sex, lies, and myspace drama Posted: 01-31-08 13:36pm
ok here goes. First, I'm no spring
chicken, I've had my heart broken enough
to know quite a bit. I'm just venting so i
can stop hurting, and maybe someone else
can read this and get helped. I've known a
girl for 15 years, love her very much,
we've went our seperate ways, but found
each other again . We both love each
other, or at least she says so. She's the
most honest person I've ever met,
but.........she just stopped calling,
stopped texting, stopped e-mails, just
went cold, unexpectedly, out of the blue,
things we're great just the day before . I
did get 2 messages that she says sh'es
been really busy, yadda yadda. I'm not
stupid though, she's been busy, thats not
new. What is new is the new friend on
myspace who's been real busy posting
comments allmost simultaneously, so
obviously she's not too busy for him. so
there is the question of honesty. My
conclusion, this is just her way of
dealing with whatever is going on in her
heart. At the same time she doesn't want
to hurt me with the truth, or.... she's
confused..... or this woman who is
independent, hard working, smart, honest
on and on.....is totally full of you know
what. it really came from nowhere.......
and thats why I'm puzzled, .any
comments, advice, insults..etc?
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young Girl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Jun 2007 Posts: 13932 Location: everythings better in, texas USA
Posted: 01-31-08 13:41pm
well heres the thing with women
she...
1. might be confused and doesnt know how
else to handle it
2.she might be trying to move on and this
is the only way she knows how (perhaps she
did find or is into someone else and she
doesnt want to hurt you?)
if i were you in all honesty, talk to her.
ask her tf is going on? tell her how your
feeling and tell her you just want to know
the truth. you deserve it. you dont
deserve t o be hurt manipulated and lied
to
you deserve to know what is going on
reguardless of if it hurts you or not
bewcause in the end NOT knowing will hurt
you even more
let me know if you need anything
-suzy
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j-dub
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Jan 2008 Posts: 4
Posted: 01-31-08 13:50pm
I actually did message her that allmost
verbatum, because things were good, i was
good, so i thought i deserved the truth,
and hopefully a quick closure,... We don't
argue, so its not like sh'e avoiding that
, I don't understand why she can't just
puick up the phone just once.. really once
for two minutes and tell me anything,
anything at all, even if its a lie, I'll
know that in a half second, that would
suffice a reason to move on.... should I
anyways? its sad but I sound like her ex
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j-dub
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Jan 2008 Posts: 4
Posted: 01-31-08 13:52pm
btw, i think its a combo of one and two
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Blue Tink
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jan 2008 Posts: 7 Location: ,
Posted: 01-31-08 17:12pm
Ya, it sounds like she is just keeping you
as a fall back. I'm a woman so i know the
signs. I culd be wrong. I was messing with
my ex husband and another guy the only
diffrence was other guy was told if he
wanted to stay that was cool if not then
oh well. My ex husband on the other hand
had no clue of wat i was doing.. DEATH
would have came to me early. so i just
kind of let it ride till someone got tired
of waiting. Go out have fun don't stay
attached to something that has gone on for
15 years with no stability.. Good luck!
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luvabulheadache
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Feb 2008 Posts: 2 Location: Ohio, United States
wait Posted: 02-12-08 09:33am
Dont use all your time trying to fix a
relationship, then you'll end up ruining
it. Let it go and wait till she comes
around.
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j-dub
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Jan 2008 Posts: 4
Posted: 02-14-08 06:53am
thanks all for the advice. I did just
that, let it go, just sucked it up and
stayed nice and cool. She came back around
after several days with some issues not
discussed. So, We have to both communicate
better. The stranger is nothing. Maybe
he had a chance , but now I'm the one with
the oppurtunity. That's why I love advice
from women. Thanks again.
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backpain1955
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Jan 2008 Posts: 69
Posted: 02-14-08 07:18am
Don't hold your breath. If she is that
fickle, manipulative, and immature, this
behavior will repeat itself eventually.
She may be fun for a date but if you are
looking for a serious relationship this
spells disaster. Enjoy her for what she
is but don't make more of the relationship
than flirting or casual sex. Move on in
your life and explore other possibilities.
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bbfeet9
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Feb 2008 Posts: 62 Location: ,
Posted: 02-14-08 08:48am
Could be this "my space friend" wasn't
interested after all. So girlfriend knew
she had you waiting in the wings. What if
"my space friend" gave the go sign? Where
would you be right now? Probably on the
outside looking in. I HAtE that damn my
space any way. It amazes me that grown
educated adults play around on that site.
Anyway, look out. If girlfriend did this
once, she'll probably do it again. I would
not trust her at all.
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