uncircumcized and embarrassed Posted: 02-02-08 22:54pm
This is bugging me. At any time I know
that I can have sex with her. But the
thing that is pulling me back is my
foreskin and that's why I'm just making up
excuses not to have sex. I know pretty
much all the guys in my school are
circumsized and dont have a foreskin, and
I'm sure she has never seen one with a
foreskin before. And I'm really scared
that when we're gonna do it I'm gonan pull
my pants down and shes ognna think it's
like nasty and weird looking. Plus then I
know evetually after that people will find
out and will make fun of me.
I don't know, I wish I could just get
circumsized, but my mom said not until I'm
18. =[
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unnamedny
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Posted: 02-03-08 01:42am
trust me, no one really cares. If she
does. she does not deserve you.
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JacobRyan
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Posted: 02-03-08 03:19am
It shouldn't really matter. Some
circumcized guys actually would prefer not
to be.
How old are you?
If you are with someone who cannot accept
your body for what it is, do you really
want to be with them?
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Galaxy
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Posted: 02-03-08 05:20am
What are the statistics for this? I would
be surprised if most guys are circumcised.
I am sure that most people would have no
preference, so long as you take care of it
and practise good hygiene, as smegma can
have future health implications for
females.
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Galaxy
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Posted: 02-03-08 06:00am
Okay, I just checked and it seems that
around 80% of males in the US are
circumcised but in the UK (where I lve) it
is only about 20%.
Many men report that after having a late
circumcision (ie in adulthood) they
experience a loss of sensitivity so take
more advice on this before making a
decision!
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Catcher
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Posted: 02-03-08 11:31am
I'm 15.
I do clean it and wash it, everyday. And
it doesn't smell. I know she really cares
about me and won't dumpo me for it. But I
don't want her or me to be embarrsed.
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MiseEire
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Posted: 02-03-08 14:46pm
If this is something you will definitely
do after you're 18, you may as well get
the circumcision ASAP. Why put up with
three years of worry? It would also help a
lot in terms of your sex life because you
will need to become used to the changes.
It's better to get it over and done with
now then waiting until you're 18.
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LadyAllie
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Posted: 02-03-08 16:32pm
ok, this isnt the mens chat, so i shouldnt
get kicked out for this. lol.
really, as long as you keep it clean she
shouldnt care. my boyfriend isnt
circusmcsized, and he just came out and
told me. its totally not a problem, and i
was never grossed out by it. as long as he
keeps it clean its totally fine!
there isnt anything wrong with being
uncircumsized, some guys are and some guys
arent. try just telling her, and if she
has a problem with it, she isnt worth it.
if she really cares about you and/or loves
you, she wont care if you have a foreskin.
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Mommy35
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Posted: 02-03-08 16:39pm
unnamedny
wrote:
trust me, no one really
cares. If she does. she does not deserve
you.
Agreed 100%
Hopefully she hasn't seen so many penises
that she would have a lot to compare to
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fiona05
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Posted: 02-03-08 21:15pm
Being worried that other people might
think having a foreskin is weird is not a
good enough reason to cut it off. when i
was 15 i was still very much influenced by
the things my friends and peers did but
when you get a bit older this changes. i
think your mum is right, you should wait
before making such a rash decision. i did
a lot of stupid things when i was 15 that
i wish i hadn't done. dude, think about
it. you can always cut it off, you can
NEVER put it back. you could reach 20, 25,
even 30 and think wow what the hell did i
do that for??
if your foreskin is not causing you any
medical problems then leave it where it
is! if your girlfriend cares about you
then she won't mind at all. and if she is
smart she will know that having a foreskin
is in fact normal and natural.
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PhantomHunta
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Posted: 02-04-08 11:04am
if your girlfriend loves you, why should
she care? a penis is a penis. circumsized
or not it is still a penis. and i agree
with what unnamedny said, if she does care
about the fact that you are not
circumsized, she doesnt deserve you.
but the only way you will find out of she
does care. is tell her. you cant go on
worrying forever. thiers no use putting it
off =]
...but the only way you
will find out of she does care. is tell
her. you cant go on worrying forever.
thiers no use putting it off
=]
I second that And you may want
to try to tell her first, if you think by
unzipping ur pants might scare her, but
really, there should be no problem if she
really cares about you.
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marvel
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Posted: 03-11-08 16:16pm
It really should be a non-issue.
Seriously, it's a piece of skin. You said
yourself you don't smell down there, so
chances are she won't care. If she does
care, she's too superficial to be your
girlfriend.
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PenguinsRus
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Posted: 03-11-08 16:20pm
She definitely shouldn't care. If she
does, you deserve much better than her.
It's just skin. You keep it clean and
healthy, so there shouldn't be an issue.
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sharpshooter153
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Don't worry pal Posted: 03-14-08 17:46pm
I'm from the UK and next to no ones
circumcised, so really really don't worry.
That could be the least of yr problems if
you're anything like me - haha! Check out
my blog prematureejaculation.blog.co.uk
it's a lighthearted look at the problem
and solutions. Please feel free to add
comments and words of wisdom - Craig
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coliejo
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Posted: 04-01-08 23:24pm
my bf is not circumsized adn when he did
tell me I ws like "so what?" I didnt think
it was a big deal and it was s relief for
him to tell me (he was nervous about it
too) I didnt go tell all my friends in
school because while some of my friends
would talk about things like that i would
just stay away from the conversations. I
loved hima nd did not want to embarass
him.
but you should realy think about it before
you get the circumcision done, like galaxy
said you could lose sensetivity
And you may want
to try to tell her first, if you think by
unzipping ur pants might scare her, but
really, there should be no problem if she
really cares about you.
