So ye I got the hots for this girl and I
think she likes me back in the same way
but she has been honest with me and told
me that she has got the herpes. We was
just discussing secrets one night after a
few drinks and she told me this.
I feel a right sado for letting this put
me off but it has and I have to be honest
with my self and admit that.
She told me that there is no way that
anyone who was sexual with her would get
it in less she was having a spade of it
and she always knows when that is
happening. And that girls get lots of
different problems down there anyway so
that's just something else that she has to
deal with from time to time as well.
When she fist told me I asked her what she
was doing to get rid of it. I was
surprised to fined that you can not get
rid of it and that she has this for life
I feel very sorry
for her as she is a really nice girl but I
don't think I could handle getting this
myself. I would hate her for it if I slept
with her and got this.
So what are the dangers of me getting this
and should I be worried about contracting
this from her. She has after all been
honest enough to have told me to truth and
to trust me with the truth to not tell
everyone.
I just cert imagine myself getting all
well you know with her cos I would be to
worried about getting it. It would always
be there in the back of my head niggling
away at me.
Am I going over the top here and is what
she says true that there is no way to get
it in less shes having a spade of it. I
read somewhere just now (not on here) That
condoms don't even protect against it as
it can be so contagious. I even read that
you can catch it from a toilet seat.
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Rosie H
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Posted: 02-11-08 12:25pm
You can get herpes from her at any time
whether she has an outbreak or not. The
virus is always in your body and it always
can be passed. There is no cure for
herpes. So any time you have sex with her
(even protected sex) there is a chance
that you could get it.
But there are ways to help prevent her
from passing it to you. The first and most
important is condoms and dental dams.
Herpes is spread by skin to skin contact
not by bodily fluids. There still is a
chance of getting herpes even if you wear
a condom, but condoms are still very
affective.
She can also take daily medication to
reduce her chances of having outbreaks and
of passing it to other people. The
medication combined with condoms can
protect you very well. But there is still
a chance. I know a couple who have been
married for 10 years and the wife is still
herpes free. So you still can have a fun
healthy sexual realtionship.
There is just a couple things you have to
think about. First how much do you care
for this girl. From what you have stated
you like her but the relationship hasnt
gotten any further than that. Now is the
time to ask yourself if YOU would be
willing to live with herpes. What if you
do have sex with her and a few months or
even years down the road you get it and
then you break up. Then you are stuck with
it and have to tell the next person you
are with. This is a huge commitment to
another person. but if in your heart you
know that you do not want herpes then I
suggest you tell her as soon as possible.
Do not lead her on. This could be very
difficult but you still have to look out
for yourself. i have herpes and I wish I
would have had the choice. Best wishes and
feel free to post. I know how hard this
can be. Maybe I can help
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just me.
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Joined: 05 Feb 2008 Posts: 2
Posted: 02-12-08 05:50am
man your post is much apprechated but at
the same time it saddens me cos I know in
my heart that I can not pursue this
relationship to any further then it is
right now.
Thanks for the reply. I have not had sex
with her. Basically I have been doing my
own research on this and everything you
said is basically what I have discovered
anyway. Apart from I have never heard of
dental dams.
In my heart I know I would blame her for
this if I got it. All tho it would not be
her fault as she has been honest with me.
I have to admit that I have been flirting
with her and her with me. That's going to
have to stop. Its not far on me or her.
God this is messed up man. I feel really
sad for her. Its easy for me just to say
err no I don't wont that I think I well
what for someone else.
How do I even stay friends with her when I
know I fancy the nickers of her but would
never dear touch her.
Your very brave and she is. God that
sounds like am patronizing you. Am not.
Thank you for your post. Its not what I
wanted to hear but is the truth and I have
to face some facts. what I feel its not
going to be as bad as how you and ppl like
this girl feels.
I well fined a way to be friends with her.
That I know.
Thanks again.
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Rosie H
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Joined: 11 Jun 2007 Posts: 1083 Location: Phoenix, AZ, USA
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Posted: 02-12-08 08:47am
please do not beat yourself up to much
about this. I think you are making the
right choice and I know that you feel the
same. You have been honest with her and
she has been honest with you and it just
isnt going to work. Sometimes that just
happens even if herpes isnt involved. What
matters most is that you are giving her
all the respect she deserves.
I know it will be hard for you to tell her
and there really is no easy way that I can
imagine, but just tell her how you feel.
She may need to accept that first but I
think its great that you too can be
friends again.
Give her support. She will find a special
someone. I did twice!
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I feel very sorry
for her as she is a really nice girl but I
don't think I could handle getting this
myself. I would hate her for it if I slept
with her and got this.
