Im out htis month...and HOLY COW are the
cramps horrible. I came home from the gym
yesterday and about an hour later my
cramps started and were horrible. I still
didn't start till early in the morning. I
woke up at 6:30 and I had started full
force.
So I cried to my mom today about how I am
never going to get pregnant. And she told
me that it took her a year to get pregnant
with me. And it wasnt until she just gave
up and accepted the fact that she wasnt
going to have a baby that she found out
she was pregnant. She moved to a
different country and just thought that
she needed to get used to her new
life...and bam she was pregnant.
Now I am even more confused as to what to
do. I went to the gyno yesterday for my
last repeat pap from my treatment for hpv
and I talked to her about whats going on.
I asked if she thought if clomid was a
good idea. She said that dh needs to get
tested first and he is, he is going next
wednesday for his sperm analysis. And she
told me to let her know of the results and
based it, she will decide to write me a rx
for clomid or look at something else.
So thats a good step, but like everyone
always says...stop trying to get pregnant,
and you will get pregnant. So now what do
I do? Do I go ahead with the clomid route
after dh SA? Or just give up and not try
anymore?
I dont know what to do. I have invested
way to much time and emotion to just give
it up. HOw do you just give up? It will
be extremely hard to just give up without
even trying the clomid.
I am sooooo sorry that af showed I really wish that
I knew what to say to make you feel better
but I honestly don't think that anything
could.
If it were me I would definitely give the
clomid a try. What do you have to lose?
Plus there are many women who got their
BFP's after being on it. Maybe your body
just needs this extra push. I don't blame
you for not wanting to give up yet. But
maybe when you take the clomid kinda try
to have a "if it happens, it happens"
sorta attitude. I know easier said than
done.
I just wanna give you a big ((HUG)) right
now. If you ever want to talk Heather just
pm me.....I'm here whenever you need me.
Good luck and let me know what happens
with your dh. (that's if you want to)
Shannah
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shortgeek
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Posted: 02-03-08 09:12am
Sorry about af and those bad cramps. PMS
cramps are the worst when ttc because I
feel like I can't take the Midol or
Pamprin until after af starts. Tylenol
just doesn't cut it.
I think the idea that you have to stop
trying to get pregnant is caused by a
selection bias. All the women that this
worked for like to sing its praises, but
we never hear from the women that this
didn't work for. It could be that the
odds are really a lot lower than
perceived.
I say give clomid a chance. My dh wanted
to go the clomid way, but our doctors
wanted to do all the tests first. If you
get pg on clomid that you've saved
yourself some time.
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RachieBaby82
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Posted: 02-03-08 09:57am
I'm so, so sorry about af, hunny... Please don't give
up, though, you WILL get your bfp one day
& you WILL have a baby. How long have
you been trying for? I am so sorry you're
having to go through such a frustrating
time right now...but you seem like such a
sweet person and I am going to keep my
fingers & toes crossed for you until
you get your bfp!! Keep your chin up...
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acruz
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Posted: 02-03-08 12:16pm
Im sorry honey!! ((HUGS)) You know I am
always here if you want to talk Heather!!!
You will be such a good mommy and it will
happen when the time is right, I promise.
Keep your chin up!!
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Posted: 02-03-08 17:01pm
THanks girls. I am still thinking that I
will go the clomid route providing that dh
SA comes back ok. I am going to go in it
like if it happens it will happen like
Shannah said.
I am just coming to the realization that
we really need to get our finances in
order. Dh has had a hard time getting
steady construction work right now, so we
need to worry about that right now. We
will get the prescription for clomid and
if it happens it happens.
Thanks for your kind words and thoughts.
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girlfromdasticks
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Posted: 02-04-08 14:46pm
Aww. I am so sorry. I know that you
always here the same things over and over,
but you guys are going to get so lucky one
of these months and get your bfp. And you
will be an awesome mom. Don't give
up....and don't stress about it. Good
luck!!
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RachieBaby82
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Posted: 02-04-08 14:57pm
You're such a strong chickie, Heather! I
just know you're going to get your bfp one
of these days...probably when you least
expect it!
What helps me when I'm feeling a bit down
& impatient (granted I've only been
trying for one cycle - but I am UBER
impatient anyway! ) is to just try to
remind myself that everything I'm doing is
to help me get ready for when I *do* get
my bfp. Like, I started exercising, and
trying to lose weight...those are my
things I'm doing in the meantime to keep
me motivated to keep trying. When you and
dh sit down to talk about finances, just
think "We're doing this so when we DO get
pregnant (and you will!!), we'll be
golden!" I think it definitely helps to
say "when" instead of "if"...at least it
does for me.
Stay strong, girly...Tons & tons of
baby dust to you for next month!!
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DPrssd
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Posted: 02-04-08 14:57pm
I'm sorry girl
You know...I think it is next to
impossible to not think about TTC when you
are TTC! I'm SURE more women get pregnant
when they are actually trying, than not.
Think of how hard it is to catch the egg.
So try not to let it get you down. The
only kind of stress from TTC that could
prevent a BFP is stress that is so severe
it actually screws up your cycle. You are
regular and you are ovulating, so try not
to worry over that whole "take a break and
it will happen". You are doing everything
right. You are seeing your Doc regularly,
and asking all the right questions.
Once DH checks out, I say go for the
Clomid. It can't hurt.
Good luck girl. We're all here counting
the days with you.
Baby dust baby dust.
cheryl
I really wish that
I knew what to say to make you feel better
but I honestly don't think that anything
could.
) is to just try to
remind myself that everything I'm doing is
to help me get ready for when I *do* get
my bfp. Like, I started exercising, and
trying to lose weight...those are my
things I'm doing in the meantime to keep
me motivated to keep trying. When you and
dh sit down to talk about finances, just
think "We're doing this so when we DO get
pregnant (and you will!!), we'll be
golden!" I think it definitely helps to
say "when" instead of "if"...at least it
does for me. 
