love_pinkish
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Why Do Some Men Hide Coversations ?
Posted: 01-31-08 13:39pm
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Feel the need to walk out the house to
have a conversation with someone? It's
very confusing to me.  I
feel like if there's noise like a lot of
people talking that's fine. But we don't
have children and it's just me and him.
That makes me think that he's hiding
something and trying to keep something
away from me. I'm always having
conversations in front of him and the
minute I walk out to go in the room or
something it's like I'm trying to hide
something from him, which is not the
case.
Has any one felt that way or have
experienced something like that?
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love_pinkish
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Posted: 01-31-08 14:26pm
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If I ask him he'll say something like I
don't trust him. It's happened before. I
just don't question him about it anymore.
I just wanted to know from other people.
That's all
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Posted: 01-31-08 14:41pm
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I do that subconsciously - I think I will
be disturbing the other person's peace, tv
watching or whatever.
I don't think you should make too much of
it. Maybe he just likes his own space!
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Posted: 01-31-08 14:46pm
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He may not be trying to hide something.
Maybe he just prefers to have telephone
conversations in private. My husband goes
outside when on the phone too, but that is
usually because he wants to smoke while he
is on the phone. but I also think that
because he doesnt talk on the phone that
often, maybe he feels self concious about
talking on the phone in front of you??? I
dont know, but unless you have other
suspisions or reasons not to trust him, i
would just let this go. Is it really a
big deal if he wants to talk in private?
Does he at least tell you who he was
speaking with? I would try to relax about
it. Good luck 
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Posted: 01-31-08 14:48pm
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I would wonder too.. If my Husband tried
not to talk with me around I would go with
my gut feeling that he didn't want me to
hear.. After all if I don't want my
husband to hear what I'm saying I leave
the room he is in.. Not that I do, but if
there was a surprise for him or
something..
I'm sorry he might be space but I would
wonder why.
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love_pinkish
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Posted: 01-31-08 14:58pm
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I'm not trying to make a big deal about
it. I am just wondering why too. That's
all. He doesn't smoke or anything and
when he did it it was pouring rain
outside. I think it may have been one of
his friends. He's like a advise giver to
them all. He use to could tell me
everything about what's going on with his
friends. Sometimes I feel left out
because his friends are mine. IDK maybe
i'm just over reacting. *sighs*
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Posted: 02-02-08 18:53pm
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I always leave the room when I answer the
phone.Half the time it's because I don't
want to disturb my boyfriend while he
watches TV.
I wish my boyfriend would do the same for
me,his phone rings off the hook sometimes!
Constantly ringing at all hours of the day
and sometimes night,because of his job. I
don't like being in the same room because
I want to know that he trusts me,and I
want him to know that I trust him.It's a
weird way to show trust I know,but if he
comes into the room and starts talking
about what was said over the phone then I
know he trusts me and I do the same with
him.
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Posted: 02-03-08 18:31pm
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that makes since sweet_mom.
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Posted: 02-04-08 00:30am
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take it from a guy...
we LOVE our own space some times.. ever
heard of a man's den?
We may love you and want to share our
lives with ya but I think every
individaul- man or woman- needs their own
bubble sometimes thats just theirs where
they can get a breather from everything
and just think.
fyi* i go outside too when im on the
phone, its just one of the quirks of being
a guy
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Posted: 02-04-08 10:20am
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it's not just guys who do it!
I'm constantly walking outside,it's gotten
to be such a habit that I find myself
walking outside in -40 weather with no
shoes,just to freeze my toes and run
inside for shoes!
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Posted: 02-04-08 11:55am
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I saw my bro do this last night!
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Hmmm?
Posted: 05-31-08 19:23pm
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I think you should go with your gut
instinct. You wouldn't be asking here if
you didn't suspect something else was
going on. Does he ever mention who he
talked to or mention why they called? Does
he get defensive if you ask? If he wants
to have your trust he won't get it by
being secretive or saying you should trust
me.. People have to earn your trust. From
experience, I tried to understand my ex
and thier need for privacy, but it turned
out they were just hiding stuff from me.
I'm not saying you should be privey to
everything they talk about with friends,
but if this behavior is frequent, and
unecessary ( a friend is not condifing
something too him) I would be concerned.
When both parties are open, and sharing it
builds security and trust. My ex never
admitted to wrong doing even when
confronted with suspicions then catching
them in a lie. But it didn't matter if I
was right or wrong. For what ever reason I
could not trust them so I ended it.
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Posted: 06-03-08 21:03pm
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i dunno..i agree with sapphic if hes
defensive or weird if you simply ask "who
was that" then it might be a problem..but
sometimes people just like privacy when on
the phone...
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Posted: 06-03-08 21:29pm
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well since we've talking about it he knows
i have a problem with that type of stuff.
So, it's been a long time since he has
done it. thanks for you responses.
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