unprotected sex causing anxiety Posted: 02-04-08 11:07am
Hello everybody, i have been looking
online ALOT these days, because i am
scared that i may have been exposed to
HIV.
I get overwelmed speaking about it, and i
somtimes cannot get out what i would like
to very clearly. But ill try to explain.
I made the stupidest mistake of my life
about 3 months ago...and as you would
guess it, i am now facing the
consequences....or at least mental issues.
I am unsure, so i cannot step to any
conclusions, BUT....i am very worried of
the fact that i may have been exposed to
HIV.....I have asked the girl who i had
unprotected sex with, weather or not she
was HIV positive, and she told me NO, and
that she is tested regularly. BUT there
are two problems with that, FIRST, she
told me she goes for regular 6 month
checkups and tests at the doctor, and that
she has never had anything yet ( DESPITE
HER LIFESTYLE ) but i later read online
that not ONE test can test for all STDS OR
STIS, and so what she told me doesnt add
up. She said one sample of blood.
Also she has had cervical cancer in the
past, which is a result of some STDS isnt
it? also if she did develop cancer because
of a STD, how long would it take to get
cancer? IM hoping it may have just been
coinsidence.
Also, her respect for me after this
happening has REALLY gone down, and im
thinking even if she did have HIV, that
she is not being truthful.
I also have a question that i dont want
anybody to get to mad if i ask, but im
REALLY SCARED.......if i went to the
doctor, would they be able to tell me if
they knew she was HIV positive? i know its
confidential, but i mean they dont want it
spread, so you think they would.
Please help, im loosing sleep, scared all
the time, im in college now, and thinking
about leaving because i dont want to do
NOTHING if i know im going to die, im
living in depression......PLEASE HELP ME,
if any of you wouldf happen to have MSN,
and perhaps consider adding me so that i
can talk to sombody, this would really
help....i have called a few places hear
where im to, where there is supposed to be
a support group, but i have not had much
to do with it......and its a small
town......i cant so easily go for public
help about it.
Thank you very much.
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PRIVATE88
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Feb 2008 Posts: 5
Posted: 02-05-08 14:32pm
come on guys, is there any other websites
that are centered STRICTLY towards topic
of aids or HIV? with maybe some people to
talk to through chat?
THANK YOU VERY MUCH,
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whydidUlie
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 03 Feb 2008 Posts: 11
Posted: 02-05-08 23:56pm
I understand how scared you are!
Have you been to a doctor yet to get
tested? My health dept. did my test for
free.
Cervical cancer is indeed caused by an
STD. No, one test does not cover
everything out there. She's probably lying
to you, like mine was. I seriously doubt
that they would release her personal
medical information to you. That's against
HIPPA and they could get in big trouble if
they do. I know that's a crock of crap,
but it's the law.
She obviously doesn't deserve respect,
especially if she gave you hiv and never
told you that she had it. I don't know
what state you live in, but you can check
this link to see what your particular
state's law is:
I had a link that was a little more wordy
on the subject, but I'm having a hard time
locating this.
Stay strong and if you need to talk, I'm
here for you. I added you as a friend on
here. It seems like we are in similar
situations, so I can relate to everything
that you wrote. what is wrong with people
these days? She is playing with your life
just like my ex was. It's not fair and
they need to be stopped!
Please don't drop out of college. I
understand that this is very upsetting,
but try to maintain some sense of normalcy
to your life.
Why do you suspect she is hiv+? Why is she
at the doctor's all of the time. Is she
very sick? In all of the research that
I've been doing, it is harder for a man to
become hiv+ from a female to male. At
least you have that on your side.
I have yahoo messenger and will PM you
that info in a few minutes.
~~Right there with you in this craptastic
situation~~
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homerx
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Posted: 02-10-08 19:15pm
hivsupport
wrote:
Hi PRIVATE88,
I am sorry that you are going through this
but my advice can only be: Don't throw
away your life, stay in college! First you
don't know if you have contracted it for
sure, second even if you have, HIV these
days doesnt necessary equal death. HIV
patients can live long and normal lives.
I am currently working with a group of HIV
patients with their alternative therapy
using a herbal pill, which seem to be
effective in improving their CD4 and viral
load stats. There are absolutely no risk
of side effects and seem to work by
improving the patient's general well being
through improved energy level and
appetite. They are all very happy with
this therapy and saw gradual improvements
in their stats. They have agreed to post
their results online as long as their IDs
are concealed. You can have a look here:
http://www.hivsupport.c
o.uk/patients.php
Don't lose hope!
What you need to know is that there are
many things out there which are aimed to
help people with this problem and LOTS and
LOTS of research and being done to
develope a cure. Therefore you can not
lose hope!
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zorch
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Mar 2008 Posts: 2
SAME THING Posted: 03-04-08 03:10am
WOW YOU TOOK THE WORDS RIGHT OUT OF MY
MOUTH PRIVATE88..I AM GOING THROUGH A VERY
SIMILAR SITUATION...AND I WILL PRAY FOR
YOU!!!!DONT QUIT SCHOOL, I HAD THE SAME
FEELINGS BUT REMEMBER TWO THINGS
1) YOU WERE BRAVE ENOUGH TO CONTACT HER
AND HAVE ATLEAST SOME CONFRIMATION THAT
SHE WAS HIV NEGATIVE, I CANT EVEN BUILD UP
THE COURAGE TO DO THAT!!
2)OVER ANALYZING THINGS BY SEARCHING ON
THE INTERNET WONT HELP IN THE END, THE
BEST THING TO DO IS GO GET TESTED TAKE A
CLOSE FRIEND WITH YOU IF THAT HELPS. ONCE
AGAIN I HAVE A SIMILAR SITUATION TO YOUR'S
AND I TRULY FEEL FOR YOU BUT TRY TO
CONCENTRATE ON OTHER THINGS... AND PLEANTY
OF PEOPLE RESPOND TO OTHERS WHEN
APPROACHED ABOUT THE SEXUAL HEALTH VERY
NEGATIVLEY. AND SHAME ON THEM YOU WERE
ONLY SEEKING PEACE OF MIND AND IN THE END
IM SURE SHE WAS HAPPY YOU ARE HEALTH
CONCIOUS. ONCE AGAIN TRY TO SEEK A HIGHER
POWER AT THIS TIME TO RELEAVE YOUR
STRESS...AND GET TESTED
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Finess150
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Test Posted: 03-10-08 20:11pm
An HIV test after three months will
conclusively determine your HIV status.
One episode of unprotected sex does carry
risk, but do remember that infection per
episode is approximately 3% risk according
to various studies. That is NOT a reason
not to test, but it is a good way to see
things in perspective, and be aware that
in future, you MUST use a condom.
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