her. I am very glad.
I am now trying for one more and there
still will be an age gap but I think that
my daughter will make an excellent big
sister. Having this much space between
them for me has been a good thing. I was
able to give each of them the time and
attention they needed without taking away
from another little one. But like I said
that is my preference. i am in no way
implying that any of you girls on here
have not given your kids attention. All
your kids are very close and I think
that's great.
Another thing is my kids now are terrific
helpers. So when I do have another one I
know that I have an extra set of hands or
two.
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sick_mama17
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Posted: 02-03-08 13:06pm
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| Shanyan
wrote: | | Having this much space
between them for me has been a good thing.
I was able to give each of them the time
and attention they needed without taking
away from another little
one. |
Thats really important to me too. Ever
since having Jay, I've felt like im so
glad I can give him my full complete
attention, especially the times he needs
it even more like when hes sick etc, no
demanding baby/toddler younger child to
have to share my time with. I can focus
100% on him and his needs. Thats one of my
main reasons for thinking a 5 year age gap
minimum is best. Once they are a bit older
they become more independent, can do more
things for themselves, and dont rely on
you as much, so then you have more time to
concentrate on a baby, and still have time
for the older child for playing
games/helping with homework etc.
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Posted: 02-03-08 20:56pm
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no no sense at all plus she says she is
like 7 weeks along but then made another
thread saying i havent felt the baby
move??????
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ilovemyfishies81
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Posted: 02-03-08 21:07pm
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wow he sounds like my husband lol i want
to wait 2 years and he says as soon as i
get my first period then he wants to try
for another
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AyaMiyaki
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Posted: 02-03-08 21:09pm
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She said she's around 20 weeks in a
previous post. I'm not sure where 7 weeks
is coming from.
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CaNdItAs CrAzY LaNd
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Posted: 02-03-08 21:46pm
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i put wrong post here sorry my bad long
night ugh kids
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