How to improve my social relations with others Posted: 02-05-08 01:18am
Hi everyone,
Recently I have just realized how I am
incapable of forming meaningful social
relations with others. I think that I may
even be bordering being a sociopath.
However, I managed to decide that I wanted
to change my unhealthy thoughts,
attitudes, behaviors, etc. and have truly
fulfilling social relations. What I need
is a step-by-step plan to gradually
increase my social abilities, thanks
everyone!
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JacobRyan
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Dec 2007 Posts: 142 Location: Ohio,
I know how you feel Posted: 02-05-08 01:44am
I find myself dodging social situations to
stay home and talk to people on forums. A
couple months ago a girl approached me and
said she saw me at work and waved, but
said I must not have seen her. Then she
invited me to sit with her and her
friends, but I replied "I am far too busy
at work to be waving to people..." and
turned back to my corner. That is the
first time anyone had spoken to me at
school that wasn't for a joint assignment
or project.
So, I think you know that means. It means
we've found step one.
1. Get a job, people will wave to you.
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MiseEire
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Jan 2008 Posts: 170
Posted: 02-05-08 15:18pm
What is it that makes you think you're a
sociopath? We all get a little bit Larry
David at times, this is common. What are
these unhealthy thoughts?
Some people are naturally cynical or
simply just analytical. The world throws
things at us and one perceives them in an
optimistic or pessimistic manner. I
consider myself to be a little more
pessimistic than the average person but
see no harm in it. Great people will show
you the optimistic side of life, you just
need to get out there and keep doing your
own thing. Develop interests, meet
like-minded people you respect and feel
comfortable with. There's no quick-fix
formula for this. Anyone who claims there
is is lying.
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MMAFighter
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Sep 2007 Posts: 362 Location: WA, USA
Posted: 02-05-08 18:30pm
oh, sometimes I feel uncomfortable around
other people and can't approach them, and
sometimes I take small things way too
seriosuly.
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Georgia59
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 5480 Location: Along the Mississippi, USA
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Posted: 02-12-08 17:17pm
MMA- do you mind if I move this (just
because it's not really about sexual
health)? Where do you think I should move
it to?
Here's what I'm thinking- first of all,
none of that means you are a sociopath.
Definitely not. Something else? Maybe.
Maybe you're just shy? Who am I to know.
Are you experiencing any other kinds of
symptoms?
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MMAFighter
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Sep 2007 Posts: 362 Location: WA, USA
Posted: 02-12-08 18:30pm
Maybe move this to relationships? That
would make more sense. The only weird
symptom I experience is competitiveness to
an extreme around attractive women as well
as aggressive feelings.
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Georgia59
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Joined: 11 Apr 2007 Posts: 5480 Location: Along the Mississippi, USA
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Posted: 02-12-08 23:47pm
Ok. that makes sense. I'll copy it there
and leave a shadow here.
